2007-06-15 02:15:26 · 38 answers · asked by Timmy-Lee 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
help bring up the child-you have made it and its not the baby's fault if you cant keep your pants on!!!!
2007-06-15 02:17:56 · answer #1 · answered by BscHons 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I'd ring the papers, 'cos it would be a miracle me being female!
Seriously though, I would have a nice long chat with pregnant lady and establish what she wants to do, tell her what you would like to see happen and talk it through, bear in mind that even if she is prepared for total anonimity (if you decide to keep this from your wife) if she decides to keep the baby you would still be liable to help financially support your child.
You don't say what your relationship is like with your wife. I would assume all is not well if you felt compelled to have an affair with another woman.
You need to take stock and decide who you want your future to be with, only then will you be able to make a decision that is best for yourself and those around you. However you look at it I think tough times are ahead.
2007-06-15 02:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by Adele P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you need to man up to it. I know you hate the sound of that but its the only right thing to do. If you love your wife or gf....then you need to explain yourself to her. But IN MY OPINION you really didnt love her whole heartedly if you had an affair. So you need to think it out long and hard as to which woman you want to be with. If it were me, and you had an affair and got someone else pregnant I wouldnt be with you. You are unfaithful and you dont need to be with her in the first place. But that is totally up to you and her. You really do need to man up about it though. Just be honest. If you dont already have kids with this woman then maybe you should move on to the one who is pregnant. Or at least take care of your child. I wish you the best of luck. Just be honest. Thats the best thing you can do right now.
@ Adidas babyblue.... that wasnt called for. If you cant put GOD in it in a NICE way then you had no business putting him in it at all! Some people dont appreciate it! ;-)
2007-06-15 02:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Tell your wife about the affair.
2. Talk to the woman you had the affair with about the baby.
3. Help with the baby.
4. Pay child support.
5. Hope that your wife stays with you.
6. If your wife leaves still be a man and continue helping with the baby.
It's not the babies fault that you couldn't keep your pants on until you got home to your wife.
2007-06-15 02:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Step up and be a man.
If you're married, admit the affair to your wife and let thing fall where they may. Wife will probably leave you, I know I would in that situation. But, obviously if you cared about your marriage you wouldn't have had an affair anyway.
Be there to support emotionally, physically and FINANCIALLY the girl you knocked up.
2007-06-15 02:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt have an affair in the first place. Why are you with someone if you need to cheat on them? Its a good signt the relationship has run its course if you want to sleep with someone else!!
Discuss the situation with the pregnant woman and the options you both have in the situation.
Break up with your partner and let her find someone worthy of her.
2007-06-15 02:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by emo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you already have a family and now you have another you need to make a decision between the 2. Its one or the other you can't have both. Decide on one, then move away from the other. But don't forget to pay child support
2007-06-15 02:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by Budapest1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU MUST BE SICK OF YOU'RE WIFE TO OF HAD A AFFAIR TO START WITH. I ADVISE YOU TELL YOU'RE WIFE HOW WOULD LIKE IT IF SHE HAD A AFFAIR AND WAS CARRYING ANOTHER MANS BABY. THE TRUTH COMES OUT IN THE END. WHO IS THIS WOMEN YOU HAVE BEEN SEEING DID SHE SAY SHE WANTED TO HAVE A CHILD. IT SOUNDS LIKE A RECIPE FOR DISASTER HAS THIS WOMEN TRIED TO TRAP YOU FOR YOU'RE MONEY. IT SOUNDS LIKE SHE IS A RIGHT SLAPPER. WHAT GOES ROUND COMES ROUND MATE. THEM WORDS WILL HAUNT YOU ONE DAY! HA HA FOR BEING A PRICK IN THE FIRST PLACE. REMEMBER YOU WILL PAY CHILD SUPPORT NO MATTER WHAT. GOD WORKS IN MYSTERIOUS WAYS YOU WILL GET YOU'RE JUST DESSERTS.
2007-06-15 02:33:39 · answer #8 · answered by clarrisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't ditch her. Though I would NEVER do such a thing as it's gonna screw her career and future prospects, I would at least support her throughout. If she went for an abortion, I would be there. If she was going to deliver the baby, I would be a loving father and love the baby as much as she does.
2007-06-15 02:25:58 · answer #9 · answered by phoenix 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ouch......see what happens when you fool around. Step up and face it like a man.....if you are man enough to play the game then you have to pay the price....whatever that is.
But whatever you do....learn something from this. Making a mistake once is one thing but to keep repeating the same one over and over is pure idiocy. Good Luck with this one
2007-06-15 02:34:30 · answer #10 · answered by southerngirl70 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends if you are married...But either way you need to step up and tell your wife the truth...You need to take resposiblity for the baby because well its your CHILD! And deserves a father no matter what the Circumstances are.
2007-06-15 02:25:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋