Is it really worth helping people!? They seem to just forget 10 minutes later and even when they thank me it doesn't mean they really appreciate what I've done. I started out not wanting anything in return, but there's actually NOTHING given back and I always end up alone, I'd probably just be better off being a dick. Is it really worth helping people and if so why cos I'm really starting to doubt it!
2007-06-15 12:21:43 · 12 answers · asked by spark 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If you are able to help people, count yourself a very fortunate person. I don't know what kind of help you provide and to whom you provide the help, but EVEN if there's nothing coming back to you, it's still worth helping out.
Remember helping people should not necessarily have a boomrang effect. If you help people, your payment should be in terms of satisfaction.
Congratulations for providing help and please do not stop.
2007-06-15 12:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by maryc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In other words you have shown the horse where the water is but now don't understand why it isn't drinking. After all that work and it doesn't even drink and now you are upset. At least you wanted it to drink and so to say you wanted nothing at first but later you are frustrated which means you must have wanted something. You were looking for self pleasure at the expense of those you help and it didn't come. And in the end the whole payoff is now you have internally given yourself permission to be a d.... so you did get something out of it after all. Maybe your altruism and egotism need some brushing over to find out what you really are all about. Perhaps a mirror...?
2007-06-15 19:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by JORGE N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just don`t realize the help that they get. They run with the assistance that you have given them at that moment, but as soon as they are out of the office, they are back to themselves in their own little world completely forgetting about what you just discussed.
This could be a combination of maybe they are not relating to you and maybe the info that you have given them turned out worse than what they thought. Or they are just purely stubborn, and that is when they need to learn on their own. No amount of advice could provide people who don`t want to listen, any resolutions.
If you now expecting something in return, than you need to stop. You should be satisfied with the help that you have given. And ending up alone, I don`t understand, are you looking for relationships with people when you see them at their low points. Is that not taking advantage of that person and their self-esteem (and of course my question mark button just broke--crap).
If you feel that it is not worth your time and effort, career change, or if this is not your regular job, then stop being a lay-down-the-couch psychologist and stick to what ya know.
2007-06-15 19:51:47 · answer #3 · answered by jesterthemutt2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it still is worth doing it even if they do forget. No, if you are going to act this way whenever you don't get back. When you help someone, you should get a warm feeling inside that tells you have done something good. This problem is kind of like donating to charity. For instance, if you donate $100 to a charity and give back nothing, are you going to complain, or are you going to feel proud of yourself.
2007-06-15 19:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you do something for someone do it just because it makes you feel better about yourself and not expecting anything back. just do it and dont waite for a thank you so you can let themn know that you are a good person and you are not going to turn bad just for the fact that they dont tell you thank you or getting nothing back. being able to help people is the best thing someone can have, not everybody can help. you should be proud.
2007-06-16 02:19:41 · answer #5 · answered by maku g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show more respect to your time and energy. If you don't, other people won't. And, don't help others who don't ask for it or initially say no to your offer of help.
Believe me, people can sense that you helping them is an attempt at manipulating them into liking you, and nobody likes to be manipulated.
BTW, when you enjoy yourself, other people see that. Those who enjoy the same things will naturally be attracted to you. That's how you make friends. But if you are a down-in-the-dumps type dude, nobody wants any part of that, except for other down-in-the-dumpers.
2007-06-15 19:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by Happy Little Moron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet you say this to yourself aaaalll the time. And then you get mad at them, and then at yourself. And then you decide heck with it, they're on they're own.
And then they ask for a favor and you help them out all over again, because that's who you are. You could try to be a dick, but you'd feel awkward and end up apologizing two seconds later.
You're a nice guy. Get used to it.
2007-06-15 19:40:17 · answer #7 · answered by Majin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you expect something back in return after helping people, then stop doing it! Because it's fairly obvious that you have no sense of achievement or satisfaction in what you do. Have a good day.
2007-06-15 19:27:48 · answer #8 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I only really help people that I care a lot about, and then only if they ask. I never expect anything in return except their appriciation.
2007-06-15 19:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm here for ya, buddy, don't worry, what goes around comes around. Just hang in there.
2007-06-15 19:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by illbegone_likeabatouttahell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋