He treated me kind of badly when my own father died in Jan of 2006. I was crushed and overwhelmed with grief. He had a daughter living with him who was just manipulating him like you would not believe. Well, she is gone now with her kids and husband, so I kind of thought about putting the past behind me and doing something. I dont know if I should or not. What do you think? Somtimes I feel like paying him back for being such a jerk in some nasty way, but at the same time, I realize that is not healthy.
2007-06-15 13:03:38 · 10 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's not your dad, not your kids dad. Let someone else take care of his father's day, it's not up to you.
2007-06-15 13:05:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh... yeah, that is FATHER'S day. If he's no longer a father, no present. the only time a non-father could settle for a latest on father's day could be in the event that they're LIKE a father to you (consisting of a distinctive uncle, mom's long-time substantial different, step-father, or something). i think of it fairly is fairly odd. I even have in no way heard of this type of ingredient. you may spend the day, and your money appreciating your guy or woman father, that is HIS day! in case you and hubby have toddlers sometime, you've the exhilaration of helping them honor him (your husband) on father's day. A father's activity is fairly difficult... it sort of feels stupid to honor somebody for something they did no longer do.
2016-10-17 10:07:27 · answer #2 · answered by loy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not if you felt he treated you badly after your own father died. He doesn't really deserve it. But just think it was the thought that counted the most. Save your money and spend on your family who haven't treated you badly!!
2007-06-15 13:17:06 · answer #3 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paybacks are hell, and I don't mean that in a good way. If you are still with him, then why keep up the punishment? Do what you can to make today and tomorrow better.....being bitter about the past and trying to play "gotcha" or "one-ups-manship" is no way to heal a relationship.
If you need to do that--maybe you should just leave him?
2007-06-15 13:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ur right! it isnt! and maybe if u do something 4 him he;ll come 2 realize wat a jerk he's been and maybe will feel guilty although he might not show it..and remember keep positive ..cuz u seem 2 b that type already..and also remember that it feels good 2 do right and make others happy and that it feels great 2 b the better person!
2007-06-15 13:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention if he lives with you, if he has been the father figure to your own kids, supports them and takes care of them, then yes.
If you don't mean it from your heart, then don't do anything.
2007-06-15 13:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by Emerald 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does anything at all for your kids, with your kids and provides any support for them at all, then by all mean treat him as their dad. He may be doing the job but doesn't have the title.
2007-06-15 13:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by oldknowitall 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if he's not your father i think you should do something for him... fathers day is not limited for your father only........ even if he was a jerk it would be nice if you show kindness towards him... maybe he would realize the bad things he did towards you... its always nice to show compassion to other people you know^_^
2007-06-15 13:17:41 · answer #8 · answered by clea_eon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a card would be appropriate. Take the high road...maybe it will make him think and feel bad for how he treated you.
2007-06-15 13:42:59 · answer #9 · answered by mom of two 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not your father.
2007-06-15 13:05:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋