I'm so upset?

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I'm 4 mos pregnant and people can be so freaking cruel on here. Why should I care what people say. I posted a question about eating right earlier and having a budget of 88.00 food stamps, ofcourse I put some cash in too. I feel like I'm a bad mother already, and people say that if you dont eat enough of this than the baby will have problems with teeth and bone structure etc. Are people getting ahead of themselves? People say how can u be a mother and take care of your child, I will never neglect or hurt my baby and it pisses me off when certain people or b!tches say really mean stuff. half of this is the hormones. Thanks for listening. I will admit that I'm on SSI, its because I have a slight disability, it wont keep me from being a great mom. I'm on food stamps, and I called wic for an application today. Besides, theres something called a baby shower. I have lots of friends and loved ones, family to support me. Anyone else have problems like this? Thank you, Mommy to be

Answer 1

i feel for you ive been harassed too b/c i didnt breastfeed my 1st child and im notbreastfeeding my 2nd....(medical reasons and i didnt like it).

and 88.00 can buy ALOT if u budget and shop wisely and like u said u add money to it and yes baby showers help and wic. Theres nothing wrong with u and i know some ppl are cruel just remember there are ppl out there like u.

i may not be on SSI or WIC i was on wic with my 1st but we make too much now (still isnt much when u have bills lol) but i know how hard making ends meet is and i know alot of nice women on those programs and live nicely and id never put them down b/c of it.

sorry to hear about the cruel ppl
hope it gets better
congrads on the baby:)

p.s.
i drink carnation every morning with a granola and a fruit (too much makes me sick so small meals is what i do) and ive been perfectly healthy. so as a answer to eating healthy u could try carnation or add lots of fruit and veggies to ur diet:)

Answer 2

I'm not sure what your previous question is, but I think you're saying that people were being mean because you use WIC and food stamps. My sister is pregnant and doing the same thing. I don't see why anyone would think there is something wrong with it. Like I said, I'm not really that familiar with the programs, but she can get certain foods with WIC and I think it's great. It seems like a great program and I hope that you can get it. She can only get certain kinds of cereals, none of the unhealthy things. I think it helps mothers realize what they can and cannot eat. (I think she has WIC, but I'm really not positive)
As for the food stamps, what is wrong with that? Honestly...I just don't get it. Like you said, nothing is going to keep you from being an amazing mother. It's good that you have family and friends to support you - my sister definitely needs all of the support she can get. Being a mother is a tough job and I give all mothers a lot of respect.

Again, I might have read what you wrote wrong, so I might have just rambled on about something that you weren't even getting at (sorry, I'm tired) but you seem like you're going to be a great mother :) your baby will be lucky to have a mom who cares so much! Good luck and God bless <3

Answer 3

First step to being a good mommy is to stop worrying about what other people think, and start doing what you know is right. You posting this is only giving them something more to feed off, and showing them (in thier eyes) that you are unfit to be a mother. That is not me being mean, but truthfull rather, in a firm manner.

Remember this, No one on here knows who you are and what you do. They only know what you type, and what their mind carries on with in thier imaginations from your words. So to be one the safe side, I would stick to asking more irrelevent questions that dont portray you in this way. Half of the people on this site are 12 years old anyhow, and have no idea what they are talking about, they only answer for the points.

And if you feel like you are a bad mother, then you should be doing EVERYTHING possible to turn into a good one (then one day you can laugh at all this mess, because you knew all those people were wrong) If you need Foodstamps, use them. No shame. At least you are FEEDING yourself right? And if you need WIC, use that too! Thats what those programs are there for. Also you could look into other programs like Healthy Start. There are tons of places to turn for help, and they wouldnt be there if they weren't meant to be used! You can sleep well at night knowing you have done EVERYTHING possible to take care of your child!

Good Luck in Life!!

Answer 4

With my oldest son I vomited so often I had to be hospitalized for dehydration 4 times. I craved all the wrong foods and my diet really wasn't what it should have been. I have a genius on my hands, and I am not exaggerating. If you need food stamps and WIC to eat well for your child then so be it. I have been there myself. The father was there in the making and should be held accountable in the raising. Your child deserves child support! Contact Legal Aid and make him support that baby, and if needed go to Child Support Enforcement. There are many food programs out there to help you out. You will be in my prayers. As someone answered before me....There are a lot of kids on here with very little real life experience, so take what you need and leave the rest.
Peace be with you.

Answer 5

hi, I am not sure what your earlier question was but it sure upset you.. first of all don't let what people say on here upset you.. if you are worried about your baby being healthy don't be upset about something you read here from people who don't know you or your situation. You will run your blood pressure up and that isn't good for you or the baby. How ever from what you say i guess you don't have enough money to eat like you want. Let me tell you this as long as you eat and isn't junk food.. the baby is gong to be fine. the baby take most if not all the nutrients first then you get what is left over.. And i am sure you are taking vitamins so you will be fine..

It is hard out here for everyone. I worked 14 years of my life non stop not being on aide or food stamps no nothing then a couple of years ago i lost my job. i had two children at the time already, then a few months after i lost my job i found out i was pregnant again! what was i going to do? My husband worked but we still had a house note two car notes two other children and now i was pregnant again. THen on top of all that he got laid off. so i went to social services and asked for food stamps ONLY they told me no.. i was devasted so many people i know have food stamps and don;t need them here i am need them and can't get them. needless to say i still ate not like i would have liked but i did and so did the other children. my son is fine came out healthier then the other children. We have lost our home now but i am just happy for the children's health. so what i am trying to say is just do what you can and don't worry about what you can't it will all come if you believe in God remeber that He is in control and that He doesn't put more on you then you can bare.. I know it is easier said then done cause i have been there. still there a matter of fact still don't have a job and i have to move out of my home in a few weeks with the new born. But i know that all in all it is for the best.
And i can say the same for you too.. it looks hard now but you can't be upset or shouldn't get upset by somethng a STRANGER says to you that doesn't know your situation..

Answer 6

Here's an idea:vomit on the person that gives you a hard time. You're pregnant and entitled to vomit on whomever you want!!...

OK, seriously now: People say all kinds of stuff. Mostly they like to say it when you don't ask. But when you ask, they won't say anything. It's weird. So beware of unsolicited advice! My favorite is always when people tell me about their experience - mostly when something went horribly wrong. I just tune it out.

It seems that you're very responsible and preparing for the baby by using the resources that are available to you. That's all anyone can do, really. There's a lot to think about and you still have a few months to go. You'll be fine. The most important thing is that you have family/ friends to support you. Buying gifts for you and the baby will actually make THEM happier than you who's getting those gifts. I mean, who doesn't like to buy baby stuff?

Enjoy your pregnancy! You'll start showing big time soon!

Answer 7

It doesn't matter if you have to be on Medicaid, WIC, food stamps or what not, the point is that you are trying to take care of yourself and your unborn baby. A lot of people don't even do that. They will go their whole pregnancy without seeing a doctor, and will not take care of themselves by not eating, or doing drugs, etc.. YOU ARE taking care of yourself and doing what you need to do. That alone proves that you have the determination and the common since to raise a child. Don't worry about what rude and ignorant things other people have to say. You just do what it takes for you to have a healthy pregnancy and GOOD LUCK with your new baby!!

Answer 8

You won't be a bad mother, and being on food stamps doesn't make you a bad mother either. You should eat right, but if anything being on foodstamps or wic makes you a better parent, your not letting you "pride" get in the way of getting help that you and your baby needs. I know a lot of people on food stamps, and there is nothing wrong with it. These people also have kids who loves them and have grown up to great. People on here and be jerks because they have nothing better to do than to argue with people or put them down over the internet.

Answer 9

Awww honey, don't worry about what people think. A lot of people jump on here just to make fun of others or put people down. Just remember, they don't know you or what you're capable of. You have friends and family that love you and that's all that matters. There are some people here who really want to help others and learn from others...focus on those people, not the mean ones. There's mean people everywhere you go, don't let it get you down. You know what you're worth and what you can offer that precious baby growing inside you.

I am wondering where the father is though, I hope he's there being your biggest supporter.

Good luck and congrats on the baby.

Answer 10

First off, when I was prego with my daughter I barely got the min. of the right amount of things to eat because I was puking for the first five months and lost 19pounds! During those month people say it's important to eat XYZ or the baby will have problems. Guess what? Perfectly healthy! Eat what you can...don't go hungry. That's what truely is important. How your getting that food doesn't matter. WIC is a great program, food stamps are helpful but widely recognized as not giving enough to people who truely need it. Food pantries are another thing that are very helpful.

Don't worry about what these people say. They dont' relize how hard it is to bend your pride and hold out your hand for help. They make it harder for people to do that because they judge them.

That's okay...someday if God is fair, they'll fall on hard times.