2007-06-15 15:38:03 · 44 answers · asked by Roro B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your marriage is messed up, you should be putting your energy and efforts into fixing it instead of sleeping with ex-boyfriends like a tramp. Do your husband a favor and get a divorce. He deserves someone better you.
2007-06-15 15:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you know for sure that your marriage has ended then just wait sex out till you are divorce. If you still love your husband then you know you shouldn't. Having sex with your ex will only give you a reason on why you want out of your marriage when you should just leave because you feel you've given your all and can't give no more. In the end your head will be held up high because you know you were faithful to the end.
2007-06-15 15:54:43 · answer #2 · answered by Chelly Bean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is this only confuses you even more. You really should work on one problem at a time. Sex without love can be pretty empty and did you really give your marriage a fair shake. There has to be a good reason why your ex is your ex..and a better reason why you married the man you are with. Can you find out the reasons once again?
2007-06-15 15:41:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I NEVER HEARD OF A MESSY MARRIAGE GETTING BETTER BY HAVING SEX WITH AN EX? INTERESTING.
It is so odd, how people who do wrong, know they are doing wrong, will look for justification in the oddest places~anonymously no doubt.
You know it is not OK. You know that it hurts your marriage, no matter what you say to yourself about being so untrustworthy. Is it OK for your husband to have sex with an ex and hide it from you? NO more than you doing it to 'get even' with him~~if that be the case.
And people say you have not just had sex with your partner, but with everyone they had sex with too! No wonder STD'S AND HIV ARE GOING STRONG! OK, even if you use protection, YOU ARE STILL LIVING A LIE AND NOT BEING FAIR TO YOUR EX. Even if he did it first~~sounds childish no less~~NEITHER OF YOU ARE GOOD FOR ONE ANOTHER AND NEED TO END THE MARRIAGE. MOVE AWAY FROM ONE ANOTHER AND STOP THE CYCLE OF BETRAYAL.
When do you spend time looking in the mirror with pride that you are a person with morals. Perhaps you don't take it serious that God was made a promise in your marriage, and therefore, the morals are not a factor. EVEN PEOPLE WHO DO NOT BELIEVE IN GOD HAVE MORALS! AND YOU?
DO YOURSELF A FAVOR AND GET A DIVORCE. LIVE RIGHT, BE HAPPY!
2007-06-15 18:36:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a very good question.
Now let me ask you a couple.
(1) What is your reason for having sex with your ex?
(2) Do you suspect your Husband is cheating on you?
(3) Why would divorce not be an option?
(4) What do you think would happen if your husband found
out?
Those are critical questions because they should govern your actions going forward. You have a decision to make. Either really try to work on your marriage or let it go. I fear for your safety, your husbands safety and your ex's safety because this is dangerous territory. Your marriage is on the rocks and then you go an violate the one thing that's holding it together. Trust.
If you are going to work on your marriage, you need to really sit down with your husband and get to the bottom of what the problem is. Marriage's just don't heal themselves, people do. Ditch to Ex. Surround yourself with people that will help you and give you sound advice and counsel. Forgive yourself and ask God's forgiveness. And give this thing another try.
If not. You need to sit down with your family or closest friends. Talk to them about why you are leaving, ask for their support and finalize the deal. Go through the legal proceeding and walk with your head high.
Bottom line. YOU have to make the decision that your husband is not going to make you this regretable, vengeful and malicious person by backing you in a corner. Or you have to weather the storm, turn around from what you "could" do and let time heal this wound.
Good luck!
2007-06-15 16:00:00 · answer #5 · answered by clayborne112 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should answer the question yourself but it should be ask this way.....is it okay for your husband to have sex with his ex-girldfriend while you're married, even though our mariage is mess up?
2007-06-15 18:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by rovendinoalui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. You took a vow to stay faithful and loyal to your husband as long as you are married. If your marriage is "messed up" and you desire to have sex with your ex-boyfriend, then it is time to do the decent thing and file for divorce.
2007-06-15 15:45:53 · answer #7 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No of course not
A mariage is a marriage. You vowed for better or worse.
Your ex-boyfirend is suppose to be done with, that's why they are called ex's.
Messed up marriage or no messed up marriage that is still cheating on your husband.
2007-06-15 15:43:47 · answer #8 · answered by Talentedgurl5 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's Not Ok...It's called Adultery, regardless of the fact your marriage is messed up, why make it a living hell????
I don't understand why so many young women have to have SEX 24/7???? If you have to go back to your old boyfriend and have sex with him, I'd suggest you find a good therapist.....
2007-06-15 15:46:28 · answer #9 · answered by Mona Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth do you have a bf if you are married? No it is certainly not ok and I think you know that. If your marriage is messed up it might be because of your bf? Try to work on your marriage and stop cheating, dump the other guy. You took vows, now honor them.
2007-06-15 15:54:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋