Hubby and I have a 7wk old daughter and our anniversary is approaching. We haven't had a whole lot of quality time together since baby has been born (obviously) because she is the centre of everything. For our anniversary hubby would like to go out for a long leisurely night and spend the entire night away from baby. My mum would look after our daughter for the night while we "spent quality time together".
I've been separated from her for a few hours here and there with my mum as babysitter while i ran errands etc but never overnight! My mum and hubby think its a great idea - but i'm hesitant about leaving my daughter overnight. Not that i don't trust my mum but i've never really been apart from her in the whole 7wks - and shes my baby girl! I know the outing would do hubby and i a world of good but ... well shes so young and so little and i just don't know how i would cope not seeing her all night!
Thoughts anyone? Anyone else have the same misgivings? How did you go?
2007-06-15 12:18:33 · 18 answers · asked by Smiley One 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I think you should go out with your hubby, your ann. comes but once a year and you will have the rest of your life with you child, Plus it will give you a chance to see your husband as your husband and not just daddy, it will do you two good your mum will be fine she raised you right,
2007-06-15 12:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My son is almost a year old and I have yet to leave him overnight. I have no problem leaving him for a few hours, but overnight seems so long, waking up and not having that baby right there with you, seems so heartbreaking. I'm also 4 months pregnant so in November I am going to have to leave him overnight probably for 2 nights, while I'm in the hospital, with his father of course, and it still upsets me. I would maybe see if your Mom could just watch her in your home and you guys could stay out late and then maybe when you come home she would be sleeping. (Don't know what kind of sleeping patterns your daughter has at 7 weeks, I know my son slept briefly.) I wish you the best of luck with your decision. I'm sure everything will be fine no matter what you do.
2007-06-15 12:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by Brandi Lyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me that first night away is going to be difficult no matter what age they are. I have a 22 month old and he has spent a few nights away from home, and I still wake up in the morning missing him. I would never leave my kids for the night with a baby sitter (nothing against them) But I am quite happy to leave them with family. Believe me, you will enjoy the time together without the baby, but you will very much look forward to going and getting her in the morning.
2007-06-15 14:44:22 · answer #3 · answered by Mum_of_2.5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't spend th enight away from my daughter until she was 18 months old and my other daughter is 4 months and I could not imagine leaving her overnight. Why does she need to be gone overnight? Your mom could watch her while you go out and you could still have 'quality time' with her home, I mean she sleeps doesn't she? And you might not enjoy yourself with your hubby if your worrying about the baby.
2007-06-15 12:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by slmuir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the SAME WAY. It was hard even leaving her with my parents for my husband's birthday. Was my first night away. There's no problem with doing so looking back now, just take your cell and call whenever you get a gut feeling or simply want to check up :). Men generally don't understand but it is important that you give your husband a night of you to himself. But don't expect him to feel what you feel. In a few months you'll be GLAD you had a night to yourself. At first they are so precious... so I understand. Good luck! Oh and I'm sure she already knows but it's good (makes you feel better) to leave the contact info of your baby's pediatrician. And tell her where you'll be incase cells don't work for whatever reason.
2007-06-15 12:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by xuliganwhit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was nearly 3.5 years old before I spent a night away from him, and then it was only because I was in the hospital giving birth to our daughter. You do what you feel comfortable with. It's certainly not unheard of for people to spend a night or two away from a young baby.
2007-06-15 12:27:37 · answer #6 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never been away overnight from my son and he's 15 months.
I have only gone out farther than the park (2 blocks) once, to a party. He was about 10 months. I left him with my grandma who I trust. Even so we were only gone 3 or 4 hours.
If you aren't comfortable with it don't do it. They aren't babies for very long.
2007-06-15 12:24:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out, have fun, and don't feel guilty. There is nothing greater than spending the night at grandmas!! Really, children who are fortunate enough to have grandparents in their life should be aloud to soak up every minute of it. My 2 1/2 spends the night over her "mum mums" once every couple of weeks and loves it!
2007-06-15 14:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you it gets easier the more you have. But my kids have never had a "babysitter" they alway stayed with family so I never worried and since I didn't worry I was fine. I feel more guilt now that our youngest is 8. You need to get out!! Enjoy yourself, call every so often, and you will be just fine.
2007-06-15 12:25:32 · answer #9 · answered by Flutterby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i had my mom watch my son at 5 days old so we could celebrate our 2nd wedding anniversary..and if it is with your mom i wouldnt worry..you need a break too and have a good time ..you deserve it after delievering a baby and then on top of that taking care of her..trust me i know ..it feels good to get out once in a while..but i still call to check up on my son when i do go out..good luck..
2007-06-15 20:21:09 · answer #10 · answered by ~Ashley~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋