I have always had this fantasy, I can't get it out of my head, my wife says shes up for trying most things, but refuses to try swinging, 3somes, or role play. I can forget about most of my fantasies, but the 2some with 2 women just WONT go away, I know I can't truly settle in until I at least try it. I love my wife but how can I be happy and content where I am if I have things that I just NEED to try that she wont be part of?
2007-06-15 05:10:29 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I see alot of you saying I'm selfish and that I wouldnt like it if she wanted the same thing, she has said MANY times she is bi-curious, she is ALWAYS pointing out women she wants to sleep with, and I'm not some scumbag thats going to cheat on my wife, she has even said she WANTS a 2some, but not with me and has even told me she wanted to see me kiss another man, so for those of you calling me selfish and all that, all i can say is **** OFF!
2007-06-15 05:23:37 · update #1
It's not fair for people to be calling you 'selfish'. Many men have the 'two-girl with one guy' fantasy.
You are treading on dangerous ground, though. Your wife is already admitting to be bi-curious and has her own fantasy of a three-way, except WITHOUT you!
It is possible...and this HAS happened, where a man has talked his wife into the three-way and his wife discovered that she liked the OTHER sex partner better. Wife leaves husband for new female (or male) lover.
Unless you are willing to risk that what you introduce to her will take her away from you, don't pursue it anymore.
If you are willing to risk it, maybe your wife would consent to your fantasy if you consent to hers-you and another man while she watches. Or she may want to have a three-way with people other than you, and you can watch.
Compromise may be your only way to have your fantasy.
Having said that, if she is really adamant about not wanting to indulge you, don't harrass her about it. It will not do any good. Not everyone can deal well with swinging and she may not be able to separate your marriage and fidelity from sexual activites.
No one has ever died because a sexual fantasy wasn't indulged.
People may tell you that you should have realized these sexual longings before you married, but that doesn't do you any good now, does it?
Good luck to you.
2007-06-15 06:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a look at your fantasy scenario, like something off of one of those movies.
Now, recognize the reality of your scenario. Even if this made your wife hot just thinking about it the risk to your marriage is huge.
If your wife isn't into it you're either going to force her to go along or go out and find 2 women to do this with. Either way you have effectively destroyed your trust in your marriage.
Is one night of making this a reality worth it? You have a wife who's up for most things and are miles ahead of some of us there. Are you willing to throw it all away for this?
If the answer is yes, do the right thing and divorce your wife. If no, learn to get your rocks off with this through fantasy/porn and go love your wife for being with you.
2007-06-15 05:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have 2 options, 1.) let you wife go, divorce her and have all the 2, 3, 4, 5....10 somes you want if you are that lucky. Yeah Right! Or 2.) give up on your fantasy, it ain't happening. I would suggest the latter.
If you pursue this issue the only orgy you will get is between you, her, the lawyers and the judge. And most probably you will get rear ended in this.....lol
Response to addition comments:
you mentioned your wife wants you to kiss another man, see I told you above you will get rear ended.....LMAO
2007-06-15 05:22:09 · answer #3 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if your wife wanted to participate in an orgy with other men? Not too comfortable, I bet!
You should respect your wife's stand regarding the matter. Males and females have different views on sex. Females view it as a spiritual thing, and most believe that sex is sacred. However, males often find sex just an outlet for their sexual desires.
Even if you do manage to get her to agree reluctantly one day, I'm quite certain that the sex would suck, since she would be so uncomfortable and all. Fantasies are meant to reside in one's head. I hope that you are not selfish to the extent that you would sacrifice your wife's wellbeing and happiness for your sick and selfish fantasies.
2007-06-15 05:27:23 · answer #4 · answered by bashaprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has said she's bi -curious then she obviously wants to sleep with a woman,she could just be nervous about taking the first step and actually trying it,offer to hire an escort perhaps with a total stranger she might say yes.There's nothing wrong with spicing up your love life,Ive tried all of what you're after and i think everyone should indulge in their fantasies,and people who criticise you are the sad ones.
2007-06-15 06:55:00 · answer #5 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest you should have thought of this before you got married if you were having these fantasies then. You say you love your wife then respect her decision, and file away your fantasies because you will lose her, this could destroy your mariage. You need to get a perspective on life whats more important, really really think about it. I will leave it up to you. So good luck and i hope you make the right decision.
2007-06-15 05:20:27 · answer #6 · answered by sunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence till you get there and see that it is as bear on the other side as it is on the side your were originally on.
There are some roads that you travel that have a one way sign on and once you travel along it there is no turning back.
There are plenty of people who have had fantasies and let them get out of hand to the point they are now in prison and probably wishing they never took the next step.
There are roads that are less travelled and we are cautious to go down ask yourself WHY?
2007-06-15 08:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasys are good and healthy. Adding people to your marriage and bed is not. Even when you both are willing. There has been many people here who have tried swinging, and there have been some who regretted it. So, while the thought may be entertaining, make sure you know what your getting into.
2007-06-15 05:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing about fantasies is that you can enjoy them. Once you fulfill a fantasy, you will find that you now need another fantasy to take its place. Not to mention, fulfilling a fantasy isn't usually as good in real life as it is in your mind.
Keep your fanatsy a fantasy. Enjoy it and don't let it stop you from enjoying your life, your spouse or sex.
Your wife isn't into this fantasy, so there is nothing else you can do without risking losing her.
2007-06-15 05:21:08 · answer #9 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
how would you feel if your wife wanted a 3some with you and another man..?
she doesnt like the idea of a 2some i dont see why you got married if you want to do stuff like that . if you want to go thru with the 3some more than you love ur wife then divorce her ...(dont cheat thats nasty)...if you love ur wife more than your fantasies ...stay with your wife and ignore you fantasies
2007-06-15 05:19:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋