I have read some of the answers to that poor girl's question about mulitiple abortions and I was throughly disgusted. You have no clue what some women go through in abusive controlling relationships. To sit there and say that poor girl is evil, is just sick. You disgusting, closed minded people really need to consider all sides of this issue because you are all clearly ignorant.
2007-06-15 03:41:32 · 40 answers · asked by ashley w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Then perhaps contraception should have been considered! I think the person who is close-minded is the one who is having sex and thinking that pregnancy wont happen!
2007-06-15 03:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 13⤊ 2⤋
One. It is a womans choice to have an abortion. Two. it is true.. if the relationship is abusive... dont go on keep getting pregnant.. Get a IUD or something that lasts .. for pregnancy prevention. I have been in a relationship and have been in this situation... but that was once and I already have a child with this man.. .(that would have been the 2nd) I left that relationship and I think about that baby all the time. But I know that this guy cant be a dad... but.... to go and have 3 or more... from the same guy. same relationship... thats just STUPID and think of these poor kids.. that could have had a life.. at least you could have given them for adoption .. make another family happy. I dont think abortoin is the RIGHT thing to do... but it is an option. BUT not an option to be ABUSED.
2007-06-15 04:17:48 · answer #2 · answered by c_leoo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NOT IGNORANT HERE i was in abusive relation ship and conceived , but i got smart and left with the child , i understand bout being abused , physically emotionally etc , but i kept the child , and i left the relation ship , we women have a choice to stay and get beat or leave and be free again , ye we may find or get into another abusive relation ship . but we hav e to l.ook at why we keep getting those jerks , and get some counsling , kno wwomean has to have a hand laid a on her in a bit of rage , nor do they hav e to be degraded or belittled as well , but by no way should a women hav ean abortion because becase a man is an **** to her , tak e the kids have the kid and milk the sob for every dim e u can get for child support , and rember htere are women out tere that can be just as abusive and controlling as any of those men out ther e
2007-06-15 03:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by dale621 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Although I find it very difficult to empathise with people who stay in abusive relationships (because I am not the type of person that this would happen to, I simply wouldn't let it), I do think it is wrong for others to be so judgemental. Having said that, there are a lot of ignorant people populating this site, so I cannot say I am surprised at the response - and believe me, they are much worse than those who just come on here and poke fun - at least they dish it out to everybody!
And whilst not particularly wanting to get into a debate about domestic violence, it is very simplistic of people to suggest people in this situation should no longer be sleeping with their partner - have you heard of marital rape? (and in some situations, they will be so mentally and physically controlled they are not able to visit the doctor, etc. to obtain contraception).
2007-06-15 03:53:34 · answer #4 · answered by Mara S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for the girl, but she really needs to call the cops and get the hell out of there. Go to a woman's shelter or somewhere. I like your opinion though and for some to say why is she sleeping with him..hello did you not read the abusive part. You have no control of a relationship when it's this violent. I know deep down inside she never wanted to abort these kids and for all we know she can be on the pill we don't know that. She really needs to call the cops and report him before it's too late.
2007-06-15 03:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what the prior questions/answers were, but I think this poor girl needs to get out of the relationship and get help. I do think women (and occasionally, men) get into situations where they feel hopeless and are brainwashed into thinking they can't get out. And that it's easy judge them in an unkind fashion.
But really, still, the bottom line is that she needs to get sober (if this is an element), think for herself, and get out. Easy to say, not so easy to do, granted.
If you know this person, why not send her some links or phone numbers to local shelters? You also might want to have her read J.J. Luna's "How to Be Invisible" which has a lot of good information about how to break away from and avoid violent ex-husbands.
2007-06-15 03:52:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though i am 14, my mother was in jail when i was born, she could have choosen to get an abortion but yet she ddnt , I agree with you 100% and I praise you for noticincing that, although I don't belive in abortions,i wouldn't haveo ne if i had a choice, but if you think about it, you don't know the situation or the circumstances that she is in at the time, so many children are in orpanages waiting for a home yet so may mothers are having abortions so either way it's someones loss.
2007-06-15 03:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you start dissing everyone else should you not take responsibility, contraception is a wonderful thing it does prevent unwanted pregnancies. Why would anyone stay in such an abusive relationship is beyond me. There are organizations for women that would help but to carry on getting pregnant is very irresponsible. The babies that were aborted didnt ask to be conceived so try taking responsibility for your own actions.
2007-06-16 01:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
hello i would like to say that after any abortion there is grieve and if not dealt with the would be mum can hunger for the child to be replaced and in her subconscious yearn for another child a chance to get it right yes contraception is a grand idea but also the abuse she suffered was not easy for her to get to terms with having a baby should be a joy this is a sad case where a domino affect can happen i hope that god willing she will meet a man one day who will make her feel that she wants to keep the baby it would be very sad if she stayed with him and he gave her false promises of change only to make her pregnant again yes she should be strong to say no I'm out of here after the first abortion but fear does many things to people so I'm glad you have stuck up for this woman
2007-06-15 09:48:19 · answer #9 · answered by Andrea B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was glad to sit and appreciate your mellow, even handed approach to a difficult problem, devoid of overhasty judgment and a real desire to appreciate the merits of others' opinions.
Get real! Multiple abortions are something that are not simply explained by abusive relationships, unless you were under age, and we are talking about your father or step-father or an orphanage. If you were killing infants, you would not be so judgmental and cocky about it.
That having been said, the children are no doubt better-off, so I respect your decision.
2007-06-15 03:54:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am pro-choice, but all i can say is we live in a developed country where contraceptive advice is freely available and there is help out there for abused women.
I don't see how this excuses having 4 abortions.
2007-06-15 04:10:02 · answer #11 · answered by Lampard's Girl 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋