my son was doing real good in school and was getting called names and bulled from kids at school and i talked to the teacher ' the principle about this and they said we;ll talk to the kids that were doing it..now the tables have turned and my son is hitting pushing and of course name calling...These 3 kids were calling him gay and morgan ;as his name is Morgan...he had 2 friend and now he has started hitting them and now he cannot even go to their houses as 1 kid told the mom of his problem' which is he can;t keep his hands to himself...he has been i therapy for 3ys and his therapist now sees him every other week ' and i called his boss and said i need him to spend more time with my son as he;s really messing up.. I believe that all the bulling and name calling got us where we are now,If the school would of done something about it instead of ignoring it,,,I don;t know what to do as now he won;t even listen to me and summers coming and i can;t send him to family as we have none.
2007-06-15 11:34:31 · 5 answers · asked by Cami lives 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
welcome to my world, My son is 14 although his problems didnt start in school he was born different is what I said and we have been in therapy for 8 years and they have not help at all. Therapy for kids isn't what it is made out to be. My son has been in a lot of trouble in school, law home, families and every one just thinks it's the parents fault. The courts wont do anything here, the state wont help , I taken every parenting class and nothing works. He has a pending court case now, and the cops were just at my house for him throwing rocks at the neighbors kid. Maybe your state or county will help, as once your kid is labeled bad it is bad news , as all teachers and the principles think that is was something you did to screw the kid up. I wish you all the luck, as I know how frustrating this can be on a mother and the whole family. Mine started out just hitting his brother and sistrs but now he even raise his fist to me and his dad, and my father. Best of luck to you , I will pray for you.
2007-06-15 12:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by diane33michigan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hnnnm this could be one of many things, you going to have to try them and see what you get.
ok first off try to channel his anger into a sport, maybe something like judo.
another you could try is some discipline, to me it sounds like you are not doing anything at home to combat this behavour, are you showing your son hitting is wrong? its all good blameing it on the school, but that wont hold up in court because i can tell you now, he keeps doing this and in a few years someone will press charges. start grounding him every time he has a violent outburst, this will help his temper and teach him self control.
yes the school messed up with your son, but you cant keep useing that as an excuse, you need to show some tuff love.
is his father still in the picture? if not it sounds like he could do with a positive male role model in his life, if dad is still in the picture him and dad need to have a man to man chat about this. or if you cant do that - get grand dad, an uncle or even a male friend to give him a chat about how real men are and that real men dont lash out.
whatever you do, remember, you need to teach him self control and not to lash out
2007-06-15 12:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have an organization in Dallas called the Center for Concerned Citizens. They run an adolescent boot camp. The boys (or girls) come every Sat & Sun for a month in uniform from 9am to 5pm and listen to inspirational bust your butt speakers and this is what happened to me speakers, then they do push ups and move huge piles of dirt from one side of the parking lot to the other. It's run by police sergeants--big black dudes no one would dare to defy. My son attended this camp years ago and he would do anything, anything to never return.
You need a new therapist (do you have a psychiatrist, because you need one of those, too) and possibly a new school.
2007-06-15 11:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he needs is a sport. Find one he likes and get him involved. I play hockey, so that comes to mind....imagine that.
But he needs some physical activity to take out aggression with. Coult be anythin tho. Skateboardin, swimmin, whatever....
2007-06-15 11:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cant be in the office for 4 weeks,
school is pretty well done!
2007-06-15 12:48:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋