I LOVE YOU!... is it easier to SAY it when you MEAN it or when you DONT MEAN it?

Question

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Answer 1

I don't say it unless I mean it. Of course, anyone who understands that there are at least four different kinds of love would be comfortable with that statement.

According to Clive Staples Lewis (C. S. Lewis, The Narnia Classics, The Screwtape Letters, the Perelandra Trilogy) in his thological text, "Te Four Loves," the Greeks had four distinct words to define Love. Storge (common love that we all should have for one another) Eros, (Physical love to include sexual love) Philia, (Love of mind to include friendship) and Agape. (Deep Spiritual Love) I can say the words "I Love You" and not necessarily mean that I am sexually attracted to you, or even want to spend the rest of my life with you. That's the problem with the word "Love" in the first place. It means everything and nothing. When you try to assign too much meaning to one word, it ends up meaning nothing in some contexts, and way too much in others.

I can say "I love Chicken," which means I like the taste and would very much like to devour it. (A type of love not covered by Mr. Lewis at all by the way) then again, I could say "I Love You!" and among Cannibals that might make you really nervous, but among singles in a bar it might just make you feel a little disgusted because I haven't even bought you a drink yet! I could say that I love you in the context that I look forward to your questions and find it intellectually stimulating to attempt to answer them, but you might decide that I am a stalker and block me if I do not take the care to define my terminology exactly.

So not only do we have to be careful "When" we say I love you, we have to be careful to define what type of love we are talking about, and in what context we are using the word. Most of my friends who speak other languages claim to have similar difficulties, well except for a Greek friend who says that she has no confusion at all unless she is trying to talk in the ridiculous English language. - sigh - she loves to tease me, but I love her anyway- that is to say that I have a deep intellectual love for her: "Philia" and value her company as a fellow scholar (Whew, almost missed that one!)

Answer 2

It depends a lot on the person. Some people have an easier time lieing than telling the truth and others have an easier time telling the truth. Some people get nervous expressing their emotions, others have no problems doing so. There's no universal truth to this question because it varies based on a lot of factors.

Answer 3

Easier to say if you mean it. When you mean it, it comes right from the heart, there is now thinking about it. It's like telling the truth. If you tell the truth you never have to remember what you say.

Answer 4

Far easier to say it when you don't mean it. If you really meant it, you'd first think that if you really meant it, its too meaningful to attach a word to. If you don't really love the person, then you probably don't care about hurting their feelings by saying it and not meaning it. Kind of a Catch 22.

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Answer 5

Well in a relationship ofcourse its easier to say it when you mean it or else you will feel all guilty and ahh! outside of a relationship and all that jazz it seems to be easy to say I love you in any case even though its still better to say that when its meant despite the fact i tell pretty much every one i love them even if i dislike them =P =D

Answer 6

It's easier to say it when you mean it because people can tell when you don't mean, and if you lost that person can you imagine the pain you would feel if you knew that they knew you didn't love them if they loved you. If you don't love someone, don't lie or give them false hopes by saying it.

Answer 7

That's a very good question. 'I LOVE YOU'. Hmmm....you know something...when you really mean I LOVE YOU and you say it...it's like your life is dependingon these words. When you say it you feel pressure. But tat pressure isn't negative. It just is. It's something alright. It's hope. It's fulfillment. It's love.

And when you don't mean the I LOVE YOU, well...let's just say usually one just wants to say it and get it over with. AKA there is a pressure....but it's not at all stronger than love.

So, I'd say....when you mean I LOVE YOU and say....you feel fulfillment.
And when you don't mean I LOVE YOU and say it...you feel relief.

What's a happier notion....fulfillment...or...relief?

I'd pick fulfillment...because it's not only from your brain stress...it's from your heart as well.

So, I'd say...that yes....it may seem like you rwhole life depends on it when you mean I LOVE YOU and say it....but trust me....you whole life also becomes like that fulfillment in it.

In conclusion, I believe that it is easier to speak of what is TRUE...rather than a LIE. Therefore, it is easier to say I LOVE YOU when you MEAN it...rather than saying I LOVE YOU when you DON'T MEAN it.

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Answer 8

It is easier to say "I Love You." when I mean it.

Answer 9

Easier if you DON'T mean it. It would be an empty statement, void of feeling, and a lack of emotion usually makes things less complicated thus easier to do.
(Boo on not meaning it though!!!)

Answer 10

Since I'm someone who isn't good at sharing my emotions--it much easier if I don't mean it. I would never say it if I didn't mean it, though. But, I do acknowledge that when I feel it, its very frightening and I don't want to admit it out loud. But, once I finally get it out....I can't stop saying it.