We seem to have lots of things in common and yes, we did become intimate.
I'm confused and I'm not sure what to do?
2007-06-15 19:54:26 · 20 answers · asked by Emme T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cheating is cheating. Anything that you hide from your partner is cheating. People who cheat, often lose the true love of their life because they forgot that marriage vows include 'forsaking all others, til death do us part'. Once that trust has been broken, it is the hardest emotion to re-build; and it often dies while the guilt party cries for another chance.
What you should do is admit to your husband that you strayed, and begin trying to find a way to show him that he will be able to trust you again.
2007-06-15 20:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by bg4gb 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Emme, you need to search your heart and get some answers. Have you always wanted or had intimate moments with women in the past? Why were you able to do this and not think about your love for your husband to stop you? Do you really, really love your husband? Are you lacking excitement in you married bed, are you likely to allow this to happen again? Are you keeping contact with this woman? If you have never been with a lesbian before, it is possible that you were just curious, sexually frustrated and taken advantage of, or YOU WENT WILLINGLY AND WAS JUST WRONG ON PURPOSE?
What ever the reason, you need to get to a truthful answer. Then, you need to evaluate if this type of thing will ever happen again, and will you tell your husband? He does have a right to know. Even lesbian's can spread STD's and you don't want a surprise coming on him unexpectantly.
You sould not keep in touch with this woman, NO MATTER WHAT GOES ON IN YOUR LIFE IN THE FUTURE. SHE IS NOT A FRIEND.
2007-06-15 20:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going on a women's only trip in October to St Thomas. There will be 8 of us-mostly married women going for 5-7 days. My sister is turning 50 and she wanted to do something very special, so she planned the trip. She invited just a couple of women, but it has blossomed into 8. My husband very much encouraged me to go, and he even bought the ticket with his frequent flier miles. I would be angry and upset if my husband gave me a hard time about going, especially because the only reason he objects is because you'd get "hit on" by someone there. And what, you couldn't resist? Or you couldn't get hit on locally at the post office or market or anyplace else? I would tell him I was going, I would explain that he has nothing to worry about, and I would point out that the one and only reason I am married to him is because I choose to be. It's not like you're married to him because you have no other options-you make a choice every day to remain married, just as you make a choice every day to remain faithful-and that doesn't change whether you're in Ohio or Barbados. I let him stew on that a bit and start planning my trip.
2016-05-17 06:12:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a break from both, and find you first, you wont be happy nor will you be able to make anyone else happy you are in a serious dilema you dont know who you are or who you want to be, before anyone gets hurt figure it out, also your husband deserves someone faithful, you both deserve your happiness but not the way you did . Take time alone, no man , no woman just you and your thoughts. PS you arent that happliy married if you cheated you are either in denial or selfish
2007-06-15 20:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not what you need to do, it is what your husband will do if he finds out, that is the question. You need to face the music. Be responsible for your actions.
What were you thinking? Going on vacation alone is definitely inviting trouble.
Losing a wife to another man is hard enough, but losing a wife to another woman? Humiliating.
2007-06-15 20:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by Hani 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I carried on an intimate relationship with a woman for many years with my husbands approval. I consider myself bi-sexual, I love my husband and enjoy our intimacy but there is just something about a woman that needs exploring!
2007-06-15 20:03:34 · answer #6 · answered by Uhg....... 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Confused or guilty. Some women are just very good friends others it goes further. Lots of women are bi and you should get over the guilt trip.
2007-06-16 03:38:55 · answer #7 · answered by amyc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you start things you are not able to handle!?
The point is you are confused about your sexuality preferences.... I'd care that more than the fact you cheated on your husband.
AND I just read you got a STD while cheating on your husband?????? OMG girl!!!
2007-06-15 20:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Erika♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are extremely lucky that you are enjoying both sides of life. Really it is great to have relationship with Man and woman both. Somebody is incomplete if he enjoys only one. So enjoy both. Good luck
2007-06-15 22:15:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you went on vacation without your husband, you were already halfway out of your marriage.
2007-06-15 20:00:48 · answer #10 · answered by Lorenzo Steed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋