I've noticed (and I'm guilty as well) that women who normally have good sense and a fairly decent home are willing to throw caution to the wind for an ex. It usually has something to do with how wonderful he is and how he listens. Ladies, what's wrong with us? Where's our will power?
2007-06-15 08:21:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Apologies, if anyone takes this question as a generalization. I'm just going by the numerous questions that I have seen asked about this subject. If this does not apply to you or offends you, please just don't answer.
2007-06-15 09:11:51 · update #1
I think this is even more true when they are old boyfriends from our youth - maybe our first love or the man we lost our virginity to. Everyone gets a case of 'the grass is greener' syndrome - both men and women, but I think we women tend to be more sentimental. I know many women who would never dream of cheating on their husbands with 'just anybody' but when faced with the prospect of going down memory lane with their first lover, would probably do it.
2007-06-15 08:35:54 · answer #1 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Funny you should ask! I must say I am in that situation right now. He's not exactly an "ex"...we never "dated" if you know what I mean. But since I got engaged and now married, he misses me and wishes we had given it a chance. We had flirted via text and he's asked me to go out for a drink on several occassions which I've declined because I have a bad feeling if I went, all will power would be gone! He is without question my "what if"/"the one that got away" guy.
Sorry, this probably isn't answering your question, but at least you are not alone!
2007-06-15 16:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by mowgli4602 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is explained - at least in part- by the fact that as time passes we tend to remember the nice times and the good moments, while we forget the ugly details and the arguments...(It is a way-a kind of defense mechanism- our mind has when coping with memories.)
Nothing is wrong with us...We're human. And sometimes when we are unhappy in a marriage -or going through a rough patch - we wonder "what if....?" when we think of an ex.
But that's it. Exes are exes for good reasons....And memories belong in the past.
2007-06-15 16:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say it is the whole "don't know what ya got til it's gone" thing, The grass is always greener, til you actually get there and realize it is the same as you had it before if not worse. I am so guilty of this, I am also guilty of being head over heals happy with my new guy, but at the same time feeling jealous that the ex is moving on. I guess it is kinda like I want him to only want me and not love anyone else like he did me, but it is o.k. for me to move on. I don't know if this answered you, because I really don't know what is wrong with us, just that I am with ya on it and it sucks.
2007-06-15 16:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by kei 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it's because they are someone familiar and 'safe'. It's someone they already know, possibly trust, and are comfortable with.
Makes sense actually, except when you take into account that obviously there were issues in the relationship, otherwise they'd still be together.
But, for a flirting or fling-thing, yeah, it makes sense that some women (& men) step back with there ex's for abit....it's easier/more convenient than looking around for someone new and having to go through the whole search, flirt, date, 'first' times,...
Plus, ex's can simply be their 'friend w/benefits' since they can talk and be clear that 'hey, we didn't work out and all but, want to hang out tonight...?'...no strings.
2007-06-15 15:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmm, never happened to me. People are exes for a reason and always stay that way with me. Im not friends with any, I dont pine after any, and unless I physically bump into one, then I dont think of any either.
Ive never understood the EX factor....
2007-06-15 15:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by mrsNO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, not all real ladies would be willing do do that! If he was so wonderful, why did he become an ex.
It's not called will power, it's sin/lust of the flesh, and setting low standards for oneself.
2007-06-15 15:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by Emerald 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
None of my exes appeal to me at all. I don't want any of them back. Could be due to the fact that they weren't wonderful and they didn't listen. But my husband does.
2007-06-15 15:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone at one time or another longs for the freedom they once had. A lot of times, old boyfriends can represent that.
And no, there is no will power anymore. What a shame.
2007-06-15 15:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by ron-D 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just because we have a decent home doesn't mean we stop craving variety and excitement... Variety is the spice of life.
P.S. Who said anything about wanting them "back"??
2007-06-15 15:29:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋