i got online today and that was the search history i found. How do i ask him? What do i do? should i say anything? we have a daughter weve been married for 8 yrs. Hes a manly man but we never have sex. Now I found this. I feel sick to my stomach...
HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-06-15 20:41:52 · 11 answers · asked by lilistar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i dont think u guys are reading the whole thing right its @SS MAN he was looking for men MEN!!!! right? @ss man.
2007-06-15 20:48:35 · update #1
oh and hes 35 and im 24.... abit too old to figure out hes gay now?
2007-06-15 20:54:47 · update #2
Well if your not having sex then you shouldn't be terribly surprised.
I would confront him about it and tell him how it makes you feel...and talk about what can make the sex life better.
2007-06-15 20:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would confront him on it, and if he says he is, give him the option to get out (hopefully you can settle and not have a messy court thing). If you don't, your daughter could come across that stuff (and she will figure it out) or he will sneak behind your back. This has nothing to do with you as a woman as he is figuring himself out. If he is not having sex with you, and looking at porn (especially that) it is the same as a cyber-affair, emotional adultry. Don't let your daughter think this is okay for a stable marriage!
PS: more sex (or anal sex) WILL NOT FIX THIS!!!!!!!! Communication leading to therapy or civil divorce is better than the alternatives. And I am not a big fan of divorce unless it falls under Adultry, Abuse, Addiction.
2007-06-16 03:53:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to 'on line infidelity' there is a lot of info about on line cheating. A lot of marriages are being ruined by this all over the world right now. What you fear is right on the money. It isn't your fault and it is your business as his wife. Cause first thing he will say is, stay out of his personal stuff it's none of your business, then he will say it is your fault he is cheating. Don't buy any of it. You can also get a keylogger or keyghost or a web watcher and find out exactly what he is doing on line and with whom. It's your right as his wife.
2007-06-16 03:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES, confront him and analyze his reaction. And depending on his "truthful" answer decide from there. Some women don't have a problem with being married to a man like this and stay married, but I think life is too short to be unhappy and to be with someone is who is sneaky, dishonest and unfaithful. You shouldn't stay in an unhealthy marriage for kids, kids are not stupid they know when something is real or not. Follow your instincts. Good luck
2007-06-16 03:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
that's a site for guys that love to give it in the back door, not take it that way.
But that doesn't mean that it still isn't upsetting to you, more than likely.
Visit the site for a quick look, then ask another question if it still bothers you.
2007-06-16 08:43:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you dont ask him for a answer for yourself you will never let this issue rest,it will bother you every day from now on. you have to be fully prepared whatever the fact you going to face and settle it nicely. life is such.
do something good for yourself,find out the truth .
2007-06-16 03:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by yty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to know, you ask. The best part about the truth is that it is the truth. It isn't always the thing that will make you feel good. But in the end it is better than a lie.
2007-06-16 03:48:17 · answer #7 · answered by guilty as charged, I think? 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stay calm. Even if he was, everyone does stupid stuff they wish they never had. I'm sure you have too. Talk to him about it in a calm and rational way. Don't lose your marriage for something like that when others are getting beat or abused.
2007-06-16 03:47:06 · answer #8 · answered by Locke_x 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I doubt if he is looking for men. go to that site and tell me what you see. Yup good ol fashion porn. there is a serious problem in your relationship and you need to tend to it.
2007-06-16 03:53:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its natural for a man to want sex
i propose you have sex more often beacuase this will eventually lead to cheating if it escalates
he apparently wants a more physical relationship
i recomend getting........physical.....more often if you wish to save your relationship
2007-06-16 03:47:43 · answer #10 · answered by Josh H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋