He owns the large expensive DC house with no mortgage. I just got first full time job in DC making a decent salary. We are domestic partners - cannot legally get married. Some people argue I shouldn't even be paying monthly "rent" to him but I figure I would pay anywhere I live. Should I also be responsible for a part of all utilities including electric, gas, telephone, etc. or is my "rent payment" which is slightly high but average for DC (950/month) enough? I don't know what the common best thing to do is.
2007-06-15 08:16:10 · 13 answers · asked by Seth R 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Renting & Real Estate
If you're paying him rent, you should probably be paying utilities, too, unless you're paying higher than average rent to compensate for the utilities. I won't even get into the whole issue of whether or not your boyfriend should accept rent money from you.
2007-06-15 08:26:30 · answer #1 · answered by ncbrave25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-20 11:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by Maria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone should be willing to pay their share of whatever it might be. Just because he is "boyfriend" doesn't entitle you to a free ride. You should be willing to contribute to the expenses. Paying "rent" sounds odd tho. However, domestic partners seems to imply that you should pay "rent" to stay there. If a true boyfriend, this doesn't sound like a good relationship. Him asking you to help with utilities or a mortgage would sound normal, but not "rent" considering there is no mortgage.
You first need to analyze your maturity first. Why are you living with some guy when you cannot legally get married. Your relationship is odd to begin with. If you want a relationship to last, try doing it the right way. Grow up, get to know someone, fall in love, and then get married. Your relationship will stand a better chance of lasting than your current one.
2007-06-15 08:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by ThePerfectStranger 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Umm...people, this is a GUY. That's why they are unable to get married. It's not because of any "weird situation," it's because they are a gay couple. At least that's what I'm assuming, since the user name is "Seth."
Anyway, the idea of "rent" is kind of weird. But, I do believe that when two people in a relationship are living together, they should each contribute what they are able to.
I don't think it should necessarily be 50/50, though. Since you are partners, and not just roommates, you should (in my opinion) divide all shared costs according to what each of you makes. So, if you each earn the same amount of money, sure, split it 50/50. But, if you make only half of what he does, for example, then you should only pay half of what he does (66.6/33.3 would be the ratio).
Having said that, if the house is paid off, and you are in a relationship, I don't know why he is charging you rent. In my opinion, he should ask you to contribute to all of your shared costs (i.e.: food, utilities, cable, phone, etc.). But, if the house is paid off, I find it a little strange that he is basically making a profit off of his boyfriend.
I realize that this is a long and convoluted answer, but I hope it helps. Basically, it boils down to this: you should each contribute what you are able to the relationship. Anything more or less is setting up a very unequal situation in the relationship.
Of course, that's just my opinion...
2007-06-15 10:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by Adam S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are giving him 950 a month that should be plenty money. The rent you pay him should include utilities. Really think about this, Are the bills totaling 1900 a month???? The courts would tell you 50/50. Since he does not have a mortgage, rent is not an option!!!!!!
2007-06-15 08:25:40 · answer #5 · answered by Going Crazy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why aren't you having this conversation with your boyfriend? What agreement did you make when you moved in? It makes sense that you would pay half of the expenses-your use of utilities, food, etc., but of course, this is more a relationship issue than a real estate issue. Good luck.
2007-06-15 08:26:47 · answer #6 · answered by es 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u live with a boyfriend who owns the home yet makes u pay rent? that doesnt seem like a good deal to me. i think by you paying 950 is more than fair, im sure part of ur "rent" is going towards house hold utilities. talk to him and see what he says.
2007-06-15 08:20:57 · answer #7 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Whether he has a mortgage or not means nothing. If you are living in his home and are a couple, you should
be paying your share of everything. You would have to elsewhere. $950. is very reasonable for DC.
Whether it is permanent or temporary, you can enjoy the surroundings.
2015-04-11 14:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by coraann 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but if he is your boyfriend, why should you be paying him. Again not sure here. If your taking 3 hour showers or talking to your mom in CA, then maybe but otherwise, I think rent is fair enough, or maybe help with groceries etc. Thats all in my opinion.
2007-06-15 15:58:53 · answer #9 · answered by Kari S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always move into your own premises and pay whatever it costs. It's your choice. Check out what renting facilities similar to what you live in costs, and then divide that in half. My guess is that you are getting a deal. If you think it unfair, you can always move.
2007-06-15 08:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by acermill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋