I have been engaged for nine months an i dont agree on prenups cause i think when you love someone you should not put limitations on them. Me an my fiancee has been arguing about this for the last 3 months an my grandma thinks its unifair an i should not marry than my future mother in law you know" agress with her beloved son about the pre nup" so that becomes a problem. To top things off she tries persuade me on the phone for four hours talking about he will love me more if i agreed. i have not talked to her for three days she use to be someone i confided in an now i just dread too talk to her. i come to find out that she is the one that is very passive in her marriage.
2007-06-15 06:20:04 · 17 answers · asked by sparkle7 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i use too confide in her about my fiancee because my fiancee 's dad is the same way as far as personalities. But than little did i know she started making excuses for him litlle by little saying that's how he is an blah blah blah. Then she tried to put on gulit on me that we live togeather that why he does not have respect for me. But in reality he talks too her yelling at her. So as i see it maybe she didnt teach her son about respect an her husband treats her the same way.
2007-06-15 06:26:28 · update #1
i dont know why people have pre-nups, its like talking about divorce on the wedding day!
Mentioning pre-nups makes people sound materialistic (not you) I mean generally.
planning on signing one, means that there cant be much in the relationship... again not yours, just in general.
I dont think you should sign one.
2007-06-22 23:44:56 · answer #1 · answered by Rebz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to change your thinking about that. A pre-nup protects you and your investments, too. It's the business side of getting married. If I had not signed a pre-nup with my ex-husband he would have taken me for everything in our divorce. A pre-nup basically states that whatever you bring into the marriage is yours, and vice-versa, and whatever the two of you pay for together during the marriage will be split down the middle by the courts if you divorce. Businesses are run this way, too.
2016-05-21 02:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like when you become married you become one. That simply means you are a part of him and he is a part of you. If he wants a pre-nup then you don't need to marry him. Because he's telling you right then that he does not trust you enough to allow you to share what ever he has or plans on having. He is supposed to be by your side in everyway and you the same. what's his is yours and what's yours is his. He is supposed to be the bread winner and you the caregiver. But now a days it takes two. So in other words don't let him or his mother insult you by making you feel like you are not worth what they have. If he wants you in his life it shouldn't matter whether or not you get material things. Its almost like telling a person "okay I want to marry you and I can have your stuff but I don't want you to have anything of mine". I can tell he was a selfish child growing up. you know the type they want to play with your toys but scream and have fits when you play with theirs! lol
2007-06-22 13:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by Renata D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you can put your own stipulations on the pre-nup, then sign it, i would suggest if he cheats on you u recieve half his assests, if he abuses you in any way : menataly physicaly, emtionaly, you get three quarters of his assets. Plus alimony. Not only will you have fiancialy security, you would have a binding contract he has to watch his p's and q's. And use an attorney you both trust. Not one of the future in-laws.
2007-06-21 15:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by Laura F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry i have to say into days way of living and the amount of divorce there is i personally think you should sigh a pre nup.
Anyway if your wise enough you will make sure you have your own bank account and that you add to it as you go along, i cant see for the life of me why one has to give up something they had before they married.
2007-06-15 06:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by LMH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 40 so have been in and out of several relationships all of which I thought were the "one" and we would be together forever,thinking you have found your life mate is what every person who is about to get married thinks,no one gets married thinking years down the line they are going to get divorced,but "what if "? If something did happen all this love that you have for one another will turn to hate and either party will be out for what they can get.Protect yourself.
2007-06-15 06:49:09 · answer #6 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you plan on staying together forever then having a prenup shouldn't matter. You should follow through with in (in case it actually doesn't work out) but it never hurts to have a safety net.
You wouldn't go on a trapeze without one, would you?
2007-06-22 06:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, this can be a hard one. In today's world it could benefit you to sign it if you have your well being written into it. You see alot of people getting married with the idea of "If it doesn't work, we will just get divorced" That is sad to me. On the other hand I have seen people stay in bad relationships when they need to get out of it. I would go with your gut feeling.
2007-06-22 21:58:02 · answer #8 · answered by booper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, if you are planning on staying together forever then a prenup shouldn't be necessary, but maybe you should be wondering why your fiance doesn't share your feelings? he could just be pressured by his family, but maybe you should reevaluate your relationship and make sure you share the same values.
2007-06-15 06:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go to hell ,if he doesn't trust you he shouldn't marry you,and his Mom should mind her own business,maybe he's afraid he'll do some thing wrong and get caught and you'll zap him real good,so I wouldn't marry the jerk under those conditions,maybe he should just live with his Mommy,so she can tell him what he should do!!!
2007-06-15 08:12:16 · answer #10 · answered by Butch46 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋