i'm 17. i've been with my bf for 2 years. they've never approved of me. they're rich and i'm certainly not. but he loves me to death. they think i'm a liar because in the very beginning i would sneak to see him, beings that i was only 15 and i wasn't supposed to have a bf. we are supposed to have a talk, my bf and his parents, some time soon. i need to know how i can make them like me. i know i'm a good person. i know i'm right for their son. but they have been very mean to me through time. they've tried to destroy us, so theres bitter feelings. how can i just make this go smoothly??? i want them to approve of our relationship..
2007-06-15 17:55:25 · 7 answers · asked by Lauran Elizabeth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How about all the parents and you get together? Everyone can share what they are concerned about and then you and your boyfriend can try to answer any fears they might have regarding your relationship. You can't make them like you but you can try to be more open and try to ignore some of the stuff that they might say to you for a while so you aren't on the defensive when you are around them.
2007-06-15 18:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your loved ones to recover from themselves, that you are making your possess selections in existence and if they do not find it irresistible, rough. over the years they're going to see what happiness he brings into your existence and they will come to recognize him. If that would possibly not be the case then do not speak for your loved ones for a well at the same time. They'll grow to be careworn and desire to understand why you're ignoring them and you'll simply inform them it is for the reason that in the event that they cannot appreciate your wants and wants then they surely do not love you and you've gotten moved on. If they fairly care, they will beg to your forgiveness or no less than attempt to speak just like the adults that they're. Oh and speak this out together with your guy. If you might have each goal of sticking by way of his part by way of and by way of, then he demands to understand those matters. Also facebook is a detrimental website online. do away with your loved ones individuals off of your buddy record and difference your personal settings to the max making definite that the one individuals who can see your wall allow on my own publish some thing are FRIENDS ONLY.
2016-09-05 18:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that they have been trying to save their son from a serious relationship so early in life. You can't make them accept you, all you can do is hope they are smart enough to realize that their son isn't going to give you up. Behavior is what creates trust, so I would suggest you apologize for anything you did that was not of good character and simply tell them that you are growing up and are maturing.
Lose the bitter feelings, that won't help and do everything you can to bite your tongue. Its always diffusing to say "yes, you are right, that was a terrible thing to do, I apologize."
Good luck.
2007-06-15 18:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd win me over if you would:
Help around the kitchen when meals are being prepared or cleaned up,
Send me a card on my birthday (not over the top, just a recognition).
Say "Thankyou" whenever you eat over or get a ride or anything that involves an "expense" on my part.
Insist on good physical limits and curfews on dates.
Get your bf to "leak" some of the things that you might respect about me -- even though it might not be much!
With patience, perseverance, politeness over time, you might just win them over. I think it's admirable you want their approval. At first you might just get their tolerance and that will show progress.
2007-06-15 18:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by waldguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you just have to stop,step back and look,they are not going to be happy with any one he is with,it's not you hun,
stop Trying to make them like you.you will never win with that approach. I'm telling you they will come around when they realize how important you really are to their son. and it could take awhile. Ive been with my husband for 10 years now and they are really just starting to warm up to me. for the first five they accused me of being a gold digger.lol and he didn't have any money. when i stop letting it get to me is when they started to show interest,or even see me as a good person.
it has helped me to not be that way to my son's girlfriends
and i have 4 of them....
2007-06-15 18:22:35 · answer #5 · answered by tammys_pets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like my son-in-law, but he is good to my daughter and that's all that really matters right. As long as he cares about you don't worry so much. You can not make people like you, weather it is personal or on a job. Everyone has differant personalities.
2007-06-15 18:09:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to be yourself. You can't make someone like you if they don't. The only people you should be concerned about pleasing is yourself and your boyfriend.
2007-06-15 19:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by lisaraye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋