So I am having 2 baby shower since my parents are divorced and I keep reading how the husband stays at the shower, Is that how it is I never heard that, and also my dad was so excited about the shower on his side of the family telling me how he's going to grill and all that is that proper or does it not matter?
2007-06-15 03:18:20 · 17 answers · asked by Alli 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You are so lucky to have your father be so excited! Congratulations!
Take advantage of it, it's 2007, break tradition if you want, especially if it's quality family time in anticipation of your baby!
2007-06-15 03:33:05 · answer #1 · answered by sarah l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had 2 showers because of my divorced parents as well. Both of my showers were co-ed. The first was just my dad's side of the family, male and female. The second was huge, family, friends, neighbors, male and female. We had a big dinner, cake, games. It was a lot of fun. And as an added benefit having the father of the baby there enables you to spend more time with some people rather than feeling obligated to run around and personally thank everyone and say good bye to each person when they leave. We split them up and that way I didn't feel overwhelmed. Congratulations on the baby! And do whatever you want for your shower. This is supposed to be one of the best events you'll have in life so do it your way. =)
2007-06-15 10:39:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your baby shower can be whatever you want it to be. Historically, it was just for females, but now, more and more, the dads are showing up at the end to also thank everyone for the gifts, etc. A friend of mine had a co-ed baby shower/picnic. The baby's dad and all his friends were there. I've been to another shower that was planned for after the baby and it was more like a wedding reception - with the parents and the baby there!
It is up to what you want!
2007-06-15 10:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by CASEY R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids are 13 yrs apart so my first baby shower was women only (that's how they were done then) and my second was couples and I loved it. My husband let me open most of the gifts and seeing his reaction was so much better than doing it alone. I will never give any one a shower without Dad and the boys being their. After we opened the gifts it was like any other gathering, the men disappeared to the pool room and the women cleaned the mess and chatted.
This shower is your shower and it is up to you as long as who ever is giving it too you asks your wants.
Have fun and good luck!
2007-06-15 10:35:25 · answer #4 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my point of view the father should be there. Just like he should be there for the birth of the child. The baby shower isn't for you it is for you and your husbands baby. As far as your dad cooking on the grill that should be fine. Usually at baby showers they just have finder foods. So if your dad wants to go all out then let him. He just wants to help out. Good luck with the shower!!
2007-06-15 10:24:44 · answer #5 · answered by asldkfalsdfkj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most dads are not at the shower, except at the end to thank everyone and start loading the car.
You can have dad at the shower the whole time and invite others to a "jack and jill" shower, where the men come. I went to one like that last weekend, which, by the way, my husband did not enjoy. Of course, he's also not looking forward to appearing at mine this weekend!
2007-06-15 10:45:57 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to throw a co-ed shower for my best friend, why not have the men there. My husband was at my shower but he was upstairs with the few men that were there, even though it was a women shower.
Co-ed showers are the new thing now! Go for it!
2007-06-15 10:35:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby showers are more of an American things and us Brits dont really tend to have them. Its your baby so its your choice how you would like things done. By the sounds of it you have a lovely family and you dont want to upset anyone but dont let this stress you out, Talk to the people involved and say how you would like it done. At the end of the day there are no set rules. All the best X
2007-06-15 10:26:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was a time when men left the domestic stuff to the ladies. That has now changed (at least for some men). It is now not only acceptable but by many men desirable to be involved in all aspects of child rearing. With these changes I think it is to be expected to see men involved even in baby showers. It changes the dynamic of the party but viva la difference!
2007-06-15 10:28:49 · answer #9 · answered by brotherlove@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last baby shower I was at was about 2 years ago, and my girlfriend's husband was there, as was mine (they were best friends), so I think its normal now for the dads to be there, too.......That's very cool that your dad is so excited about you having a baby!!! Have fun!!!
2007-06-15 10:28:15 · answer #10 · answered by nikki1162000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your time to celebrate this incredible blessing with the people who are important to you. Never mind what Martha Stewart or Emily Post have to say. Enjoy your day and if dad wants to be there, let him enjoy the day too. I have been to showers without dad and showers with dad and both ways its great as long as everyone has a smile on their face. Good Luck.
2007-06-15 10:23:30 · answer #11 · answered by Dillon's Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋