I have become very close, with my best friends girlfriend. I have known her for about 7 years and have been friends with her this whole time but in about the last year we have become really close, we talk nearly every day and hang out a couple times a week and I have fallen for her. Out of respect for her and my best friend I have already decided not to even bother letting either of them know or to pursue her out of repsect for our friendship and my best friends friendship. This however is killing me I think about her non stop and really do love her and want to be with her but I know I never can. My question is this. Can I still remain close friends with her and hope these feelings go away or should I distance myself from her and hope they go away?
2007-06-15 13:08:12 · 3 answers · asked by ThatGuy1978 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
your case appears complex if i put myself in your shoes. but gladly i am not and so this case doesnt perplex me so much . u have already answered your own question. u said that u respect both of them and u dont want to cheat on your friend .
u must understand that love does not translate into having the person u love into ur arms . true love is being their for her and being happy when she is happy
. so if she is happy with ur friend u b happy with your self. since u know that morally u should just let the love birds alone and transform your affection and respect for her into true and everlasting friendship.
all the best
2007-06-15 13:18:40 · answer #1 · answered by sweetgrl77777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should distance yourself a little bit, for the safety of your own feelings. Your best friend is clearly interested, if you tell her anything about it, it may catch her offguard and cause her to have second thoughts about the bf. If you hang out a lot, it's possible that you could convey your feelings without knowing it. I'd feel horrible if you lost your friendship, it's obviously an amazing one, and really strong, maybe you will work out to be even stronger friends without the chance of a relationship to mess that up.
2007-06-15 20:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by justcallme-crazy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're the only one that knows the answer. can you remain friends and keep your true feelings hidden? you can hope they pass but there's no guarantee. if you distance yourself from her, that means you'll also have to distance yourself from your best friend. how will you explain that? i think you need to pick the lesser of two evils here. i'm sure it wasn't intentional that you fell for her but, when you felt it coming is when you should have distanced yourself.
2007-06-15 20:17:09 · answer #3 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋