What would you do if you were transgendered/transsexual and had a gay or lesbian friend (who was sometimes more) and this "friend" came to you for sexual favors when they couldn't find anyone else, or they were drunk, or..in my case, last weekend, she went to Pride and saw a lot of "hot" lesbians and since she couldn't get any of them, she came back to ME, to provide sexual services for her.
Yet, this "friend" will turn around and tell you that they can't be WITH you because they are gay or lesbian, and can't see themselves dating someone transgendered because they are gay or lesbian, and so can't date a FTM (if this friend is a lesbian) or can't date a MTF (if this friend is a gay man) because it messes with their identity and is out of their "realm".
It's like I'm good enough to sleep with, but not good enough to be in a relationship with. It's all ok, if it's behind closed doors. How would this make you feel and what would you do?
2007-06-15 05:47:45 · 15 answers · asked by I_color_outside_the_lines 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hi she is not worth bothering with, she is using you so is not a true friend
2007-06-15 05:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by pete m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talking about HER again dude you got it bad for her sometimes we enjoy being treated like crap because it is better than being alone you are in love with her and don't know how to let her go i don't know what to tell you enjoy the time the 2 of you share can't say you don't know what is going on she is using you kinda turn the tables around and use her too love is hard especially when you are on a 1 way street so the REAL QUESTION is do you MIND being the one called on for sexual favors go with the flow i guess and keep your options open and when you find the woman of your dreams you will have the last laugh take care and SMILE
2007-06-16 15:18:23 · answer #2 · answered by giggles47532000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a part of the GLBT community myself, but I'd say it seems pretty wrong headed all around. It's taking advantage without giving a whole lot back in return.
The only exception would be if you were comfortable with using her in the exact same way, without feelings behind it. But to quote Lazarus Long, "Sex should be friendly and fun. Otherwise stick to toys, it's neater."
2007-06-15 12:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by Brian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've posted this questuion in one form or another at least three times. Get over it and don't sleep with her anynmore . If you want to be a man ,BE A MAN. tell the user to hit the road and turn your back on her. stop being a half a lesbian and a half a man and decide who and what you are , then stick to it.
2007-06-15 14:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To hell with that. You have feelings, you are a real person, not some sort of fall back. This person doesn't seem like she truly understands or respects your feelings. Call her down on that. If she doesn't see that she is being as bad as stereotypical men, well you don't need her as a friend.
2007-06-17 01:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by ATrivialGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd stop letting this "friend" walk all over me. You're more than a source of gratification. Let her know. There are people who will want to be with you as well as sleep with you. Look for bisexuals--we don't get our identity thrown into question over attractions to transpeople.
2007-06-15 15:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the exact situation some gay men are put in by their "straight" lovers, the answer is the same: no more sex and let them figure their own identity out.
2007-06-15 14:20:40 · answer #7 · answered by geramd4040 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems that you really should not give this friend any sexual favors. She is just using you and does not care for you at all. if she really liked you, she would not care about her supposed "identity" and she would be with you.
2007-06-15 14:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that you have too much self-esteem to be treated like this. This person is NOT your friend. You need to cut them out of your life and view this experience an a learning opportunity.
2007-06-15 13:21:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The truth--you probably won't like. But you are being used. You are her last resort for sexual satisfaction. Please believe me--I am not out here to hurt you--but your last paragraph says it all...'good enough to sleep with..but not good enough to be in a relationship with'....relationships are about a lot more than sex.
2007-06-15 12:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋