My neighbors are having an affair! The girl has a man and daughters 2 and 3 years old. He has a woman and an 8 month old son. They creep back and forth while their mates are at work but both claim they dont care for the other. I am friends with everyone and feel bad about having to keep their secret. Should I tell.
2007-06-15 15:54:30 · 23 answers · asked by natosha c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, don't tell unless you want to be involved in the middle of it all. If you feel badly & want to get involved, you could let the adulterers know that you know & urge them to knock it off or you will tell.
2007-06-15 15:58:54 · answer #1 · answered by sweet pea 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I don't think it is your place to tell. Do you know for sure it's an affair or just friends? I'm a stay at home Mom and the need for adult conversation gets pretty bad. Maybe they are just hanging out. Unless you have absolute proof I wouldn't say a thing. If you feel bad in the middle then maybe you should stop watching them all day.
2007-06-15 23:01:36 · answer #2 · answered by blacksun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Natosha, you shouldn't. You might cause more harm than good. If they are having an affair, they surely have their reasons and they are the ones who have to deal with it.
Whatever your opinion about the matter might be, what's going on between them is none of your business.
Remember: you may cause more harm and pain than good. And I bet they are already mortified enough with the situation to add a third party -who is not even a betrayed spouse or a close relative- intervention. Besides, you might end up being considered a gossiper and loosing everyone's friendship.
2007-06-15 23:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by melissa986 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO - trust me when I say no good can come from telling anybody anything. You will end up being the bad guy if you get into their business. As Sheriff John used to say, "Just laugh & be happy." Laugh at both, laugh with both, but keep your secrets to yourself.
2007-06-15 23:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by Flying_James 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend not to cast stones, especially if I live in a glass house with neighbors behaving poorly next door. I think I'd just not even be around if the subject EVER came up.
2007-06-15 22:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When ever you are in a dilemma of 'spilling the beans', you should ask yourself, "Does it affect my life", "Will it cost me anything", "Am I willing to be hated for someone else's actions?"
I think you will answer no to all of the above. Huh? So, keep your mouth shut. OBSERVE ALL YOU WANT, BUT YOU DON'T KNOW ANYTHING THAT IS NOT YOUR BUSINESS. If it bothers you, leave the group and make new friends. People do it everyday.
2007-06-16 01:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO!!! That is not any of you business. That is their life and you are not the one who should let either one of them know what the other is doing. Don't cut off your nose to spite your face. This has nothing to do with you so don't say a word. I could all blow up in your face. They both could say if you were my friend you should have told me sooner.
2007-06-15 22:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by nicki198057 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't say a word, it's not your place.....and don't worry about it because what's done in the Dark will soon come to Light......they probably already know
Sneaky
2007-06-15 23:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i think they will get caught, in some point of time. you don't want people mad at you but if they found out you know it could be the same, but from experience pretty much mind your own business.
2007-06-15 23:20:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No....when it's time for the secret to come out it will with no help from anyone.
2007-06-15 23:01:53 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask, don't tell and don't force your morals on others. Somehow the person who spills the beans is the one that everyone blames.
2007-06-15 23:38:30 · answer #11 · answered by Mr. Ed 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋