i was in relationship 7years, he was foolin around with an older woman and eventually moved in with her. that was 3 wks ago. i met someone for the first time and think i fell in love with him. now the boyfriend wants to come back. i said i would never go back, was happier than i have been in a long time. made mistake and slept with x and now the new guy is very cold towards me. how come he does not understand that i truly do love him and am confused about situation. i am feeling like if he was really into me he wouldnt shut me out and would give me a chance but he says he knew this was going to happen. come on, its only been 3 weeks and i know that i said alot of things to this guy that i thought i meant but i found myself stuck and scared. the new guy was like the sun when the storm was over. he lives in another state and we met only once in person. a big part of me wants to do somethin so crazy to show him how much he really meant to me. any words of comfort please?
2007-06-15 14:54:36 · 8 answers · asked by 2 real 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why is the new guy cold to you? You slept with your ex!
How can you be so in love with someone you met once?
It sounds like you're good at doing crazy things, I'm sure you can think of something to entertain the new guy.
2007-06-15 15:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by LAL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid I don't really have any words of comfort for you. I think that after only three weeks, you really are still quite confused about your feelings for both these guys. If you really did love the new guy, and were truly over your ex, you would never have slept with him. You need to take some time for yourself, and not get involved with anyone else right now, until you are able to decide whether you are really over your ex, and are not just going into the new relationship on the rebound.The new guy is probably so upset because he also realizes that you still have feelings for your ex, and doesn't want to open himself up to being hurt any more. This may not bring you any comfort, but you are not the only one who has been in this situation. It is a pretty common thing to get into a rebound relationship, and think it is real. Don't go doing anything crazy, you must remember that you hardly know this new guy, and having only met him in person once, cannot possibly really be in love with him.
2007-06-16 01:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by sparrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in love after 3 weeks????????
You slept with the man you just left 3 weeks ago. That means you got with the new guy and you still had unresolved feelings for your x. The least you could have done was told him about your unresolved feelings, before you slept with the x. At least give him the chance to opt out of the relatonship if he wanted. He should be upset. And that's putting it mildly. Now you got him involved in this love triangle. That's not what he bargained for and you now you want him to understand? You deserve the cold shoulder. How is he suppose to trust you. And long is he suppose to wait for you to figure this all out?
If you are that confused, then you should not deal with anyone until you get your head together.
Good Luck
2007-06-15 22:11:10 · answer #3 · answered by littlecraps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You truly love someone after only 3 weeks? And not to mention on a rebound? You would be wise to take some time off and not be in any relationship until you figure out why you put up with cheating men and are fast to fall in love with others.
2007-06-15 22:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one really understands human nature. It is frustrating and when you give into "confusion"....it makes it clear that no one really knows what they feel.
Can you really love anyone in three weeks? I suggest that he needs his space and perhaps you need to clarify your feelings. Is it not possible that you are feeling appreciated...and wanted...versus real love.
If the ex moved in with another woman,...it isn't going to work with you again. Even if you want it too. Or he does. Just move on...but perhaps...you need to know that the new man is just the crutch to get you to the next phase of your life.
See him for what he is...a passing phase. Love hurts. We all want love and getting past a 7 year love takes a long time. The new man knows exactly what he means to you. That is why he is cooling off. Sorry.
2007-06-15 22:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid I dont have words of comfort. You sound very confused. I dont think you should be with anyone right now. I think you need to be alone, get your head together, and figure out what you really want in your life. Going back and forth between men like a ping pong ball is no way to live. Stand on your own, get to know and like y ourself separate and apart from your relationship with men.
2007-06-15 21:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be married before you go having relations with anyone.
Why would you want the first guy back when he dumped you for someone else?
How can you be in love with another guy, you have known for less then 3 weeks?
You should just live by yourself for a while, learn to be happy alone. Then you can look for some one you want, not someone you need to feel complete.
2007-06-15 22:03:26 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words of comfort?Um...no. You wonder why he has been cold to you? You SLEPT with another man...come on. How should he be? I think you need to be alone and figure out who you are and what you want...as you can see...you are only hurting this man that you claim to love!
2007-06-15 22:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋