I still have feelings for him even after he filed for divorce. If I could just get over these feelings I 'll be free. Right now I get these strong urge to call him an I do, we get into fights. I want to get over these feelings of missing him and the hurt and anger. I just want to be free.
Also, I cannot help but feel hurt that he has forgiven his mother who caused this divorce. He says that she's his mother that's why he has forgiven her. I hate her to hell !!!
Sorry fo ranting but right now my emotional level is very very high.
2007-06-15 03:58:06 · 7 answers · asked by Centered 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My heart goes out to you...for your sanity, Put distance between u 2, if only in communication. Move away ,it hurtsto see him when you are not together You should seek some legal advice also, to know exactly what you'll be entitled to and maybe that will help you see that you'll be okay. YOU CAN make it without him, YOU WILL make it without him even if you think you can't put another foot in front of the other tomorrow. You deserve someone who wants to be with you... I know this from experience. You will hurt and have a slew of emotions, just let them out, let them be experienced, you will work thru them, like everyone has. Take it slow... baby steps, one minute at a time, until you realize you're doing it WITHOUT him !!! There is a wonderful support group call Divorce Care Support (DCS)tell them "Foxy" sent you http://groups.msn.com/DivorceCareSupport on MSN or in your local area. these people have been where u are they will listen to you express your feelings.. Believe me what you feel now is normal you will get thru this and when you get thru to the other side, you will be a better person. You are mourning the death of your relationship..Dont be tempted to call him, dont stroke is ego knowing you miss him.. Your first priority is you take care of yourself and pamper you, eat well and write a journal it will help I promise.. Also this book "The Breakup Repair Kit"(how to heal a broken heart) ISBN #1-57324-919-x is a good funny read.. You will enjoy it...
2007-06-15 08:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the worst answer, but time is what it takes. It will get easier with time I promise you this. You may always love him, and thats ok. But the feeling of being in love with him and missing him will eventually fade. If he filed, he doesnt want to be married to you, and you dont want to be with someone that doesnt want to 100% be with you. You deserve to have someone that gives you all of them. Make a list of things that you hated about him. Make a list of the pros of this divorce. Keep yourself busy with friends or family. Do things you couldnt while you were married. Get dressed up looking hot and go out. The attention you get makes you feel like a million bucks. Even if you go home alone, it will make you feel like you are worth something! I painted my bdrm "girly" colors after I left. That was something I could never do while we were married. Work overtime. Join a class. Do anything to keep yourself busy for a few months. I KNOW it is hard right now, and it will be. Just know you deserve better than that, and you will find it. I promise you this. Good Luck to you, and stay strong! My thoughts and prayers will be with you.
2007-06-15 04:11:47 · answer #2 · answered by jrcosmogirl333 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i believe u should keep busy as much as possible also u might want to vist a club or 2 and meet to busy that way u are busy alot not to think about him
2007-06-15 04:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by Dr.Roxas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you would benefit from seeing a counselor. it is hard getting over someone and maybe you need someone to vent to just like you just did on here.
go out with your girlfriends.
have one night stands.
go crazy.
i am sure you will get over him. it mighgt take a while but it will happen.
2007-06-15 04:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes time but you shall get over it.
2007-06-15 04:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by Beau R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave the Mama's boy alone.
2007-06-15 04:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
take a shot of tequila and relax
2007-06-15 04:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋