2007-06-15 18:27:38 · 6 answers · asked by Elle 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There is not just a single theory, but essentially we choose relationships as adults that are most like those we observed as children -usually our parents' relationship, but no always.
A therapist can help you dig out the reasons and better, help you to stop repeating the patterns you learned.
2007-06-15 19:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that bad boy image isn't for just bikers and things like that. When women rebel more then likely they will choose a person that is disapproving according to their parents.
Sometimes this becomes abusive but the victim stays not only for fear but also for the attention. Usually it goes like this:
Fight
Apology, gifts, attention
Fight
Apology, gifts, attention
After a while what the abuser is saying towards the victim becomes a routine habit. They begin to believe it so they believe that they are worthless, they think that this guy is the best thing they got so they stay.
When a person gets out of the relationship, of course there is going to be some psychological damage. More then likely the victim will become the abuser or go onto another abusive relationship because of the psychological damage.
2007-06-16 01:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people like to be the “victim” so they can talk about the toxic relationship. Some feel they can “change them,” or want to at least prove it. Some, it makes them feel “alive,” something different, not the old boring predictable partner. There's someone for everyone, for some, toxic relationships are what they enjoy.
2007-06-16 01:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by Clipper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who choose toxic relationships usually have low self esteem and/or were raised as a child under toxic relationships with their family. Those who had chaotic childhoods often seek chaotic relationships in the future.
2007-06-16 01:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by zifmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that Freud is his last years, proosed something useful to this question: That a man is his reltionshiops is not guided only by EROS (libido) but also by THANATOS (death wish, self- destructive urge).So persons who "choose" atoxic relationship obviously follow THANTOS rather than EROS
2007-06-16 05:13:23 · answer #5 · answered by chrisvoulg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure there is something behind it.
2007-06-16 01:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋