am i just being nasty to find this annoying?

Question

my partner works nightshift and even if we see each other in afternoon he rings me at 6pm everynight and i am expected to answer. i used to find this sweet and even look forward to it but now i find it annoying most of the time cos i have to drop what i am doing and answer phone. i feel like..my life does not just stop at 6pm every night i am busy girl. so if i answer ..then cool. but i wont always. am i nasty?

Answer 1

I hate phones, especially when I am busy or in the middle of something. If you just saw him in the afternoon, then why call. Is he checking up on you? Unless he really has something important to say then he does not need to call.My step daughter is constantly calling her hubby on his cell when he works, and just says " what are you doing" what nonsense ( hes frickin working) If he must call tell him to call just before you go to bed to say goodnight , and then you can talk about things if something neat or important came up during the night.

Answer 2

Lots of things that you used to find cute are going to be the things that you will find annoying in the future. Marriage is like that. If you sit him down and explain to him that you no longer want him to call nightly, he will be upset. However, if you have a strong marriage, he will agree to stop calling every night at 6pm.
We can only hope that this best case senario works out so that you get what you want. We don't know, though, because we can't predict the future. For example, instead of you sitting him down and asking him to stop calling, he could die on the way home from work tonight; and you could spend the rest of your days crying because the phone no longer rings each night at 6pm.
The future is uncertain, so we should try to make the best of what we have today.

Answer 3

Sounds like my parents, LOL. My dad works a night shift, and he calls my mom everyday at around 7pm.

Talk to him and tell him you're not always able to answer the phone. Maybe you two should get cellphones so you can call each other whenever you can, and not the same time everyday.

Answer 4

Well, is he just doing it as a routine? Or does he get pissed if you don't answer?

Maybe he still thinks you like to be called, like he remembers you everyday, and this is "your thing" that you both do. If this is the case, but now its annoying you, talk to him about it.

If he's just calling you, and gets mad if you don't pick up, then there's a problem and you should talk to him about it.

Answer 5

I think you are being nasty. Wait until he stops calling and then see how you feel. If you are too busy for him, you shouldn't have him in your life at all. He should be worth dropping everything for.

Answer 6

like u said.. he works nightshift so if you really love him and wants to talk to him then you wont feel annoyed by him calling you...and yeah ur nasty.

Answer 7

I think it's nice that he calls every night at 6 just to talk to you. I think you should just tell him to please understand that there will be times when you just can't talk to him and that you can't answer the phone but you still love him. That way he won't get mad when you don't answer the phone.

Answer 8

Your husband is being thoughtful and misses you. What are you doing that is so important that you don't want to answer his call and talk for a few minutes...

but if it's getting on your nerves...do what ya gotta do.

Answer 9

I wouldn't say "nasty" but if that's the only time he can call, answer the phone. If he stopped calling you all-together, you would miss it.

Answer 10

It's your choice to answer or not. Did you tell him you are annoyed by this now and you want him to stop? If you haven't told him yet, now is the time.