i want a baby and im a teen. what should or could i do?

Question

ok i'm a preteen i'm a virgin and not a ho but i really badly want a baby and don't tell me to wait until my 20s i cant wait that long i just want a baby now i don't care if it is a boy or a girl but i just want one i always like looking after children i used to help reception class when i was at middle school and loved it them sitting on my knees and me singing songs to them and reading stories playing with them but i want a kid of my own im prepared to do whatever there is just as long as i can have my own baby to take care off i luv children they r my idol i cant go on living with out them so i used to have a job babysitting little kids i just want a baby so my question is.... what or should i do to have my own baby????

Answer 1

just wait.
babysit.

you aren't old enough.
wait.

Answer 2

Okay you are prepared, you have the ability to support this child 100% both financially, emotionally, mentally and physically? I highly doubt that. I am not bashing you, because I too had a baby at a young age and it was the toughest thing I ever done. I didn't think it would be so difficult, I lost many friends (no big deal), I lost a lot of my youth (okay again no big deal). Now my baby is almost 17 and I look at how much I couldn't give her. I gave her all the love I had and yet now she is about to enter the real world and I have held her back because I couldn't wait. How? I couldn't afford those dance classes all those years and now she is busting her tail to do what it takes to follow her dream as a dancer. Had I have waited until I had my stuff together my baby would have had a much easier life. You can love a baby with all your heart but sometimes especially in todays society and todays fast past world it just isn't enough. I suggest that instead of going and getting yourself pregnant, surround yourself with children as you already are doing. Volunteer your time rather than get paid, because when you do become a mommy, its all volunteer and no one will pay you to watch and care for that child.

Answer 3

I have to say that many people have been the same shoes. You are going through a stage. I know you don't want to hear this but you will get over it. I had alot of friends that had kids when we were in high school and their lives were very difficult.

I'm not saying that their lives were ruined but if you asked them they love their children but wished they would of waited a bit longer. They tell me they miss hanging out with their friends, even going out whenever they want, they miss their own mom and dads.

There are lots of responsibilties that go along with this, Do you have someone to share this with? Do you have the income? How will you deal with school and work and raising your own family? Where will you live? What will you do for healthcare for you and your child (FYI the first year alone will cost you thousands if you dont have insurance)

Please think about this and also being that you are still a virgin is great news. You are worth more than that and you are still a baby yourself. Maybe start off small like a dog or something you have to take care of yourself. I know the feeling of wanting your own kids. I babysat myself for years and always wished I had my own but remember those kids you can give back if something happened. With your own kids you have to deal with everything along with the good and bad.

I am glad you went on here for some advice. Be wise, stay young at heart and remember your whole life is ahead of you.

Good luck hun!

Answer 4

you could wait and work in a nursey in the summer. I know it seems like you want one now, and you could proably be a good mom, but there is more to taking care of kids then just reading , singing, playing ect . You need a good job to raise the child. There are lots of hospital bills, doctor bills, medicine, diapers, clothing. shelter . Then you also will have to leave you child in a day care for someone else to rasie becasue you will have to get 2-3 lowing paying jobs that wont pay your bills because you wont have the education. Then as well as they grow up and some can become very troubled kids and there are a whole set of new problems.
Please wait and donate your time to children sick in the hospital (see how thier parents are holding up), daycares, nurseys, child abuse services. It was very overwhelming when I had my first and i was married . I was 18.
Trying getting one of those baby's from school and keep it for a few weeks or month. Talk to a counsler please, becasue it is to late when you do this and you didnt think every thing through. The child you loved so much may seem to much for you later. Please wait till your are old enough to make the right directions

Answer 5

Wanting a baby does not mean you need to have one right now. You've got two parts of your personality driving you nuts:

1) You enjoy nurturing children. This is a passion that our society can't get enough of. You can find lots of great ways to improve your skills - babysitting and volunteering to work with kids. Find a way to spend time with adults who love to work with kids - you might learn lots of great skills, even start to learn about child development.

2) You're becoming passionate about your interests. As middle school approaches, and you become more capable, you're going to think about all the things you could be. Most of these things are in the future, whether you want to be a pop star or a fire fighter. Which is great, because this is a time of life to try on different identities.

Becoming a 24 hour a day parent at this age would steal the time you need to finish developing you. Which would be a bummer, because we need people to grow up to be preschool teachers, pediatricians, social workers, physical therapists, and lots of other cool jobs for people who love kids.

Answer 6

oh god , hun u are just a little girl u have no idea what it takes to raise a child , sure playing wit kids and babysitting can be fun but acutally having and raising ur own child is an entirely different thing which is very hard, and not just that why would u want to worry about another life right now when u haven't even had a chance to experience yours, there is so many things u still have to do before u have a child, and it wouldn't be fair to the child right now either u can't afford to raise it, i doubt there would be a father around, u are just a child u don't have the knowledge or life experience to have a child right now so just stick to playing it other peoples kids , and babysitting

Answer 7

Just keep babysitting. You want one now. But, when you're 15, 16, 17 and 18 years old, all of your friends will be going out and having fun, without a care in the world. You don't want to be stuck at home raising a child. You'll have no money and time for fun. You'll miss out on the joys of being a teenager. I know babies are wonderful. But, they grow up and little kids are not as much fun as babies. Imagine being 16 or 17 and having a 4 or 5 year old child to take care of, day and night. You'll have to do your homework and help them with theirs. There will be plenty of time for plenty of babies when your done being a kid. Besides all of that, labor and giving birth is REALLY PAINFUL!!!!!

Answer 8

You are much too young to have a baby. If you are still in middle school, how will you be able to earn money to buy clothes and diapers for the baby? Are you willing to give up going out with your friends so you can take care of the baby? How about waking up several times at night to feed the baby? Are you willing to clean up poo, pee, spit, snot, and other bodily fluids on a daily basis? Do you realize that the baby will only be a "baby" for a very short time, and then you will be stuck taking care of it for the next 18 years at the least?
My advice to you is to get an after school job working at a day care center for a few hours a week, preferably in the infant room. That will satisfy your desire to be with babies, and give you a realistic idea of all the work that goes into taking care of them.

Answer 9

You must be rich. A child is expensive. and you have no income.

Are you ready to give up the next twenty years???? That is how long it takes to raise a child. During that time you will have almost no other life.

So if you are even slightly bright you will make excellent grades, get an education and then as an adult when you are able to support yourself and a baby. Then you can do it. Having a child of your own is not baby sitting it is 24/7/365/20.

Get smart .

Answer 10

Ask your mom to talk to the school to rent you one of those "Baby think it over dolls". Seriously. It will give you a small glimpse of what you have coming if you have a baby.

I'm sorry to say, and I know you don't want to hear it, but you likely have severe emotional issues and a need to have someone in your life to love and accept you unconditionally. A child is not going to do this for you.

You are a PRETEEN. You have the very best years of your life coming up. Children are indeed blessings, but they are blessings that can wait until you are financially and emotionally able to support them.

You know the answers you are going to get on here. I think deep down you want someone to talk you out of this. I only hope that you listen to one of them.

You also must consider the feelings of whoever fathers this baby. Most 13 year old boys I know are more interested in the latest video game than spending free time changing diapers...heck, even most guys in their 20s!

And lets just say hypothetically that you are completely emotionally ready and finances are of no concern. Are you prepared to deal with the physical ramifications of having a child? You are not nearly done growing. Your stretch marks will be horrendous. You'll likely not be able to give birth naturally and end up with a massive C section scar. I have one, believe me, they are not cute.

All that aside, are you prepared to deal with the social stigma of being a teenage mother? Are you prepared to be called derogatory names by your peers? Ask any teenage mother, even those that didn't want children, what a day in their life is like. They are given labels that are often undeserved, but follow them nonetheless.

Answer 11

Believe it or not, this urge you have will become bearable... part of beeing a teenager is having "i just can't wait" feelings. Having a baby is not something you do for "fun." Babies are people, not pets. They deserve mature, stable parents. Try getting an animal, volunteering in a church nursery, or help a busy mom out with her kids. Keep focused on things like school and someday attending college or a tech school so that you will be able to afford children.