I have a 3 month old son born a month early. He makes lots of eye contact with his father, but barely any with me, his mother. Is this normal? I thought it may be a sign of Autism but since he looks for long periods at his Dad, I don't know what is going on. Should I just see if he comes around? I constantly sing to him and hold him and caress him. I was thinking maybe I am around him too much and he is tired of me. I go back to work full time on Monday and his Dad has been going to work since he was born. Any Ideas? Thanks!
2007-06-15 15:29:58 · 9 answers · asked by Shanan O 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
He feels secure with you and the sound of your heart (which reminds him of the womb) and your voice are all very natural to him. This means that when he is with you he feels safe checking out his new world and with dad, someone who's voice he recognizes but everything else is different, he is more curious about the face. Also the voice coming from that face, hehe. It's also more common for boys to fixate visually on objects than faces, whereas baby girls tend to fixate visually on faces. I think your little boy is fine and feels safe with you, and there's nothing to worry about! Congrats! :)
2007-06-15 16:58:53 · answer #1 · answered by ksta72 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're on top of it. My first thought was autism as well, but as you say, he makes a lot of eye contact with Dad. Most babies are ready for play and stimulation the first part of the day. Does he pay more attention to you during this time when you play with him? Do you try to engage with him in a more 'intense' way? I remember often going through the motions of caring for my son and would neglect the 'play' part. I was very jealous when his first social smile at 4 weeks was at some random lady who was cooing at him! I didn't coo at him, so she got the reward.
Make sure you ask his doctor at the next well-baby visit. I'm sure they'll have more insights for you. I did my senior internship in college with an autistic girl. She was 8, couldn't speak, and never looked at anyone. The fact that your baby 'looks at Dad for long periods of time' is evidence it's probably not autism.
I wish I could give you more insight! Good luck!
2007-06-15 22:58:02 · answer #2 · answered by Margie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Chill hun, Dad just has "the look" I guess, that has nothing to do with who he loves more so exclude that right now! He just prefers dads looks better, im sure it will change soon, remember he is only 3 months, I think my son did the same thing. Good Luck and congrats.
2007-06-15 23:28:01 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy to 2 A.n.g.e.l.s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's so young, its too early to worry about autism yet, even if it was a possibility its too soon to test him for it. Keep an eye on his developemnt, make sure he is meeting social develomental steps (responding to name, babbling, making eye contact ect), and keep him stimulated with learning toys. It's good that you are concerned, Autism is easy to handle if caught early, my son was diagnosed at 19 months and is 5 now, and doing very well.
2007-06-15 22:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by parental unit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
his corrected age is only 2 months old, dont fret yet, this is too young for autism to rear its headm
keep up what you are doing, in a quiet gentle way,
too bad for both of you that you have to go back to work..Im sure that is stressing you out right now...
next drs. appt ask the dr.
also see how he responds to sounds..maybe he does not hear at the sounds you make...but does hear dads louder, deeper voice
2007-06-15 22:59:28 · answer #5 · answered by trudi100 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes babies look away if a parent is coming on too strong. a baby can only handle so much stimulation, and looking away is often their way of coping when too much is coming at them at once. maybe you're singing or talking too much or getting too close to him. you might try just holding him and being really quiet. when he starts to look at you, then start talking softly to him.
congrats!
2007-06-15 22:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by LilyRT 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
do you hold him alot when he's tired? if so, it could be hard for him to concentrate, i wouldnt worry too much, hes only 3 months, his eyes and brain are still developing, your his mommy, and you'll always be the one he comes to
2007-06-15 22:41:27 · answer #7 · answered by love ya 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that's tough umm personally i think maybe you should just relax and bless your son.make farting noises on his stomach and maybe he will laugh then look into your eyes in the end
sorry i don't know what more to say to you, but good luck and god bless you
2007-06-15 22:35:21 · answer #8 · answered by amanda u 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes it is don't worry he just fell more protected with the daddy
2007-06-15 22:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by erica r 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋