I have been married for 14 years. New girl at the office wants me- she is 15 years younger than me...should I?

Question

My wife has been gaining weight. And the sex is non existant. This girl is so much hotter than my wife. I am torn. What should I do?

I am so happy people read my previous question

Answer 1

LOL!!


I told you this would rile them up!!!!!!

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Answer 2

I'm sure you know the answers here will be predictable. It's because there is no doubt that cheating with this girl will ruin several people and it's not worth a few minutes of sex.

This will not only ruin your marriage for good, but will cause all kinds of problems at work. Also, when you get past the fantasy and start realizing the reality of what's going on with this young girl, well, lets just say, it's not going to be what you think it is with her.

Dude, people gain weight, people lose weight, it's got nothing to do with a loving relationship. Do you really mean to say your entire marriage is based on superficial things? That's not good at all...I'm sorry to hear that.

I would assume that the drop off of sex has to do wtih the fact that your marriage is failing and cheating on her is going to be the last straw.

You are risking everything for this one fantasy...just move ahead knowing that your life will change in a very big way. Is it worth it?

Your actions will speak loudly to everyone around you. You will have a big sign posted on your head, "cheat, liar, selfish, hurtful". It takes a long time to live that down.

Answer 3

You shouldn't been torn. No offense this girl will play you. Young hot girls these days just want money. Don't ruin your marriage for her. Woman gain weight faster then men. You can't put that against her, She probably had your children. That's your wife for 14 years.. Try to fix your marriage. Don't leave her for anyone, Its not worth it.

PS. Are you lying.. In your other questions you said you have sex 3-4 times a week and your wife got beat by a dog. You only been married 7 years. Please try to tell the truth. I feel bad for your wife.. You are a animal. Your wife is hurt and you don't care. Get a life!!!!

Answer 4

Have you considered being kind and supportive toward your wife so that the sex will be better, and she may feel good enough about herself to lose some of the weight? Do something nice for her and you won't believe the rewards. I'm not talking about buying flowers here -- I mean treat her with respect. Treat her as if she's the most special person in your life.

Why is it that every time a man wants to justify diddling the new little office nymph, his wife is suddenly too fat and not satisfying his needs? What a load of crap!

I will give you the same advice I gave my husband when the nineteen year old office assistant started showering him with attention and little greeting cards almost daily: Just don't hurt that little girl. She's too young to really understand what she's letting herself in for.

Answer 5

If you are that unhappy with your wife than you really need to tell her! I would ask her for a divorce and tell her that you need more from the relationship than you feel you are getting! Tell her the truth about the extra weight gain and that you feel that it is affecting your sexual intimacy. If you still love her you need to be completely honest to her about everything. This way the both of you can work on the relationship together and not destroy the marriage. Go out and get the both of you a gym membership and talk with a nutritionist about eating the proper foods in your home. Try helping your wife instead of thinking about cheating. If your wife does not work on things with you then be respectfull and divorce her before you get into a relationship with another woman. Best wishes and good luck.

Answer 6

Quit acting like a salivating PIG! Married for 14 years and what?! That gives you the right to trade in your wife for a younger hotter girl? Have a little respect for yourself and your WIFE. Its one thing if you just can't seem to work things out with your wife and you 2 separate or get a divorce, but it is quite another to want to have your cake and eat it to. And why are you asking permission from complete strangers to cheat on your wife. Some skank at the office shows you a little attention and you want to pounce on her. You must have really low self esteem. Maybe you should consider counseling for yourself. Heck, sounds like you may even need marriage counseling. If that doesn't work, then get a divorce. But until then, don't even think about getting involved with the office floozy.

Answer 7

Well that depends....do you love your wife? Do you argue all the time? If so than maybe you first need a divorce and then you you go for the girl. You also have to think about the kids, if you have any, how will they feel? They will think that you are dishonest if you have an affair. You also have to tink if it is justa one night stand. You go and say...hey lets have sex and then after you say ok see you later bye. Also just becuase your wife gained weight doesn't mean anything. So in my opinion...divorce, then o for the girl, if there is anything that supporting the relationship other than sex and beauty...

Answer 8

Did u think in 15 years ur wife wouldnt gain weight??? And if u care then maybe thats why the sex is nonexistant..Im sure she knows u feel that way.
The least u owe her for 15 years is some counseling to try to save ur marriage before u go and cheat with the office skank who would f--k around with a married man.

Answer 9

Well did you ever think maybe the reason your wife is putting on wife is because she is depressed? The sex is non-existing because she doesn't feel sexy because of the weight she has gained and because of he not being ready after the accident or maybe your making her feel insecure about how she looks, say things that could make her feel good, sexy. Maybe if you took the time to be with your wife and make her feel pretty, sexy, she would take better care of her self, maybe not be so depressed. It would take time and counseling. Are you willing to save 14 years or give it up for 15 minutes of fun? Why don't you ask your wife to go out with you on a date? Try to make her feel pretty and she will make herself pretty and get herself back into shape......Its worth the try and worth 14 years, is it not?

Answer 10

Stay with your wife!

You promised "In sickness and in health" which can be translated into "In fatness and in skinniness", "In sex and no sex".

I guarantee your wife is a better woman than that 'hot girl'. Notice how you call the new person at the office a GIRL. Not a WOMAN. That shows that you think of her in a purely sexual, immature way. You are treating that 'girl' like an object to be won.

That girl probably isn't into you anyway. A man who cheats on his wife is a huge turnoff.

Stay with the woman who has stayed with YOU even though you have undoubtedly gotten fatter, and the sex problem may be caused by you. Be grateful that your wife is staying with YOU, because by the sound of your question, you don't deserve your wife.

Answer 11

No doubt you can find all kinds of reasons to go for it and nothing I or anybody else will have much influence on you which leads me to wonder why you ask for advice. Maybe your own behaviour has led to your wife's lack of ardour and how do you suppose you will be able to keep a woman 15 years your junior happy for any extended length of time. Forget the younger one, try to make things right with your wife, she must have had great appeal to you 14 years ago.