For a mother son is her priority & for a wife her husband. She cannot leave either of two & we should never think of asking her to do so. To understand a woman you have to understand that she will not leave either of these till she is forced physically or mentally to do so, she has a very affectionate heart which is so big that whole world can find its place there so the question whether her first husband’s son or her second husband is of no use, she has love for both & she will give time to both, just give her sometime to adjust she will be with her husband as well with her son for their individual needs.
2007-06-15 18:09:23
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answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7
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The first husband's son until he's about 21. But never to such an extent that the second husband is left out completely. A mother is a mother and her priority is to raise her child to the best of her ability. The son didn't have a choice in this matter- he was born and lost his father, while the second husband and the mother had a choice to marry each other.
2007-06-17 14:05:55
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answered by Blodeuedd 2
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Number 1 YOU are the Priority......but the new husband comes close 2nd the son you had with your first a Hubby will be feeling a little threatened by your relationship with a new husband hes is going to be the source of the friction in your home. If things are not sorted....he needs to be reassured that you have the unconditional love of a mother for her son. but that you also have a conditional love for your new spouse (respect,trust,honesty etc etc) that being said, the priority here is harmony in the home...good luck.
2007-06-16 02:42:22
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answered by Anonymous
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First husbands son. A widow cannt forget her first husband, Her second marriage is an adjustment for balance life. She cannt love second husband as like first husband and his son.
2007-06-19 02:44:05
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answered by sasi 3
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It should be the first husband's son, because he may feel dejected/ rejected, it is necessary to cheer him up. However, u must make it appear that u also love the second husband's son, as that is your future, and it is not good to dangerously rock your own boat.
2007-06-16 00:28:13
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answered by wizard of the East 7
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Coming from a widow herself ...ur children should always come first...before anyone...and all of them treated as equal cause u love all of them as much...its a mothers duty..it should b natural instinct.....now if this child is a step child he has a mother unless ur the only mother figure in his life ...then he is telling u he needs ur guidance so be there for him...remember the way we raise our children will b for the future after we are gone so we should try to do them by right and teach them morals and values and learn how to appreciate things in life...so the future will b good for them.......that is what i hope and pray for ..for my lil boy...
2007-06-16 00:13:12
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answered by lil country gal 2
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your question saddens me. why do you have to choose between your son (biological assuming) and your husband (second), both of them should be your priority....there's a word in the dictionary called "balancing".....until and unless you feel otherwise. I am also curious about the age of your son. If he is a child, he needs you.
2007-06-17 15:18:05
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answered by always-smile 3
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both is equally important, but being a mother i will first concentrate my son cause, adults can understand but kids cant, if importance is not given to the kid it might lead to several bad things, being a husband, being an adult you can understand your wife. if she shows importance to her kid it doesn't mean that she doesn't care for her husband, she does care but kids have to be handled with most care. both the relationship is equally important and i cant understand why do you differentiate the son and the mother, if she is your wife then the kid is also yours. if you take it in a good way everything will be good.
2007-06-16 01:47:30
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answered by puppy 3
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There are many, many variables here, and I don't think I can answer the question without more detail...
But, you need to remember that the first husband's son is her son. Think of it that way and it may not be so threatening.
2007-06-16 00:01:41
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answered by nicolemcg 5
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i don't know what you mean by "priority" ? in a will?
in your heart?
i don't know much about wills..i think the son would inherit anything before the new husband.
as far as love goes..only you know how you feel about your child or your husband. or your deceased husband.
2007-06-16 00:25:15
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answered by shyanne 5
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