what do i do?

Question

someone found out that i was drinking and i had to tell my parents . i really want a drink after all this stress but i can't what can i do to make sure i don't go back. and what is it like to go to a therapist.

alright i know it is wrong but just please help me with the problem at hand and not the moral stuff.

and please don't tell me to start another addicting substance i'm tring to go the straight and narrow not get into more trouble.

Answer 1

You're a really tough cookie, I admire you for your decision to stop drinking.

A therapist is just a friend. You can tell her anything you want, and unless is breaking the law or harming your health, she won't tell. She will help with all kinds of problems, and she might be able to suggest ways of not going back. They've got all kinds of resources available for helping teens.

Good luck, honey. I'm so proud of you for not exchanging one addictive substance (booze) for another.

Answer 2

To avoid drinking and cut down on the stress you feel, I'd suggest meditation, a good book at your local library can help with that. I put a useful looking link below too.

The problem with alcohol, pot etc. is that they're temporary solutions to long term problems. in a few hours, you go back to the original problem. Just keep telling yourself, "I should deal with this NOW and not put it off." That helped me cut back on drinking way back when.

I cut and pasted in an answer to cover what's it like to see a therapist, it pretty much covers the same idea.

In a session, you might not notice a difference yourself between a psychologist and a therapist . A psychologist usually has a Master's degree or a PH.d in Psychology. A counselor might be trained as a social worker, or have a bachelor's degree in psychology, or there are even counselors who are trained in religion to give a more spiritual point of view on people's problems. There are even people who are trained in philosophy who counsel people.

But... even people with the exact same training might run a session with a client completely differently. It's all down to what each individual psychologist or counselor finds works best for them, for most of the people they see.

One person with a lot of training in testing might give you 10 hours of tests in order to categorize your problems with a highly specific label. (As if being told you are a "emotional, sensory, thinking, judgmental" personality with intimacy issues and an unresolved parental loss actually helps in a real way.)

Or a person with a lot of experience in just talking to people will let you vent for an hour, and then tell you at the end of the session that you need to do some positive affirmations to remind yourself that nothing is permanent, things do get better, and that you're not a "bad" person for feeling like you do.

It really comes down to each individual therapist's experience what works. Heck, I dropped out of my psychology major when I realized that a lot of people just need a sympathetic person to talk to, since no one feels like anyone listens to them any more.

I don't know what you are dealing with, but it's entirely possible all you really need is someone to listen to you, and to read Norman Vincent Peale's advice on how to think positively.

And on a practical note, insurance companies pay claims for a psychologist session higher than a therapist session.

I hope my point of view helps clarify it a bit?

best of luck to you!

Answer 3

I know this is a difficult time for you; but, I suggest you contact AA as soon as possible. They will hook you up with a sponsor (someone who has been sober for some time) that will be there for you - you can call her when you are stressed and need someone to talk to. This will be someone who has gone through the same emotions you are feeling regarding not drinking again.

I can tell you this is the truth because my fiancee is in AA, he not only has two sponsors, but now sponsors several men himself. He has been sober 4 1/2 years. Sobriety is a daily thing and you will need help dealing with it daily.

You will be in my prayers. God bless you.

Answer 4

Sorry...AA works for some people they have Ala teen.. but you really need to be aware you are their for your self not to make to many friends.. At this age they suck you into it.. Make new friends instead of your drinking buddies.. It takes a while to find the right therapist.. So make sure you do some self help methods here. Get a new hobby.. Go hit a ball around the yard. Or kick it take up Karate.. get your self a stress relief... and believe in your self..

Answer 5

okay i had the same problem but i was just drinking with friends and well i never got drunk cus i new my lemit but when i went out with the guy in with now we both stopped cold turkey.if ur underage think of what ur doing what are u really getting out of it?a black out or an excuse to do the things u can't when ur sober.if ur of age rehab phasicions or watev.but just relize what ur doing orrrr drink virgin drinks its just like regular pop and diet.hard habit to break to go to somethings thats better for u.but virgin drinks arrrre really good try it it could help.
God bless!

Answer 6

Find something else to focus on.
You have made the first and most important step- you recognised that you don't want to go back to drinking, and that is extremely positive- well done!
I had therapry for depression, but not for drinking so I don't know how that works, but if you do decide to go but don't like who you see, try another one.

Answer 7

well how long have you been drinking? If you have been drinking a long time it will be hard to stop cold turkey. But maby if you will stay away from your friends that do drink and get new ones then that will help you stop. And ask for support from family to help you stop. I hope this helps

Answer 8

maybe you should stop hanging out with the people that influenced to drink trust me i found new friends and i totally just forgot all that stuff because i was actually having fun without all that bad stuff!!

Answer 9

find out if there are community programs in your area that offer group counseling-sometimes its easier when there are other people you can relate to. they say alcoholism is a disease there is no cure for...

Answer 10

well how old are you? the best thing to do is just go right through it, no excuses then i think you can get through it.