you tell them no to what ever they are trying to get you to do for them, and they then throw a fit. How do you handle the fit part?
2007-06-15 17:28:16 · 9 answers · asked by having too much fun 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
tell them to get real...or read this book...
The Power of a Positive NO.
How to say no and get a yes
by William Ury
It's about how to say no to people without pissing them off,My X husband inspired me to read it when I saw it in the library.
2007-06-15 17:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They throw a fit because it has always worked, which in return has programmed them to continue throwing fits. This is a behavior that has worked for a long time, so it's not going to go away easily.
If the person is around you a lot, you may have good influence on them by simply ignoring the behavior. Once s/he realizes s/he is not getting the attention or results s/he wants, s/he will try a new way. When the behavior is acceptable to you, reward them with what they want. It's hard, but effective.
On the other hand, someone more distant may be getting what they want from too many others, then it's time to be direct. Tell them you are not going to tolerate this behavior. And you must mean it when you say it. Tell him or her the answer is no, and a tantrum won't change anything but the respect you have for them. Then don't give in! No exceptions.
2007-06-16 00:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If an adult (age-wise) walk away and keep on walking -
chances are he/she won´t change.
If a child, you´ll need to spend tons of time and energy
teaching that 'fits' are not a way to deal with situations.
In either case, you´ve a tough job ahead of you and
your rewards will be in equal parts to your genuine,
wise efforts.
Good luck!
2007-06-16 00:46:56 · answer #3 · answered by vim 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to set boundaries in the relationship. If your are dealing with a person who is unwilling to compromise then maybe you should look for a new more beneficial relationship. If the person is not willing to work with you, then they prob. never will, and this will only lead to heartbreak down the road.
2007-06-16 00:41:10 · answer #4 · answered by J. T. B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take some Maintenance courses!
BR
2007-06-17 12:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
act like you dont care, because the moment you show them that you do care, and try and offer a fix for them, they take it as their win..and do NOT let them have the last word..that is their fuel and they use it as a weapon to make you feel bad..just stand there and watch and just dont care...do NOT do what they tell you to do. you are your own person, no one can boss you around
2007-06-16 00:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by gujuliciou8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just as you would a small child throwing a tantrum, walk away..they'll get over it when they realize they won't get a reaction.
2007-06-16 00:41:43 · answer #7 · answered by southern girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You either give in to conserve the relationship or you keep walking away and eventually end it. Unless they get help for their rage!
2007-06-16 00:38:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Same way you do a 2yo. Walk away.
2007-06-16 00:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by silly_me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋