Does having premarital sex affect the quality of marriage? If you have premarital sex with a partner, whom you later marry, will you have a better marriage, a worse marriage or does it not matter? Is the sex worse after the marriage?
2007-06-15 06:46:46 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It doesn't matter at all.
The only thing is, if sex is really bad before the marriage, it's not really going to get better afterwards.
As years go by, you will make love together differently, and feel differently, in a good way.
It only gets better when there's love and strong emotional connection between two people.
===> whomever gives these thumbs down to us who said it' doesn't change or gets better must have a different experience - meaning a bad one. Sorry.
2007-06-15 06:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by yogi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think premarital sex is a good thing. Sexual compatibility is very important to a healthy marriage. You don't know if you are sexually compatable until you have had sex and talked honestly about your desires/needs/fantasies.
I don't think sex in a marriage changes because the couple had premarital sex. It changes because you slip into routine, lose the mystery that living apart brings and because you know the sex is there for the asking, so theres no urgency
2007-06-15 07:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it does not effect the quality of marriage. How do you really know a person when you have only experienced a part of them. I think by not being intimate before marriage, there might be a chance you don't match well with intimacy, you won't know.
On the flip side, it is kinda nice to wait. Creates excitement and a game to look forward to with your partner.
And, sex only gets worse when you stop creating your relationship and stop wanting to communicate with your partner. Does not matter if you are married, or not.
2007-06-15 06:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by GrantS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, its better if you wait until after. It's almost the same. It's not that the sex is worse after marriage, it's the fact that you expect more out of your partner after marriage. If your woman did this and that for you before marriage, you are more apt to say, I want this, this, this, and that. But if you don't do any hoop lay before, then you would be happy with this and that. I think when people get married, both parties get comfortable and don't expect to have to do what they did before marriage.
2007-06-15 06:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just know that if you wait until marriage to have sex with the person (if ur a girl)...he respects you more b/c he is your first.And if you already had a strong bond and deep love it only makes it stronger.Giving yourself to your husband is the best thing you could ever give him.It's a beautiful thing.When you have sex with someone, they leave an imprint inside you...ppl take sex as just an act of pleasure,...it's better in marriage b/c you actually become one flesh and that makes it all the more special.but that doesn't mean if you had pre-marital sex you won't have a good marriage.it ALL depends on commitment of the relationship. But sex is just one part of marriage...there are other things that matter.
2007-06-15 06:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by youngpoet07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember the old saying, you wouldn't buy a car without taking it for a test ride would you? Having premarital sex shouldn't effect the marriage unless in doing so they find they are sexually incompatable. In that case, wouldn't it be better to know before you tie the knot?
2007-06-15 07:18:46 · answer #6 · answered by Jeffrey S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never really thought of it. I suppose if you're truly in love nothing should change. But in the case of waiting until marriage - well, the forbidden fruit is so much sweeter. I've heard marital sex isn't as good, I've heard It's better. Sorry, I really don't know, this is all speculation.
2007-06-15 06:51:08 · answer #7 · answered by Ethernaut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say for everyone but from what i experienced, i had premarital sex with my husband. now we hardly ever have sex, i don't think that happens to everyone though. That is a good question!
2007-06-15 06:52:11 · answer #8 · answered by Brandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't buy a car without test driving first, would you? I commend people who wait til they are married, but I for one feel people need to be compatible in that way to make it work, too. It's so important to a marriage, no matter what anyone says.
2007-06-15 06:53:04 · answer #9 · answered by ron-D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A better question is "What if you wait until after marriage to have sex, and find out the 2 of you are totally incompatible in the bed room?"
It's best to get that out of the way, right after "do we like the same kind of food" and before the "does he/she snore so loud I'll never get any sleep?"
2007-06-15 06:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by Brian 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋