im 13 and wish i had a baby- just to like take care of- not with a husband or anything... even just a baby sibling (my mom wont have one :\ ) is it bad to wish that? what can i do?
2007-06-15 20:11:56 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
No its not bad to want something, but you know that you are to young to care for a baby. It takes more to raise a child then you could even imagine. It takes lots of money, time, etc.
You sound like you are bored, and need more attention.
How about getting a puppy or a cat, maybe even fish?
Some day before you know it, you will be grown up with a family, dont rush it, it comes fast enough, trust me.
~faith
2007-06-15 20:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to wish you had a baby, but don't get caught up in the romantic idea that babies are just live baby dolls. I have an 18-month old and will be having my second in a few months, and I can tell you how tough it really is. You should look into babysitting or mother's helpers (where the mom stays home and you help her with light cleaning or watching the baby) jobs though your local community--neighbors, church, etc. It's a good idea to look into take a babysitting class at your local hospital or red cross, too. Be sure you discuss your interest in being around babies with your mom, so that she can help you find safe opportunities for you to really see first hand how much work a baby is...you may not like them so much after a full day with one! :) Good luck!
2007-06-15 20:33:08 · answer #2 · answered by DebCityMama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time to grow up first. Babies may seem like fun but they are not, they are a lot of hard work which you are not ready for yet. It seems you want a baby as a toy to me.
Go and speak to a few single mums who had kids very young, they will tell what a mistake it has been. Then look at the poverty they live in and you will see how sad a life it is.
Get a puppy or a cat and if you can look after that for 10 years you may be more ready to have kids both emotionally and physically. At 23 you will know many more things than you do now. Please don't ruin your life and that of a baby you might have. Talk over your feelings with your mum, no matter what you think, she is very smart. I hope you're not sleeping with anyone yet, because if you are he should go to jail and I hope your dad catches him and teaches him a lesson.
2007-06-15 20:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not bad to wish you had a baby. One day you'll be a wonderful mother, but for now, you should talk with your mom about getting you enrolled in a babysitting class, and then start babysitting some children of different ages. You may find that one day, you'll enjoy being a school teacher, or a pediatric nurse, because you'll have a knack for taking care of children! So enjoy being a young woman, and learn as much as you possibly can, be young as long as you can, you have the rest of your life ahead of you to grow up! :0)
2007-06-15 20:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by momof3anglz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is just something a lot of girls go through, i went through it too. Im 22 and have a baby now...but its hard work, they are a full time job, not only changing nappies, feeding, washing clothes, smelling like vomitt, bathing, sorting out why they are crying, getting vacinations (which is the worst), taking to the doctors etc etc etc.....than you still have to work (like me), cook dinner...plus all your house chores !!! i mean aghhh. But i love my son and wouldnt trade him for anything in this world, i love my 5 month old. But you honey are WAY too young, let me tell you. Why dont you volunteer at a childcare centre, or playgroup or something. You will than get first hand on what its all about. I think you should look into that. But you have your whole life to lead, you dont need a baby just yet....one day but not for a long time yet.
2007-06-15 20:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... I don't think that it is a bad thing to want children when you are 13. However... I wouldn't put yourself into a position where you are going to get a child at 13.
Children are a lot of work. Especially new borns. They are cute and smell good. It's nice loving them. However... you are still young and need to live life and enjoy adolescents still. Don't worry about wanting a baby. When the time is right after you are married, you will have the baby of your dreams.
2007-06-16 03:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by Operator 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not bad of you to wish you had a baby.
I'm sure it makes ya feel all warm and motherly inside.
But to act on it, and have a baby, would be selfish.
You're going to be 14, and you don't have a career, and need to finish school. You cannot support a baby financially, even tho you might be able to provide nurturing. So, if you really had a baby, you would do yourself a disservice, and you would be forcing a set of problems on your entire family.
You can wait :) the mothering genes wont wear out
Maybe hope for a niece or cousin baby?
take care
www.scarletteen.com
2007-06-15 20:19:14 · answer #7 · answered by bridgetize05 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not bad. Just don't act on it. Plenty of time for that later. Volunteer at a preschool or at church. Try and do some babysitting and then you can get paid also. Having a baby is a lot more work than you can ever imagine. Wait so you can enjoy it and not resent it as you would right now.
2007-06-15 20:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by Chloe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is the most normal thing in the world. What is the most favourit toy of all for little girls? Baby Dolls! It is in our nature to love babies and want to take care of them.
You want something to give all your love to and take care of. Ever think of getting a pet? They need a lot of love too. When you grow a little older, you can always babysit or do volunteer work at an orphanage or day care center.
2007-06-15 20:35:31 · answer #9 · answered by Fellina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No of course it is not bad to wish you had a little child around to take care of but you need to know how very important it is to take care of one and what it cost and how much time it take to take care of them and that you will have them for the rest of your life.
Like to other poster said, become a baby sitter or see if you can help out at a day care, that will help you start to learn what it is like to really have babies around.
They are not always fun and happy to be around. .
2007-06-15 20:16:53 · answer #10 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋