My husband just recently got a new young pretty co-worker that he has trained at the deli he works at. About the same time she started working there, she broke up with her boyfriend. He's starting to come home really late and lately has been acting like so much as giving me a hug is a chore. Any ideas as to what could be going on?
2007-06-15 17:09:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, from what you just said, his actions don't sound good. I suggest you talk to him about your feelings. Nip it in the bud before it gets started, if it hasn't already.
2007-06-15 17:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but it sounds like he may be cheating but just don't jump to conclusions without really finding out for sure. If coming home late and never acted like he is towards you now is out of character for him you probably have reason to be suspicious. Sit down and talk to him and find out why he is not being loving to you anymore and why he is always late anymore. You could probably even go by the deli when he is supposed to get off work and tell him that you thought that you would surprise him by meeting him to go out to dinner and see how he acts about that. Suppose you could even just be near the deli where he works when he is due to get off and see where he goes from there and if he leaves with her. But I would only do that as a last resort after talking to him and if not satisfied with his answers.
2007-06-15 17:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by susie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the victim of a cheating wife. She actually told me some months after it started that it was going on, then started seeing someone else.
She started talking about one of her brothers frients quite a lot, and I said she should be careful .. stupidly thinking that he was getting a little too friendly, and that she was innocently oblivious to what he was doing. ... Hmmm, not so. It was going along quite nicely for the both of them, and I was taken for a ride.
I'd try to get your husband to at least talk about what it is that's keeping him at work so late, and what is niggling him if his avoidance of cuddles, etc. is uncharacteristic.
He might just be tired. Also his age may be a factor (?). There may be lots of reasons for his behaviour lately, but I agree you should try to have a heart to heart with him. Just approach it carefully.
Don't let your suspicions become a self fulfilling prophecy!
2007-06-15 17:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by Peter O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a gut feeling, he's probably thinking if not already cheating. If the deli closes at a certain time, and he's still coming home late, try calling him, if he doesn't answer his phone, he is hiding something.
2007-06-15 17:16:49 · answer #4 · answered by Emerald 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could b tired ...could have to work late if he is training a new person there will be mistakes he has to fix or show her how to fix them..dont automatically assume or accuse him of cheating ...if yall are married u should trust him..as he should trust u ...if yall dont trust eachother than yall might as well end the marriage...there will be tattle tell signs if cheating...this could b u just lookin way into it....talk to him show him that u are a lil worried about this girl reassure him that u trust him though...its the girl that u are worried about...his heart belongs to u and if not u will know...also with the hug thing ...its like sex to women who dont feel like it..ur tired u want it hurried up and over with...like i said just dont make a big issue ...u have to approach this carefully...
2007-06-15 17:21:07 · answer #5 · answered by lil country gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like the beginning of a bad situation. The problem is that he may be interested in someone else. What I would do is not to hide in shadows and watch, but confront him face to face come out and ask him what is going on he may set your mind at ease or you may not.
Good luck
2007-06-15 17:22:44 · answer #6 · answered by gotanswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a victim of a cheating husband from my experience. Absolutely come late at home is one, also he starts worrying more about his looks, he buys new clothes, he comes homes and say he is tired and goes to bed, he calls you less. i could go on, but your instinct wont fail you, somehow we know, Its our choice if to accept it are not . if you confront him then you will have to make a decision if you are not ready for a decision then let it go and see where it goes. good luck
2007-06-15 17:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by karen c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. it's an old story. if you suspect he's cheating, it's likely that he is.
he may not have actually had sex with her (does it matter?)
but he is probably playing "mental footsie" (that's what i call it) with her.
maybe you should drop in on the job just to make sure. or let her know that he snores, farts and isn't all that in bed.
or just think about how to respond. would you forgive an affair? or end the relationship? it's up to you.
2007-06-15 17:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by shyanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you the signs. ONLY you can. He's your husband. You should know when he's not acting the same.
2007-06-15 17:19:08 · answer #9 · answered by roxylee11782 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he picks fights with you for no reason, that could be a sign hes cheating. if hes cheating, he will try to make you feel like its your fault. its called guilt on his part. call him out on it.
2007-06-15 17:32:54 · answer #10 · answered by ducky doo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋