ok so I'm a manager at a store, I have one assit. manager and one CSR (customer service rep). My CSR doesn't like that fact that she does more work then my assit. and gets paid less. So she talked to me about it and I told her that I would talk to my assit. to split up some of the CSR's duties. I found out this week that my CSR, went ahead and spoke to my boss about the situations. I'm started to think these girls have some kinda of personal issue with each other. Well to make things short I basically have to fire my assit now....we have been worked together for almost a year, not only does she knows the in's and out's of work. we have become best friends. our families hang out all the time......any suggestions on how i can let her go without ruining the friendship....cause I really dont want to lose her as a friend??? please anyone else been in a similiar situation that can put their two sense in???
2007-06-15 04:26:10 · 10 answers · asked by muwah22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
oh the reason I feel guilty is cause she has a dead-beat boyfriend who doesn't work and they have a 3 year old, money is really short for them alll the time.
2007-06-15 04:36:55 · update #1
This is one of the most grievous hazards of forming ANY type of close relationship with a co-worker.
You COULD tell a little white lie and say that your supervisor has handed down the order for termination. It would eliminate the problem of it being all you; you're just the bearer of bad news at that point. Stress that it has nothing to do with YOUR feelings...you like her and her work; its just a matter of cost-cutting or whatever (since the other one DOES earn less).
Offer to write her a stellar letter of recommendation, and maybe see if you can hook her up with some contacts of yours. It would be something at least.
2007-06-15 04:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth....that the CSR came to you and you agreed to try to resolve the situation...that you were not aware the CSR went to your boss and you were then not given the opportunity to resolve the issue. Tell her further more that you have valued her as an assistant manager and a friend and that this was taken out of your hands and hope that this does not damage your friendship with her. If she is a true friend, she will understand!
2007-06-15 11:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had experience with this exact thing. Hopefully you two have kept your personal friendship separate from your professional friendship. If not you'll probably loose your friend. But any way explain to her that her getting axed doesn't reflect how you feel about her personally. Its your job and you have to do it. She wasn't doing her job up to par now she has to be let go. Explain to her the exact reasons why she is being let go. Don't try and blame someone else by saying "I'm being forced to do this" or "it wasn't up to me". Be upfront and honest and tell her what went wrong. Let her know that you'll continue to be friends but your professional relationship is ending. If she is mature she will understand. Just a bit of advice in the future don't become friends with your employees. You're there to supervise and make sure everything is running smoothly. Its a job not a popularity contest.
2007-06-15 11:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by tender loving dyke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your friend is super understanding she will hold a grudge. Put yourself in her shoes so you can better understand what she will be going through. If she is a true friend she will understand that it is not in your control to fire her. Let her know it was your boss who told you to let her go.
Why don't you give her the heads up before you fire her so that she can quit on her own. It isn't good to get fired from a job because you can't use that company as work experience. Good luck.
2007-06-15 11:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by voiceofanangell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not your decision to fire her why feel guilty about it?
Tell her that your boss told you to let her go. If she is a real friend she will know it wasn't your decision. Just do what you need do and tell her you will give her a good recommendation when applies for her next job.
2007-06-15 11:31:14 · answer #5 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that your assistant should not be fired, then talk to your boss about it. He (or she) can fire your assistant rather than you.
Explain to your boss that this seems to be a personal issue and you do not think you should lose a valuable employee because of issues with another employee.
2007-06-15 11:35:53 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a perfect example why you shouldn't either:
1) hire your friends
2) become best friends with your employees
Good luck on this one, firing your best friend is almost as bad as sleeping with your best friend's man, if not worse. I wish you luck in salvaging this friendship.
2007-06-15 11:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by purple_lily76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, make sure she gets that you don't want to fire her, your boss does. And then see what happens after that.
2007-06-15 11:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by summer.is.done. 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her what you told us. make sure she knows that its business not personal and you want to continue your friendship.
2007-06-15 11:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bummer - pray for guidance and I'll pray for you. Good luck.
2007-06-15 11:30:17 · answer #10 · answered by Ima Stressed Out 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋