My daughter and her boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years. I have never liked him. My daughter is way too good for him and can do much better for herself. He is 21 years old jobless, high school drop out and isn't trying to do anything to improve his life. My husband and I desperately want to see our daughter with someone who is up to her standards and can possibly make a good husband for her.
Just last night, my husband suggested that I should try sleeping with our daughter's boyfriend to prove to her that he is a no good dog. My husband says that by doing this, she will see that her boyfriend is a low life looser and she will break up with him and find someone better. Do you think this will work? Should I try sleeping with my daughter's boyfriend so that she will see that he is no good and break up with him? Help please!
2007-06-15 04:58:44 · 86 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Madame, that is an abomination sleeping with the boyfriend of your daughter.You should not use force to get your daughter away from this boy. If you use force you may loose her.The problem is you ,your husband and your daughter and not this poor boy if I can call him as such. You didnot give your daughter the right education at the needed time.The truth is that it is your daughter who is going to meet this boy at their meeting point.Sleeping with the boy is a scandal and a shame to yourself.You may do that and put eternal hatred for you by your daughter.You are the one who hate the boy but your daughter loves him despite his background.Please madame for your good do not go to bed with this fellow boy.I don't know if your husband was drunk before giving you suck a filty suggestion or how.From where did you even take the courage to publish such a thing?If you will mind you can email me for more advice on
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2007-06-15 21:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by patrick w 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you in sane? All your daughter is going to see out of this is that her mother will go to any lengths to try to sabotage her relationship and set her up for failure! And I can't believe your husband would suggest or allow this!!! Consider how this will affect your daughter...she'll lose her boyfriend and her mother..and father when she finds out it was his idea! She'll never respect either of you again! This is a bad idea. If he's really as bad as you say, then give it time and he'll screw things up all by himself!
Have you ever considered this, some people do not have a choice in the way that they were raised or opportunities they were given or missed out on for that matter. Maybe no one ever game him a chance....and JUST MAYBE he sees that in your daughter...that he loves her because she's a good person and that with her love and the support of her family (which he probably has none from his own) that he too can be all that she is!
2007-06-15 05:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Don't do that. I'd be insulted if my husband told me to sleep with someone else. You're daughters feelings are more important and since you're her mother, she's going to need you when she DOES finally see that he's a piece of trash. You don't want to break the trust and damage a mother/daughter relationship over this scum bag!
Best thing to do is just let everything run it's course. Just start being really rude to him and tell her you don't want him around the house. What will she do? Perhaps try to move out but she'll be back. She needs you.
2007-06-15 05:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by FitChic 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's a very bad idea. Your daughter is probably not dumb and might see exactly what you did and why. If she does you can kiss any relationship in the future goodbye. Try sitting her down with husband and a few friends who agree with you, try "talking to her" not "at" here. Let here know that you love and care for her deeply. But more than likely she is going to have to figure out what kind of person he really is on her own. Sometimes no amount of talking will do no good. Sleeping with her boyfriend is way out of line.
2007-06-15 05:06:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are other ways to get your point across, and shame on your husband for suggesting this! It's dishonest, and you run the risk of losing the respect of your daughter. I'm sorry that you do not approve of her choice in this guy, but it's not your place to do anything about it, except give her your honest opinion in a kind and gentle way. She is an adult, and can make her own decisions. If she still lives with you, tell her you'd rather not have him around, and cite your reasons, but don't try to split them up because it will likely lead to her splitting from you instead.
2007-06-15 05:07:41 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is just sick....Plain out sick...How would that thought ever come into a mother's head??? what kind of husband what ask you to that ????? You say he is a low life loose yes I can see that by the point you made however are you or your husband any better..Letting that thought into your heads..Yes that sure shows your daughter how to respect herself when her own mother can't respect her own self let alone her Father respect her mother...
I am sure you can find better ways then going on the Jerry Or Maury show.
Sounds like you don't like him with your daughter cause you want him....Why else would you ask this again..He stays on your mind...I bet he loves her more then her own family...Maybe she is attracted to him cause he is trash but they say you want to marry someone like your father...You husband cant be much better most likey worse..
ummmm how can your husband you say asked you LAST night when 4 months ago u said ur husband asked u LAST night....can u say u r looking 4 drama..Get a life
2007-06-15 05:06:15 · answer #6 · answered by Mamabear 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing your daughter will see is that her own mother did the most disgusting thing she could have done behind her back. That is nasty that you and or your husband would even think or suggest doing that. If she chooses to see that he is a loser then she will, and if not then that is her choice to make.
Maybe you should worry about your own relationship because if my husband ever thought that it was a good idea for me to sleep with my daughters boyfriend, he would be seeing me in court filing divorce papers....gross!
2007-06-15 05:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by Heather B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What are you going to do when you like his 21 year old stiff **** ? you gonna leave your husband and break his and your daughters hearts for this guy? I think this has nothing to do with your daughters welfare i think you just want some and trust me if you do this you will love it I'm 47 and love the young men 19 to 35 they can rock your world... Don't destroy your family do this with out no one knowing or not at all..
2007-06-15 05:11:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 21:40:42 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See now I can't possibly believe that this an actual situation and it isn't just a question for shock value...But on the even remote chance that you are for real and are actually asking this question I hope you are prepared for the responses you get..because YOU and your husband are what is so wrong with America today. You have no morales, no sense of self-value and are about the most ignorant person I have ever heard of. And the brutal truth is that people like you make me question my faith in religion and God. Why on earth would God take the lives of innocent young good hearted people like my friends at VA Tech and let someone like YOU keep hogging good people's oxygen?
2007-06-15 05:13:53 · answer #10 · answered by firegirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋