My babys father and I do not get along for anything.We both have feelsings for eachother and there is some kind of "I want to get back with you and be a real family" but after all is said and done he's still with the chick he left me and my daughter who will be coming soon,he's still with her.And during my pregnancy he and I have not made it easy for my pregnancy because I have a short temper and alot of ill feelings towards him because he hurt me.Well somethings hit the fan and I took a lil' vacation away from home.I realized that he brings out the worst and me and I feel that it is a good idea to just have a middle man to deliver all the info about doctors just so I wont be stressed out with my pregnancy anymore and we wont have to be in front of eachother and I just need to know,that would be best wouldnt it to stay away from eachother for the rest of my pregnancy,i want to be healthy and stress free for my baby?
2007-06-15 11:52:14 · 7 answers · asked by georgia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This doesn't sound like a very healthy relationship, so you are right to want to get a middle man. You do not need to be stressed out any more than you already are, so being around him would not be a good idea. If he is that bad for you, and brings out the worst in you, even when you are not pregnant, then you should not even consider getting back with him. You can still be a family, just one with a mother and father living in different houses. This might be the best, not only for you, but for your daughter as well. It is wonderful that you are thinking about what is best for your baby, but you need to also think what will be the best for her in years to come. Having a mother and father constantly fighting, or having a happy home with her mother, and seeing her father outside of that home.
2007-06-16 01:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing good to be said for a man who leaves his pregnant wife/girlfriend for any reason, especially another woman. You are only hurting that innocent unborn baby. Please heed your own advice, and keep away from him. Relay any information he needs to know regarding the baby through someone else. He's already proven to be someone you can't trust, depend on, and lean on. You're going through a lot already. Pregnancy is not easy. Take care of yourself. Lean on family for support. You really don't need a man like that in your life, but just keep in mind, he IS the father of your child. Unless he proves to be a bad father, he has the right to see his child. Good luck.
2007-06-15 12:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't agree with you more that in this very stressful time, you don't want more stress added on. Could you ask a good friend - or any friend who has been through this and knows what's involved - or even a professional 'doula' (there are such people who do this for a fee and they are pretty good at it) - to help you as your due date approaches. She or he could hold your hand, keep a cool washcloth handy for you, fill up your cup with ice chips, etc. All the things you are not going to want to think of yourself. Then, that person could be there, help you through it, and then call your baby's father and tell him to get on over and meet his infant daughter!
You don't want to build a wall between your ex-bf and his daughter. She's going to be in his life forever and he in hers.
2007-06-15 12:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a smart move your making with the middle man, of course sooner or later you two will have to deal with each other face to face, but hopefully by that time you and he have gotten past some of the ill feelings toward each other. I applaud you for doing what is right for your child.
2007-06-15 12:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both are very young and emotionally immature. Do the best thing for the baby and stay away from each other.
2007-06-15 12:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your better off apart.
Staying together for a baby just to make a nice "perfect family" isnt the right thing to do.
As long as the baby is takin care of and has you and you love him. Things will be fine.
2007-06-15 12:01:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chose a middle man, you are right to stay away, and he will still get the information that he has a right to.
2007-06-15 12:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by Ivy_Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋