Well my mom has this new rule. When I get home, I cannot change out of my school uniform (Mon.-Thurs.) until all my homework is completed. Studying for tests do not count, but if I get a C+ or lower, I have to wear my school uniform all day Friday after school. I'm not even allowed to untuck my shirt when I get home. As for the weekends, Friday I can change when I get home (unless I got a C+ or lower). Saturday, I can wear whatever I want. But Sunday, after 8:00 AM Mass, I have to change into my school uniform and stay in it until all my homework is completed. I'm free to do any work on Friday and Saturday, but I'm usually busy those days. And since I'm in honors classes, and since it's a Catholic school, I'm get so much homework every night, especially on the weekends. So is this fair for me?
2007-06-15 03:48:22 · 20 answers · asked by trickyone9911 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
I actually think that is a great motivator. It's alot better than having privileges taken away, getting berated, or smacked around. Or having a parent that just simply doesn't care. And not to mention the fact that because YOU ARE in an honors program, (which is not something many can complain about!), says something about how good of a parent your mother is in the first place. Sure you do the homework and take the tests, but how did you end up being so ambitious? You probably take after your parents!
So I would say suck it up. Do your homework faster and study harder and you may not have that rule around for very long if you continue to prove yourself. And even if you do continue with this rule, it's a good one to have. Just make sure that you complete most of your homework at school, and when you come home and change your clothes on Friday, kick most or half if not all of your homework out of the way so you don't have to change into your school clothes on Sunday after church. I understand all you kids out there, I was your age once too. But you'll look back on this 10 years from now and say, "man, my mom loved me badly to make me work that hard to get me where I am today!" You'll appreciate it then and may even use it with your own! (lol)
Hurry up and get it done, girl!
Angela
;-)
2007-06-15 04:11:42 · answer #1 · answered by caw0911 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that I think she is using it as a tool to get you to complete your homework faster and better. I think that if you want things to change you need to see it from her perspective of wanting you to do well, and then talk to her about your perspective, hating to wear the uniform, and try to come up with a comromise, such as if your grades are good than for the next week you don't have to wear the uniform after school, but if your grades start to slip then you will again. Like a reward system and see what she says. I think if you are willing to meet her half way and understand she just wants whats best for you, but while also making yout point of being uncomfortable and not liking wearing the uniform you guys can find some middle ground while still keeping your grades and academics up to par!
2007-06-15 04:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by cattier23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, being a parent does not come with a set of guidelines. It's always been a "learn as you go" process and although a parent may think they are making a wise choice at the time, it may later become evident to them that those rules were unreasonable, unfair and seemingly mean.
One thing I have found through the years that worked well instead of "talking" to your parents is to write a short letter, concisely outlining your concerns. Do so respectfully, of course. Conversing in this matter gives the parent ample time to consider the topic in discussion and also keeps the participants involved from losing their cool and shouting at each other which in turn makes the situation worse and there is no resolution.
You can ask your mom to think about what she's asking of you and also ask her to explain briefly her objective in handing out these rules so you can better understand. Bear in mind, she does not have to cooperate.
My parents handed out rules that even to this day make no sense. I am reminded even today, however, that I had parents who cared about what I did. Some of my friends were not so fortunate.
You may have to write several letters of negotiation before the problem is resolved. In the meantime, just do as she asks without rolling your eyes, sighing heavily and stomping out of the room! :-D
I hope this gives you some suggestions that will result in a change for you.
2007-06-15 04:15:36 · answer #3 · answered by Light'ninbug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do You Feel Its Fair. How old are you. Does your mother care about how you feel or hwo she is making you feel. If Your mother is being this way i guess she's is trying to look out for you. she wants you to be something thats why parents do stuff to embarrase us. they always have a reason ask her why. and if she listens to your opinions then talk to her. But i believe this is really harsh. Your Uniform doesnt not make you smarter, nor does it change your behavior nor thoughts. she is trying to make a point. But i bet all its doing is makin you mad but really its for your benefit. Honor your mother. Im So Sorry. before i graduated high school my parents were soooo strict i had no life. I wasnt aloud to go out even on the weekends. i was isolated from fun!! dont get me wrong i did chill and what not but not like a normal teen. The best i can say is dont go against her but make sure your heard. Parents hate it when they know they are hurting you when they shouldnt
Just prove to her that you are responsible and she will give you chance. Thats Why I Did, I stoped being a problem child. not saying you are. but thats the reason my parents were sooooooo strict
2007-06-15 04:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too went to a Catholic school and had to wear the uniforms, but was never "forced" to wear it until after all my homework was done...I can only imagine you might have really pissed of your mother pretty bad to make you wear the uniform virtually constantly...like bad grades, staying out too late, smoking wacky tabaccy or something along those lines because the uniform this is verging on psychological abuse otherwise; I'd try to reason with her and put things in writing as far as what you hope to accomplish both in school and personally and stick with it so she'll back down...however, if mom is doing this for no valid reason, I'd have a talk with a school counselor.
2007-06-15 04:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by sweet ivy lyn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-09 06:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by ettl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I think it is a bit much, it does make sense. Many studies have shown that focus, attention to detail, and work effort are affected by what we wear. Many production based companies have found that there is less productivity on "casual friday" or if they have a "casual week". There are a few people who will always work to their maximum potential regardless but they are not the norm.
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2007-06-15 04:40:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Remember that your mom just wants the best for you. It may not seem like it now, but I am sure she has the best intentions. If you do not like this rule--which, how can you not?--then you should somehow prove to her that you care about your work as much as she does, and work out another form of punishment/incentive.
2007-06-15 03:58:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is probably one of the most illogical persons I've ever heard of. No way does a school uniform change the way you think or act. But she can make you do this no matter how absurd the rule is just because she is your mother and can set regulations on the child
2007-06-15 03:53:32 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
you live with your mom so she makes the rules. i think what she istrying to do is since she knows oyu dont like wearing it when you get home shes hoping that your desire to change clothes will make you do your homework faster just listen to your parents generally speaking they usually know more than you
2007-06-15 03:52:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋