this memory came to me from over 12 years ago. i never even thought about it. well it just popped in my head. it wasnt something i actually did but it was something i was seriously going to do and the reason why i didnt do it isnt for a good reason. now i know i wouldnt do it. but i think it says a lot about the person that i was and maybe the person that i am today. i just want to forget it and it is bothering me. But how?
2007-06-15 18:21:35 · 13 answers · asked by dellier 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Ive been threw allot of therapy and have tried to forget allot of bad things that have happened in my life. I have learned threw therapy that all the bad stuff that you remember today is keeping you safe in a way. So you don't repeat what you did in the past. The best way to "forget" is to make happy memories that you'll remember forever that over shadow the bad stuff.
2007-06-15 18:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by Rochelle N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot actually forget things in your life, the memories will come and go like high and low tides.
There are things you can do, though. Make lots of happy new memories. Then, when the unhappy memory returns, you can tell yourself how much better things are now. Review your good memories often.
Another thing many people find helps them is to do journalling. You write down the bad memory that bother you. Then you don't have to recall it, you know it's in the book if you need it for something. Also, go to Oprah.com and search for her "gratitude journal." That's a great thing to do, too.
2007-06-15 18:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To block out a memory, I have learned a very effective trick that really seems to have worked: every time your mind remembers the memory, immediately think of something else and concentrate on that other thing. You may have to think about 100 random things in one day if your bad memory pops up that much, but just keep doing this, and it should fade away.
2007-06-15 18:26:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to reason with yourself. FIgure out WHY you remembered it and then try to resolve it!
abotu 2 years ago I ran into my ex-stepdad . We had evacuated Houston because hurricane RITA was coming and we were staying in a shelter. Well HE was there with his new family and all.
God I hated HIM! I was revolted by him and his very existance! Every HORRIBLE childhood memory flashed back and I just wanted to KILL him. I felt worthless and useless, like crap. I was yellgin at my kids and freakign out untill I remembered one thing. IM NOT A KID!! He cant hurt me! I dont have to do this! Hes not worth sh*t! What happend in the past is GONE, we never have to return. We never have to go back. Its HERE and NOW that counts .
2007-06-15 18:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by Lovelykiaya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion I wouldn't want to forget it. The reason for this is it WILL be there for your whole life, and if you keep trying to forget about it and bottle it up, one day you will get to that point where it has to be delt with.
If you keep trying to bottle it up and forget it.. you will crack in a given time period. Best to learn from the experience and know that you will never go through it again, or if you do, you will know how to handle it.
MiK
2007-06-15 18:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and imagine the memory. First, freeze the memory into a still, motionless picture. Drain all the color out of the picture by turning it black and white. Than imagine taking that picture and put it far away into the corner of your house or wherever. Whenever you think of that memory, imagine it still, colorless, and in the corner of your house (or wherever). than, continue to think of something else.
2007-06-15 18:33:30 · answer #6 · answered by zifmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't block out bad memories, they are there to remind you of things you shouldn't have done or shouldn't do. Be happy this is something you didn't do, and that you have grown enough to know that it's something you'll never do.
2007-06-15 18:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by hop0409 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had memories like that too. For me it helps to write about it in a journal. It helps me to get it out and then i think about way less.
2007-06-15 18:36:17 · answer #8 · answered by plaidpick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess if you keep your mind busy you won't think about it, and if you do start thinking about call a friend...that way you will be think and talking about something else....hope that helps, sure wish you would have said what it was you were thinking...but your trying to not think about it, so that is understandable... Good Luck to you...
2007-06-15 18:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't known about others but in my case it takes two steps: 1st, try not to to think about them. That action leads gradualy to step no 2 that is fading, or in other words forgeting
2007-06-15 21:26:14 · answer #10 · answered by chrisvoulg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋