Should i tell his wife??

Question

I met a man about 3 months ago, we started dating. After about 2 months we became sexually intimate. When I asked for a solid commitment he told me he was married! I followed him to see if it was a lie, but it isn't. He has a wife and two small children. Should i tell her? Or Just leave it up to fate?

Answer 1

Best not to cause any hurt...just leave it and move on.

Answer 2

This is always a tough one. Only you can assess the risk. If you think this guy could endanger you, the answer is an unqualified no. He has already caused a lot of pain. To you overtly and to his family covertly. His wife may or may not already know and you need to judge if it is worthwhile for you to get directly involved in causing her certain pain. Even if you were to let her know anonymously, you would carry the knowledge with you that you had purposely involved yourself in this guys life, whereas, at this point you are involved in a passive role not of your own doing. Good luck. Oh, and it goes without saying that you should run, run like the wind from this jerk and never look back.

Answer 3

Not to make you feel bad, but your the "side girl". His family, wife and especially his kids will ALWAYS come first no matter what you do or say. Telling his wife wouldn't help anyone in this situation, not even you. He'd be mad with you, this wouldn't make him leave his family for you either. Especially if she's a forgiving wife, she'll eventually let it go. So I honestly think it's just best you put yourself first and get out of this situation as quickly as you can.

Answer 4

She might know of his problem of girls before. Leave him because it will go no where but time of yours wasted. By him cheating on his wife who he has 2 children says alot about his morals, how would you feel if you where his wife with 2 kids???? Telling her would not be a bitchy thing, she needs to know for her sake and her kids. Always remember "The right choice is always the hardest"

Answer 5

Let it go. Who knows why he ever even told you that he was married instead of just ending it. Could be the place that you followed him too was not his home or not his wife and kids. My point, there are to many "ifs" to involve yourself any further.
I feel sorry for you though - I hope it never happens to you again.

Answer 6

Personally, I would secretly talk to his wife. Tell her, but slowly. Like drop hints to his wide. Tell the jerk to drop dead. Kidding. Leave the jerk alone. Tell the wife that you don't want anything to do with it, but just had to let you know. Don't even let her know your name. The reason I am saying to tell her wife is because, how would you like it if you were married, had two kids, and didn't know that your husband is having sex with another woman. Don't you think you would like to know?? They might get a divorce, but it's not your fault if they do. It's the jerks fault. He might be a nice guy, but he obviously doesn't treat women right. It looks like he just wanted sex from you. I am sorry, but that's what it seems like.

--I hope you make the right desicion--

~~Good Luck!

Answer 7

Pray first of all then go to his wife tell her that she was going out with a man and that they had become sexually active tell her that it was her husband and your very sorry but you think she should know, then pray some more then offer to pray with her.

Answer 8

it sounds like this guy is sick.....tell his wife how would u like if they did that to u? besides he will cheat on u too, A man that has a wife with children and is out there with another woman is not a very trusth worthy guy...think about it.....his family deserves to know whats going on.....make the right desicion Good Luck

Answer 9

Talk to him you want to stop seeing each other because he is married and has kids. Don't ever get tempt or think he will leave his family for you. That's totally wrong for both of you. Leave them alone.

Answer 10

Tell him he's a a@#e hole . If you were in her position would you want to know? If you would write her a letter and to prove your not lieing put in the time and date of times when you were with him, and make it clear you broke it off with him as soon as you found out he was married.

Answer 11

Well first off, he waited to get intimate to tell you. So he was waiting to tell you so you wouldn't want to leave because you love him.
I think you should dump him, because if he cheated on his wife, then he will definitely cheat again on your or anyone else. I think you should tell his wife about it. I mean, you didn't know he was married until he told you, so I don't think you should have to worry about a big fight. Just be honest.