2007-06-15 09:12:05 · 35 answers · asked by Supersirroux 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is the most wonderful feeling in the world to be loved and in a marriage...but never take anything for granted. Always make sure your priority in life is your husband/friend/lover.
2007-06-15 09:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by Scott O 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Things are messed up. Your g/f gave you that ultimatum because she probably felt the vibe from you for your friend. If your friend is just that then accept it. You've done just that for so long. Unless she feels the same way about you, then you need to move on. Have your g/f's whatever. But if your friend is truely your friend, I would not take that ultimatum again. True friendships are a lot harder to come by than girlfriends. I guess I would talk to your friend. If she has been there for you all this time, why would she not be there for you now. She might get freaked out about what you have to say, but at least it's off your chest and then a dicision can be made about where to go from there. Good luck!
2016-05-21 03:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure it is right. The divorce rate is so high because things aren't what people expected. Marriage is a full time job. The first 2 yaers are the best years that you will ever have and after that well lets say you become used to each other and a lot of times fall in a rut. Don't hurry to get married!
2007-06-15 09:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by someones friend 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My answer is, there is no pat answer. I believe it has to do with who you are and who you are with and how the relationship works.
I have been married 39 years, and it does not have to be boring. It is about sharing and compromise, but also about truly loving and caring and letting someone into your life. It can be totally enriching and stimulating.
There are times when it has been sooo frustrating and times when it has been harsh.
But if you love someone, you have to put up with some disappointments, as long as it isn't abuse.
The bottom line is, you have to willing to live with every part of that person...to enjoy the parts you love and like. But you also to tolerate stuff that is annoying and irritating and sometimes yukky!
They have to be willing to do the same. It isn't always easy...and it doesn't necessarily work out--there's no way that every relationship could. There's no guarantee, there's no way to control another person or the future, so no matter what, there is a gamble.
I hope that helped.
2007-06-15 09:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by Ravenfeather 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people say marriage "takes a lot of hard work".
I wouldn't use those words, exactly, but I will say marriage takes patience, and you need to be able to compromise from time to time.
I have been married for 6 years, and there have been good times as well as bad times, but those things are going to happen in life regardless whether you are married or not.
Being married gives you someone to help you through the tough times, and someone to share the good times with.
There are many ups and downs, but it is all worth it.
I wish you all the best, whatever road you decide to take.
2007-06-17 03:52:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I love being married. When have been together for 12 years. Married for 7 years, we are both 29 and have 3 beautiful kids. We have been through what feels like everything. Lots of good times, lots of bad times. But at the end of the day when the kids are in bed it feels great to have someone next to you, to talk to, someone you love, the person you decided to have children with. It will not ever be perfect not even close, but to be with someone you love is one of the greatest things in the world. To know this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
2007-06-15 10:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by cindy3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for me it is great!!! Having someone there to comfort, hug, love, talk to , cry with, or just support is a wonderful thing. I think that marriage just shows that you are committed to that person for life, but I really don't see any difference in living together, and marriage. I know that we have been through some rough times, and I also know that we work as a team, dealing with each conflict/situation together! That is the most important thing!!!! Good Luck!
2007-06-15 09:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by Jilly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was once told by a woman that you judge a man by how he treats his mother that might gove you some clue as to how married life will be with you.
This information is deeper then it seems so thing about it because the explaination of the logic behind it would take pages if not a small book.
2007-06-15 09:31:16 · answer #8 · answered by Lou 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think being married feels great. As long as you trust the person that you're with and love them, then it is great because you have a teammate- someone who is always there for you and on your side.
It is definately work and it is hard. You need to make sure that you are ready for a real commitment and that you will be there for your partner for the rest of your life.
Good luck!
2007-06-15 09:18:44 · answer #9 · answered by dustyk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you believe you chose the right person and both of you are atleast old enough to make mature decsions...if you are ready to share everything of yours with her/him, (that includes sharing the chores)lol...it will work out great...Love on its won won't matter, you have to have a house, to be without tension, you have to have a job...you have to have mature understanding...
Im married, and yes it feels great...sometimes i do not realize how lucky i am to have soemone beside me all the time...not all marriages work out fine..so think alot before getting married.
However, i encourage you if you feel you are ready for it..life will seem much better and much more stable...its feels more than just being in love...
2007-06-15 09:21:23 · answer #10 · answered by SSK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋