Why do you get upset when a married man won't leave his wife for you? Why do you believe everything a married man tells you? Why do you date a married man at all? Are you that stupid in thinking that you actually mean something to him after you sleep with him? Do you think your something special or worthy to good, honest, SINGLE man after that? I've already asked this question directed at men but I'm sure homewrecker women can come up with better excuses.
2007-06-15 04:44:54 · 14 answers · asked by EspysMom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm by far bitter but I see all these questions on here from women that are the "other" women and it's strange that they stay with a man knowing he's married and knowing what they are doing to his family yet they don't care to leave him alone and find a single man to give them what they need. Yes, I agree that a problem marriage starts within that marriage and carries over to outside the marriage. Kudos to the women that left when they found out the man was married but what would posses a woman to stay with that married man instead of finding someone single who can give her what she wants without having possibly contributed to wrecking a home and involved with someone she knows will never leave his wife? Why date a married man at all? Especially if you know he's married before you start dating him?
2007-06-15 05:16:02 · update #1
To answer your question, those women are self centered and selfish. They go through their life thinking that all that matters is what the feel emotionally ie. "I feel good its good", I feel bad its bad". There is a total lack of understanding that emotions tell you what you feel, but the does tell you the truth.
2007-06-15 06:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People have affairs and in the end it's all about communication and RESPECT. A woman seeing a married Man should not take all the blame for homewrecking. The Man doing the cheating is truly wrecking the home he built with the woman he married. He's going to sleep with whomever he can, for whatever his reasons and that is the plain and simple truth.
2007-06-15 05:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Christopher 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it is that a marriage cannot be destroyed from anything outside that marriage. A married man who loves him wife, honors his vows and is intent on remaining faithful will NOT cheat, no matter what a woman does.
So, the marriage has bigger issues than whoever is putting out for the husband. One of those issues is that the husband cheats because he does not love his wife or chooses not to honor his vows.
I slept with a married man. The marriage was on the rocks long before I came along and was on the rocks long after. I didn't think it meant anything because it didn't. They were both close friends of mine. She still is, they are divorced and both remarried. She couldn't care less that I had sex with her ex while they were married because she knows that it was over between them and it had nothing to do with me.
As far as worth to another man... well, most couldn't give a hoot if the woman had sex with a married man in the past.
Both me and my husband have talked openly and honestly about our pasts. He had sex with a married woman and I had sex with a married man. Heck, we met when I was married..so, I guess he had sex with 2 married women if you count me.We are happliy married now and both of us are faithful.
The only homewreckers in existance are the married people who choose not to honor their vows and the spouses who decide not to try to work through infidelity.
2007-06-15 04:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have dated several married men in my younger years and it was a conscious effort on my part. I didn't want someone all the time. I wanted someone part of the time. I didn't want the responsibilities that came from being in a commited relationship.
I found the "excitement" of cheating to actually be more fulfilling than the cheating itself. It was all a game. Testing the limits. Stretching the boundaries. It was great.
But I went into these "relationships" knowing that I didn't want to end up with the guy. If he even mentioned leaving his wife, I was through. Why in the hell would I want to be with someone that was unfaithful to their wife (with me)? I wouldn't be able to expect any more from ole' boy than he was able to give his wife. That would be ridiculous.
.....and then I grew up and realized how destructive my behavior was. And I stopped.
I am married now and have children of my own. I don't regret my past and my husband knows all about it. All I can do now is hope that he never comes across a younger version of me.
2007-06-15 05:08:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find it sad that you are so bitter.
I suspect a particular woman dates a particular married man because she likes him. I suspect she believes what he says because she trusts him. I suspect she gets upset when he won't leave his wife because she wants him for herself. It is not stupid to think that they mean something to the married man, because, in many cases, it will be true that they do mean something. Even a woman who has had an affair with a married man will be worthy to many single men later because not all good men are as judgmental as you are.
These are simple answers to your questions and it shocks me that you can't see that they are very often true.
2007-06-15 04:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
i just have something to add if you dint mind, also why is it that the wife will catch the two and tell her that their married and the dumb@&& still wants to continue to snake her way into your home and make a bigger mess....all ho's get your own men and mens men of many men how ever many you may need to leave married men alone. shame on the married who cheat anyways they are not worthy of your love from the day he or she said i do....thats all.....thanx had to release...
2007-06-15 04:56:54 · answer #6 · answered by LITTLETOOLATE 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are right,as God does not approve of Adultery in any form,not counting sexual Immorality that God will judge as His word says,and the Adulteress will be judged accordingly also,if a spouse cheats on you,or your the home wrecker with the spouse,what makes you so special?what they done to there mate,they will do to you in time too,its a proven fact, Rev.Karen
2007-06-15 04:59:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do not get mad at the woman, you need to get mad at the man(your husband) you do not know what started the relationship, maybe the man lied to the female and then once she got her feelings involve she could not back up
2007-06-15 05:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by my 1st has arrived 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Shouldnt you be more upset with your husband? The man who stood with you and vowed to be faithful?
Yes the "homewrecker" is wrong but if that man is telling her what she wants to hear she will be too blind to comprehend the fact that he is not being truthful...
2007-06-15 04:49:49 · answer #9 · answered by boomquisha 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The woman isn't cheating just because she's sleeping with a cheating man. You have your definitions confused.
2007-06-15 04:49:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋