abortian and men?

Question

mind you this question came from a dream last night [i dreamed that i was in a room full of men saying that they were hurt because their wives/gf had abortions witohut telling them...dont ask e who i got that dream honest to God!!]....how would i affect you if your gf/wife had an abortion without telling you? how would you react?

not abortian but abortion!!!

Answer 1

I'd be very upset if my wife was pregnant and didn't tell me, and more so if she had an abortion as well.

Answer 2

I'm not a man, but to have an abortion without telling the father is wrong.

Whether the father agrees with it or not is not quite as important. I believe that it is a decision that should be made by both partners, but depending on the situation (IE: they're not together anymore, he doesn't want to be in the child's life) it CAN be more of the woman's choice. But the father at least has the right to be notified.

Answer 3

Men have a bigger influence on the situation than they claim to have. In the movie, "Look Who's talking" ... John Travolta says, "It's the man's job to keep the woman happy and sane."

First step towards abortion is when the woman's self-confidence is low. Now rape, multiple sexual partners, incest, having sex too young, and abuse will lower the woman's self-esteem. When the vessel of carrying the baby doesn't value life ... how can she see a future for a baby? This makes abortion appealing. By herself, she cannot mentally or spiritually stand on her own with an unwanted pregnancy. Then she gets to play the mind game, "How will my sexual partner act ... how will my parents act ... how will my friends act ... how will society treat me?" The Soap Opera, "Days of our Lives" did a spoof where Mimi aborted a baby because she made the decision in her head about how her man would react to a baby. Tragedy ... but, ah, that's what soap-opera's are about.

Second step towards abortion is the man. Let's say it's with her loving partner. The man has the ability to make the woman feel safe, secure, and capable of rearing this child ... or the man can have low-self confidence and see this as a trap; leading him to poverty, ruin, and despair --- showing he has low self-esteem --- Two ppl with low self-esteem = recipe for abortion. Usually the woman will "role - play" before she tells the father & make a conclusion about his desires before he says a word (like in the "I love Lucy" show where Lucy tells Ricky about the baby).

So what happens when the woman is pregnant and wants the baby and the man doesn’t … the scale can be tilted to the man’s desires quickly. Men are more aggressive then women. Their size, words (---I love you, we can do this --- verses -- tramp why are you trying to ruin me ---), actions (hugs vs. slaps or putting holes in the wall) , voice level (soft, or loud) have the ability to ruin the woman’s self-confidence. Additionally, there is the upcoming financial responsibility. Taken away any support from the man, it leaves the woman in despair.

Next people to look at are the parents. Parents (soon to be grand parents) have almost as much power to raise the self-esteem of the soon to be parents. A loving parental support would work together to find solutions, think out of the box, and give this couple opportunities to have the baby instead of abort the baby ... or one of the families may see ruin, despair, & poverty and encourage the abortion and will 'disown' bad children ... Even if words are not said the children usually have a barometer on how they think their parents will act.

I'll group friends & society together. Friends can either be supportive or destructive. We all know what peer presure does in school. Then there is social issues. Some women watch the news and see violence, stories of pandemic flu's, bad economy, harmful to career ... and this makes them repugnant at bringing new life into a cruel society. However, if she, her partner, parents, and friends are all rallying behind her ... chances are she doesn't see a doomed future.

Mother Teresa says, “If we accept that a mother can kill even her own child, how can we tell other people to not kill each other? Any country that accepts abortion is not teaching its people to love, but to use any violence to get what they want. This is why the greatest destroyer of love and peace is abortion." Which makes us all responsable to find ways to enable men & women to find the self-confidence to raise the child instead of abort it.

Answer 4

I'd be really hurt and pissed. The ultimate choice is a womans but I would still like to know.

Answer 5

Why should you tell them?

If you have to consider abortion then the scenario he laid out for you when trying to get you to have s*x with him wasn't condusive to having children then why are you obligated to tell him? You can if you want but if you don;t then why do it. Some guys mgiht make you feel more like crap for something they caused half of. You know like they dont go with you, arent supportive or whatever. Just like how theyd be if you ahve the kid so why bother? Same if you ahve the kid and hes an idiot, your not obligated to subject yourself or your child to him.

If you are with a guy who as expressed he wants to have a child with you and you then have an abortion without telling him then I think you are wrong and an assh*le. I dont see this happening. I dont see any guys expressing this unless its some dominating j*rk.

Obviosly if your married its totally different story but even then. Women have their reasons for not telling.

I hate to say this cause you know how mad guys get with the truth gets told but the only reason most guys want to know this is to get feedback on the potency of their sp*rm

Answer 6

im not a man and not married..but i would tell my husband i was pregnant...expect him to be happy..and if he told me to have an abortion...id hit him then kick his butt to the curb.

i could always get a new husband...but that child in me...there is only one of him/her.

Answer 7

id be really hurt even if it wasnt my kid because of the fact she wouldnt trust me.