It has nothing to do with her. She is great. I love her with all of my heart. I just don't like sex. I don't see the point in getting naked and sticking your dick in someone. It was cool for the first few times I had sex. It's just not my thing though. I'd rather spend the time watching a movie together or going for a walk in the park together instead of having sex. I just don't know how to tell her though that I don't want to have sex anymore. I might be able to deal with it once every few months or something. It just seems like she thinks that we should be doing it at least once a week or something. If I act like I don't want to then she gets upset, and thinks that it has something to do with her. I've tried to tell her that it's not her, and that I just don't like sex. She doesn't believe me though. Can someone please tell me what to do about this situation.
2007-06-15 15:59:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you're gay. you want to hook up?
2007-06-15 16:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by Stephen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-boyfriend became the same way and we could never work the issue out. I think that you should either try counseling with her if you intend to get married or the both of you need to break it off. I think that you are not compatible sexually and that she may begin to resent you because you are not interested. She may feel that you do not care about her or that you no longer feel attracted to her. If you do not address this issue it will cause a lot of heartache in the long run. It also sounds like you would rather just be friends with her. An ideal marriage is when a husband and wife can be friends and lovers. Trying to have a successful marriage without one or the other is near impossible. Let her go if you can not get over this issue. It may be the kindest thing you can do for her and for yourself.
2007-06-15 16:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a low sex drive, but you should seek medical attention to be checked out to be safe. There are things they can do now to help you. Don't marry her till this problem is solved. It is not fair to ask her to live without it or once a month. Actually the once a week is low too, most people in surveys do it 2-3 times a week. Not everyone has to like it, but be sure it isn't cause of a medical condition. Your fiance will resent you after marriage if she has to give up her sex life.
2007-06-15 16:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well millions of people have the same problem---a sex drive that differs from their partners. Nothing new under the sun. You two have already discussed it??? If she told you the same news you would think that she doesn't like you---so she is reacting as anyother mate would react. It may change or it may not--if it is that important to her to have sex, you may have to agree that you both are a mismatch and call it even---time to find more compatible mates. No amount of talk will change this--counseling will tell you to try harder---so what will it be??? Stay and feel uncomfortable--or find someone who understands and respects your stance on sex.??? I say wave goodbye and set her free--
2007-06-15 16:07:30 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to work out your issues before you go any further with her. There may be reasons not mentioned as to why you dont like or want sex. She is just reacting normally to this situation. You cant blame her for feeling that way. Do a little sould searching.
2007-06-15 16:14:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not saying that every guy should be a walking sex machine, but lack of sex drive is not normal. Are you taking anti-depressants or something else that is stealing your sex drive. YOu should try seeing a doc.
2007-06-15 16:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by Shyguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lack of sex drive could be a sign of a medical condition. You may want to talk to a doctor to see to check your hormone levels, before you tell your fiance anything.
2007-06-15 16:09:54 · answer #7 · answered by tom w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that both of you will have to deal with,and the sooner the better.
Unless you can reach acompromise, your pending marraige will be a total disaster.
Start by seeing a urologist. Is there a Physical problem? This is a good place to start.
2007-06-15 16:06:44 · answer #8 · answered by TedEx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Explain it nicely to her. All problems can be solved through a good and calm conversation.
Or..
Learn to do it even atleast once a week with her. She might find someone else if you can't extinguish her fire. Let's face the reality..
2007-06-15 16:07:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously have issues with sex, as in you don't want to have sex with her. Get some porn man and figure out how to like it.
2007-06-15 16:03:43 · answer #10 · answered by paygan247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is like that also. He says he loves me a lot but would just rather cuddle or watch t.v. At first i thought it was me but now i know its just the way he is and i know he loves me. We have a lot of fun together and are very close. At least she dosen't have to worry about you cheating on her.
2007-06-15 16:06:20 · answer #11 · answered by d_deane530 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋