2007-06-15 14:54:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No...I have ot do this too...it gets too hot snuggling in bed sometimes...I love my husband very much!!!
2007-06-15 14:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Look, not all men like to cuddle. My wife and I sleep in different beds, and we love it. After having sex, we cuddle-for a short (very short) period of time, and that's only if we're not all hot and out of breath. We also have our own bathrooms, however, we do have great communication-that's what really matters in a relationship.
Think about this, how much of your life before moving in/marriage do you share a bed with someone else that you cuddled with? Maybe the first 2-3, maybe. The majority of people grew up sleeping in their own bed, and it's a hard habit to break.
Get over it, you're worried of nothing. Really, nothing.
2007-06-15 21:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by crknapp79 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are measuring his love based on the way he sleeps next to you, you need to examine yourself.
There are many things that may lend to cuddling or lack of at night.
1) If he is real tired, he may just want to sleep
2) If it is hot, it is usually too hot to cuddle
3) He may think that cuddling will keep you awake.
Why dont you ask him, "Honey, I love it when you hug me when we are going to sleep, why dont you hug me for a few minutes at bedtime before you roll over to go to sleep?"
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 18 years and night-time cuddling/hugging is more frequent during the colder moths. I can almost guarentee that there is no hugging during the warmer months, unless something else is going to take place.
I wouldn't take this lack of hugging as a reason to be hurt, or better yet, wondering about his level of love for you. Truely it is quite trivial.
2007-06-15 22:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you, just that he prefers to sleep differently to you. My husband and I don't even share the same bed, because of different sleeping patterns and his snoring, but we still love each other. Personally, I cannot sleep snuggled up to someone else, and need space to stretch out. Hugging while sleeping just makes me too hot, and restricts my movements. Perhaps your boyfriend feels the same way. Speak to him about it, and you may then be able to put your mind at rest.
2007-06-16 00:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by sparrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my guy a few years ago when we first started sleeping together. i was angered by this too, i thought "why doesn't he face me, not once, he just rolls over like he's ignoring me" but then i realized something he did not want to admit or ask for....
HE wanted to be held!
I put it all together, he likes to be babied without knowing I'm doing so...without him admitting to it. after a few years, i now can't sleep without holding him. yes, we take turns but in the end we always fall asleep with me holding him. weird, but in a way makes sense because he's a masculine guy, so he has to let out some sensitivity every now and then, in some way.
so try that, maybe your guy is doing the same. believe me, it took me months to figure it out and countless arguments....it could just be your answer too.
if not, if he doesn't want that, then he probably just has trouble sleeping with another person next to him, it takes time to adjust to things when you live together, but there's some things that just aren't ment to be adjusted. I'm sure there's something that you do when you were living alone that you don't want to change, we all have little quirks.
2007-06-15 22:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by Bitterly Sweet 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you not think he loves you just because he doesn't hug you at night. My boyfriend doesn't hug me at night while we are sleeping either. But I don't doubt his love for me. I just know that he's uncomfortable sleeping like that.
2007-06-15 22:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write back if he starts sleeping in someone else's bed but at this point I think you have nothing to worry about.
2007-06-15 22:06:35 · answer #7 · answered by ~*:•JENN•:*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he loves you,he just needs his space while sleeping not all guys and girls like cuddling..i dont,i need the air and space to roll around a little
2007-06-15 22:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the truth is probably very simple he may not feel comfortable sleeping that way.I honestly think if you feel hurt or uncomfortable about the situation you should ask him about it. He probably does not know you feel this way communication is key in a relationship.
2007-06-15 22:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by Bonnie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess when there is no moral or verbal commitment, this is what you get.
Life living together is sometimes this:
Men will give love to get sex.
women will give sex to get love.
If someone truly loves you, he will give you freely without asking.
Be prepared in the future.
2007-06-15 22:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lucky you. My husband has the terrible habit of trying to cuddle with me when he sleeps. It's cute, but very uncomfortable. I have to kick him off me in the middle of the night. Don't take it personally. Sleep is about comfort, not love.
2007-06-15 22:10:54 · answer #11 · answered by Dolyn 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋