What has been the worst heart ache you've ever experienced?

Question

please tell me your stories of heartbreak,the worst experiences and deep sorrow..thanks

Answer 1

after trying to get pregnant for many years husband and i went through IVF (8 years of being married)we got pregnant only to lose our unborn child at 10 weeks..it has to be the worst heart ache having to be told during an ultrasound there was no heartbeat.our baby had die and still inside me.and having to hold my baby in one hand knowing i had failed..(test showed later there was nothing wrong with my little girl and i had done nothing wrong) after all those wonderful ultrasound pictures we had done to check and recheck our baby was ok it just wasnt ment to be for us.i still get choked up over it even after only a year.all the heart ache i had felt through my life was nothing compared to that one day.i held my dead baby in my hand.they say we can try again but im to scared to feel that kind of loss again.i do have one other child who is much older and i just pray i never have to loss him.i dont really think i have recovered from our loss till this day.

Answer 2

Losing my mom after helping her through a 26 month battle with bone marrow cancer. She felt like she was too young to die (she was diagnosed at 62 and died 10 days before her 65th birthday), and she was a beautiful woman, inside and out. She was in a lot of pain with her cancer, and for such a nice person, it was so unfair and cruel that it still hurts to think about how much she suffered.

She was like a sister to me my whole adult life, when I lived far away I would call her 2 or 3 times a week, sometimes 2 or 3 times a day! She listened to me all the time and was a great person with a lot of wisdom. We didn't always agree but she always let me be me, and that's sometimes hard for a parent to do. I liked to move to other states, she didn't move from PA her whole life, but she let me go wherever I wanted, even if she was scared for me.

And then I came home to stay with her for a while during my doctoral studies and soon after that was when she got sick, and then we bonded a lot more even, as we knew she was not winning her battle with cancer.

She was the love of my life, I loved her more than my own self and I would have gladly gone in her place. She wanted to see her grandkids grow up, she didn't want to leave her kids even though we are all adults. She was a nurse and a wonderful, caring person with a wicked sense of humor, and she was so humble! The world is such a crappier place without her.

It has been 5 and a half months, and I still cry every day. My heart will never, ever be the same. No one can take her place.

Answer 3

I am agnostic, so you will not hear anything about God from me. I understand how you are feeling. I have lost close relatives and have several friends who have lost even closer relatives such as a parent. The sadness and pain WILL go away. It is never easy to lose someone. I mean hell, when you date someone and they break up with you, just the feeling of not having that same relationship makes you feel lost and that alone hurts alot. but you move on and get over it. So when someone close to you dies, it will DEFINITELY take more time to move on and get past the pain, but it will happen . I have always loved the way Irish, as well as people from New Orleans, morn deaths. They celebrate that person's life. They tell stories, remember the good times, laugh, drink, and party. No one likes change, No one likes anything to be different after they get used to something. Ironically, everything changes all of the time. At some point, you will be at peace with your aunt's death. Just my best advice, celebrate their lives, and hope that you are able to live life as good as they did while they were alive.

Answer 4

Guess my worst heartbreak is the breakup of my 30 year marriage, I came home from work one afternoon and found my soon to be ex moving out, he was moving in with his recovering alcoholic girlfriend, he had been seeing her for over a year, I suspected nothing, no one we were associated with suspected anything, he was a very good actor, he was always where he was suppose to be, when he was suppose to be, at least that is what I thought. Guess he thought the grass was greener on the other side, but the only thing I can smile about is that the girlfriend has now kicked him out. She has a reputation for being a home wrecker, ours was not the first marriage she had broken up, it was about the 5th. Guess he thought he was so special that she would change for him, now he knows different. There is no chance for a reconciliation, I could never trust him again, and he is too stubborn to try and work things out. I hope it has all been worth it to him, it has cost him his marriage, a woman who trusted in him completely, his 23 year old son who has very little to do with him anymore, his in-laws (which I am sure he could care less about), most of his friends, and his family who no longer have much to do with him, as well as the respect of his sister who was dying with lung cancer at the time. Cheating never just affects you, I wish people could realize that. Well there's my story.

Answer 5

Due to a lawyer error, my former husband got a divorce without my knowledge (my lawyer didn't file response papers) AND got full legal custody of our 2 year old son (despite the fact we had been sharing him equally while separated).

Well I of course immediately filed counter papers to get that undone, but it was a really difficult fight. WIthin 2 months we had it negotiated to everything 50/50 -- and neither parent having greate or lesser rights than the other.

It ended well--but I thought I was going to die in those first few days..............it was horrible to think I had lost custody of my son over a bad lawyer, when I was an excellent mother with nothing negative to be said about me in that regard.

Answer 6

1) Wife's second son was arrested and convicted of two counts of first-degree murder. Sentenced to life in prison without the possibility of parole. 1997.

2) Wife's oldest son drowned while swimming. He was married and had a daughter that was not quite three years old. 2002.

3) Wife died from complications due to cancer after battling the illness for three years. 2006.

Heartbreaking enough for you? I have no idea why you would want to know about something like this, but you asked and I answered.

For the person above, you are too shallow for words. I would have gladly given my life for my wife to have lived.

Answer 7

My daughter's out of control, reckless, self-destructive, behavior since her teens. She has depression/bi-polar problems, problems with drugs, abusive boyfriends, pregnant at 17, couldn't take care of the baby -left baby w/aunt & uncle and may never get him back(not sure she wants to) off with another abusive broke, homeless boyfriend; she's usually unemployed(only a few crappy jobs that she lost before getting her first paycheck). Now 19yrs old and things don't appear to be improving.
Tried to help but I have very little myself, given so much money to get her on her feet that I'm now in financial trouble, yet it hasn't helped at all. she's just sank deeper into the hole.
Tried to have her live w/me until she got on her feet but she won't follow any rules, brings low-lifes that she doesn't even know in my place: screwed off her jobs to run around partying- usually only stopped in to change clothes, ask for money, or feed broke friends. Always takes off within a month to shack up with one scummy guy or another.

Finally had to say no more. She's not welcome to come back and stay in my apartment with my guy and his teenage son cause her behavior is not acceptable. Not going to keep handing her money or bringing her food, run to her rescue, etc.. when she calls. I've already said no dozens of times to "I need this and I need that" (Only a few moments of weakness when I got her a bus pass, and gave cash for classes and liscense so she can get a day care job. Hope that wasn't a total waste, too.)
I think this is the only way she will ever understand she can't continue this reckless behavior. That there are consequences for her actions (and non-action) she must suffer them before she learns SHE is the only one responsible for herself.
It's extremely painful and so very difficult to do this. I agonize over "what if there is something I could do that would really help- what if she is desperate and has no one at all to turn to?" and if she hates me for it will she become an even more wretched screwd up girl/woman?
My greatest heartaches are watching her destroy herself, while trying in vain to help; Turning her away when she says she's broke, hungry. I worry about how hard it will be to send her to the shelter the next time she's homeless.
I also torment myself with hindsight guilt. Examine all the things I did, or failed to do that might have contributed to my daughters problems. All the things I wish I could go back and do over cause maybe she could have been a happier more successful girl.

This heartache overshadows every aspect of my life She is always in my thoughts; is she hungry, unhappy, being abused...? It taints every happy or enjoyable moment with sadness and worry. It's a heartache that will not fade as long as my daughter is screwing up and unhappy.

Answer 8

Mine was losing my husband to a drunk driver 14 years ago. It was such senseless death because of someone else who chose to drink and drive. One day they are there and the next you get a call that they have been killed. The man who killed him spent a total of 18 months in prison for taking a life. He is out and still doing the same thing.

Answer 9

I HAD THE MOST MAGICAL TIME OF MY LIFE...WITH A, AND I'M HESITANT TO SAY, "ONE NIGHT STANDER." HE WAS IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP WHEN WE MET, I WASN'T AND DIDN'T REALIZE HE WAS "THAT COMMITTED"

AND TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT, WE HAD SOME GREAT TIMES TOGETHER. HE LIVED IN ANOTHER STATE BUT WOULD CALL ME QUITE OFTEN AT FIRST. THEN THE CALLS STARTED GETTING LESS & LESS FREQUENT. BUT MY HEART STILL TOLD ME THERE WAS SOMETHING "UNTOUCHABLE" THERE.

HE CONTACTED ME ABOUT A YEAR AGO AND THEN BACKED OUT ABOUT ME SEEING HIM. THIS SEPTEMBER WILL BE 5 LONG YEARS SCINCE WE'VE HAD ANY PHYSICAL CONTACAT AND THERE ISN'T A DAY THE PASSES THAT I DON'T THINK ABOUT HIM.

Answer 10

Men may come & men may go but your child will always be yours & there is an indescribable , maternal bond. Losing a child is the most heart breaking experience a parent can endure, & I would give me life for my kids but a man,NO!!