If a husband tells his wife in September of '06 that he didn't love her any more, couldn't possibly love her any more and didn't want to work on the marriage, the divorce is final in December of '06. That very weekend he had moved in with a woman and was engaged to said woman. I use the term "woman" loosely. He was remarried to said "woman" in March of '07. He says there was no affair. What do you think?
2007-06-15 11:27:31 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your obviously bitter. Move on!!! Your divorced!! He can do whatever he wants to do! So what if he had an affiar, at least your out of the marriage before you found out! Holding onto wondering if he was or not is childish. Let it go!
2007-06-15 11:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Ashley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There was certainly an emotional affair.
However, because of the quick timing of everything, there's a good chance he's telling the truth. If he simply wanted to have an affair, he would have. But no, he divorced, moved out and THEN took up with the other woman. I think he did the most honorable thing possible given the situation.
2007-06-15 11:32:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The math does not need to be done. 2+2=4. Yes it is a no brainer that he had something going on. If he didn't he is still a dummy for jumpin in so quick. Does not make you feel better I'm sure.
However ,,,,just remember the 'woman' got a cheater and she is always going to be wondering what he is up to when he is not around. He is going to be giving an account for every away moment. What a miserable man that will be.
I'm sure that wil go both ways with them. Give it a few years. I'm sure he will fall miserably.
I,m sorry to hear this happened to you but just try and realise he is married now and you are where you are.
Best of wishes from Washington.
2007-06-15 11:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by Mike R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you care ?
Fact : Divorce was finalized in December 06...
Fact: you two are no longer together, legally or financially...for the most part unless children are involved...
What else does it mean ?
it means you're obsessed and are living in the past...
it means move on get a new life and be happy...or try to be...
it means the ex has a new life and is happy.. leave him alone.
Who cares if he says there was no affair and he was honest...he could have been honest ? you don't know that ? he could have lied too ? But again..YOU DONT KNOW THAT..FOR A FACT..
there could be and there couldn't be.... but who cares about nitty gritty details....Divorce was finalized he's re-married..end of story.
2007-06-15 12:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by cnn360coffeebubbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he or didn't he have an affair? It's possible either way. The real question is have you moved on to the point where his actions or inactions do not influence you? I think you feel betrayed because this seems to have blindsided you. Acknowledge and accept your feelings but, the truth is regardless of his actions you were true to him. Once you heal someone wonderful will see that in you and appreciate you for all the things he did not. And when it does happen it truly won't matter anymore. I truly think the more you think about it, or worry about whether or not it occurred the longer it will take for you to find your joy again, cuz right now he is stealing it...
2007-06-15 12:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if they had something going on at the time, perhaps not an affair but definitely an interest. He seems to be a needy person who is incapable of having an intimate and caring relationship. Nor is he honest. Most people who cheat on their spouse will do so again when the first rush of romance wears off.
2007-06-15 11:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I left my ex in May of 04, met someone new in July of 04, moved in together in Sept of 04, and got married in May of 05. But I was not having an affair on my ex (dispite his MANY accusations to the contrary). So I would have to say from my own experience that yes, it is possible. In fact, I didn't even meet my husband until after my ex and I had already split. So it is possible.
2007-06-15 11:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by lupinesidhe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say, but most likely he was at the very least talking with the woman before the original marriage/relationship was over.
2007-06-15 12:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing if he had an affair doesn't change anything that happened. Why continue to worry yourself about this? Would you want to live your life with someone who didn't care about you? Things happen for a reason, and the more you think about "him" the longer it takes for you to get on with your life. As hard as it is, let him go. He isn't wasting his time thinking about you, so why should you think about him?
2007-06-15 11:47:33 · answer #9 · answered by JoliCart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does it matter? From the sound of it...you are better off without him. As for an answer...yes, it is possible that there was no affair.
2007-06-15 11:35:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋