We have been fighting all night becuse she is pissed that it cost too much. It does not affect family finances as I have money. She says she hates motorcycles. I am having fun with the bike. Will she get over it?
2007-06-15 18:15:32 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My Cousin Silver was a motorcycle enthusiast who loved thrill seeking and danger. One sunny day, he decided to go for a spin on his Harley on Interstate 5. To his demise, he got decapitated by a diesel truck and his body lay on the side in the ditch.
His funeral was closed casket. This if for real and I am not BS'ing you.
Your wife loves you and is worried sick that you'll die. So she won't get over it. I on the other hand believe you're a sensible man with his bag of marbles, but a little on the spendthrift side. But that's none of my business.
I believe that you will be safe in your motorcycle hobby. I advise that you don't go showing off to the horny Harley Davidson chick who flirts with guys with tattoos and sideburns or you'll getting side winded by a Chinook RV on the way to Milwaukee.
Have fun!
2007-06-15 19:11:39 · answer #1 · answered by Agent319.007 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well personally I hate motorcycles. Probably she is mad because you didn't discuss a major purchase with her. Doesn't matter that you have the $, you didn't discuss it. And she probably worries about your safety and whether you'll be around for her or if you'll be killed in an accident. Over the Memorial Day weekend in Oregon 14 fatal accidents occurred. Every one was a motor cyclist. Now why wouldn't she be upset? No matter how careful YOU are there is always someone out there that doesn't see a motorcycle and they can kill you.
Or a freak accident can occur. A good friend was just in a very bad motorcycle accident 2 weeks ago. A deer ran into the side of him, full force into his mid section. He was life flighted to a hospital. He had a punctured lung, 13 broken ribs and a ruptured/torn liver (that is still the big concern). So even if you're careful a fatal accident can occur every easily.
My suggest would be to go out now and by your wife a similar value gift and keep the motorcycle in the garage until she cools down a bit. She is likely very worried about your safety.
And make sure your life insurance is paid up!
2007-06-15 18:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you are married, well most people talk before they make big purchases, even if you think that it wont affect the family finances. She is probably more angry that you just went out and did it without her, and that she doesn't like them she probably would have said no if you came to her first so thats why you went behind her back, thats how she probably is looking at this situation. She will get over it, but maybe you should think about what you do next time. Marriage is a team, compromises and all that good stuff try not to be so selfish.
2007-06-15 18:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by Andrea 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The money is just a smokescreen for the real issues...
Hello, she's worried you might DIE!! It doesn't matter if you pull out all the statistics and data pertaining to fatal motorcycle accidents, there are no guarantees.
Are you the kind of person who takes blind risks, impulsive by nature? If so, maybe she fears you will never be as cautious as necessary--she will be a worried wreck every time you blast onto the streets.
Here's another possibility, maybe she is insecure about you having a new interest that she could never be a part of---you claim she HATES motorcycles. If she will never get on one and share your interest, maybe she figures you will find someone who will.
Do some damage control...reassure her and take into consideration she's acting out in fear of losing you!
Welcome to the wonderful world of figuring out the complex mind of women; hope I've helped!
2007-06-15 18:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by angel.hotzone 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wellcome to the world of Motorcycling. It's a great way to get around. Yeah, she'll get over it, eventually. It's probably the fact that U are having fun. How dare U !!. Also it's something she has no control over and is threatened by it as it is a passtime that she is not involved in, which is her choice.
My lady got her licence and we got her a bike as well. We've never looked back
2007-06-15 18:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by ub6 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was upset because you didn't consult her about buying it, she will comearound eventually, try and ask if she wants anything, even if you don't like it, she might feel better about it. Then she will have something...I don't know...has she ever been on a motorcycle? See if you can get her on it, as long as you are happy with it, she should try to respect that you found something you like. Do you think she may have had a bad experiance with motorcycles? Maybe she is worried you will get hurt. Try talking with her. Remember to use a calm voice, people tend to not listen if being confronted in a negative way. Instead they will think of what they should say back to you, even if she is getting heated, keep your cool, she will calm down if you dont light her fire.
2007-06-15 18:26:37 · answer #6 · answered by helpspazgurl 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Did you talk about buying the bike before hand or did you just go & do it? She might not hate motorcycles as much as she hates you making big ticket purchases with "Your" money without consulting her. Normally when two people get married, I becomes We. I don't thnk the issue on the table is the bike.
2007-06-15 18:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by Flying_James 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey, she is frightened for your safety. You feel secure because you are use to it. Also, you evidently went against her wishes or never discussed it with her. Either, you are not compromising and that is what marriage is all about. Will she get over it? Depends on her reasons for being upset.
LOOKS LIKE YOU NEED TO ASK HER AND NOT YA ON THIS ONE. YOU MAY ALSO WANT TO REASSURE HER THAT YOU WILL BE SAFE AND NOT TAKE CHANCES.
Kind of harsh, 'You have money?' Does that mean that you two don't share the money and make decisions together? Good luck on her getting over it....and possibly other things too! Just talk to her. God Bless.
2007-06-15 19:07:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I have had many discussions about bikes. Honestly, I have to say that I would be very unhappy if he got one, would I cry over it, I don't think so. I would just pray that he makes it home safe whenever he ride out.
I am assuming that your wife don't want to loose you and I cannot say I blame her, you must be a good guy.
Just be careful and tell your wife accidents happen to everyone not just motorbike riders.
2007-06-15 18:32:41 · answer #9 · answered by andysdcden 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is she angry about the cost or angry that you did something that potentially could cause grave injury to you. Up your life insurance, that should smooth things out for her.
Next time you feel the need to spend that much money, have alittle respect for your wife and discuss it with her. Why you would chance upsetting your wife over a material object is beyond me.
2007-06-15 18:22:00 · answer #10 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋