I met her at my gym and been on a few dates.She seems nice and shes not a troll.But all my friends said there must be something wrong with her if shes that old with no children and never married.What would you guys think about dating someone like this?
2007-06-15 11:25:00 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well if she had told you she's still a virgin, too, at 38 then I'd really get worried. (Or say she's a blatant liar. But then I'd be even more worried about YOU for dating a virgin for 3 weeks at your age, unless you're just a kid.)
Most likely she's been in her share of relationships that just didn't work out. Why not just ask her and find out her story?
2007-06-15 12:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what, I'm 32, never married, no kids, not a troll eIther! Lol! Oh, and not lesbian by the way just to cover all the bases. Just because I'm female does not mean my main goal is to get married and have children first. Would you be more comfortable in the relationship if she had had 3 broken marriages and children from each? If you honestly like her, but are seriously listening to your friends opinions, without asking her yourself, I can see why she might not be married! Lol. Maybe she is picking the wrong guys/ short term relationship material. Sorry to be so harsh, but imagine how she might feel knowing that your friends have propted you to question her worth. Ouch!!!
2007-06-15 12:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by tonka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just beccause she is 38 never married and no kids something must be wrong with her? Are you f-ing kidding? If she had a couple kids would that make her better? A failed marriage would that make her normal?
Maybe she is waiting to find the RIGHT guy.
Maybe she doesn't want or can't have kids.
Maybe she is so secure in herself that she doesn't need a man and a family to feel complete.
Maybe she is lying to you.
Who the hell knows, but being never married and childless doesn't make you weird.
2007-06-15 11:36:39 · answer #3 · answered by Still*Perfect 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman that's not married at the age of 38 is a smart woman. She probably was waiting for the right guy to come along to spend her entire life with and haven't found one yet. If she has no children and never been married that's a good woman with a lot of knowledge.
2007-06-15 11:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by military_person 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with her because this happens too a lot of women. My cousin is 37 and she does not have children but she was married before for a short time. Some women also put they careers first and focus on a family once they are established.
2007-06-15 11:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all weird! Women of today have smartened up and realized that you're not a spinster if you choose to wait to get married. Too many women married way too young a generation ago and many have paid the price - divorce, stuck in an unhappy marriage, etc. She sounds like she's an independent young woman who knows her mind and will settle down when she finds someone who meets her expectations. You go, girl!
2007-06-15 11:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by MISS LINDA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its becoming more and more common. Women are now focusing on their careers rather than family.
It also depends on where you live. I live in an area that still has many traditional values. Once women get to be about 30 they are expected to at least be in a relationship that will head toward marriage. In more rural areas this is expected at younger ages.
My husband's cousins live in rural Alabama, when we were down there one tried to convince me to have children before 25 (we don't want them for about 4 more years..at least, when I will be 28.
However I have relatives who live in suburbs of a large city and none of them got married until they were 34...one just had a baby at 42.
So a lot has to do with where you live.
I would give her the benefit of the doubt.
2007-06-15 11:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you divorced with kids?
Maybe she spent the early part of her life focusing on her career? Maybe she is choosy and hasn't found the right person?
There COULD be something wrong with her but don't start off thinking this way!
If you go into the relationship looking for faults, you will DEFINITELY find some and might ruin a promising relationship.
2007-06-15 11:33:33 · answer #8 · answered by Matt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say go for it. She maybe hasn't found that special someone yet. I'd find out why she never married. She may have an answer that could surprise you. Some women want to get their careers going. Some women can't have kids for medical reasons. Talk to the lady and let her explain.
2007-06-15 11:47:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't bother me in the least bit !!!
Just because she hasn't followed the
'social' tradition of marriage and children
doesn't mean that something is wrong
with her !! Keep an open mind , maybe
she doesn't want those things.... maybe
she voicing her rights to be independent...
then again, maybe in her eyes , Mr. Right
hasn't come along !!! There could be a
thousand reasons !!!!!
2007-06-15 12:16:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋