I worked for 18 years in Air Force as ground branch officer but could not make it to next rank for the reasons best known to my seniors. Whereas, I do qualify all my promotions exams and my seniors have been appreciating my work very often throughout my service. After this failure, feelings of anger, hurt and disappointment have crept down deep inside me with no recovery of this mental agony. I don’t have any skill to work elsewhere than a military job. Next year I would be forced to retired. This mental anguish keeps reminding me 24/7 that you are an incompetent person capable of doing nothing of any sort. At this time of turbulence in my life I am unable to fasten my seat belts. After one year, it would be a disastrous situation not only for me but for my family also. Your advice is requested how to get out of this psychological disorder and secure my future.
2007-06-15 02:06:05 · 3 answers · asked by Gillani 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
On a positive note, you will be retiring with full benefits which is super terrific ! Also won't you have the wonderful opportunity to go to college free on the GI bill?????? You have a whole year to begin to plan the rest of your life. You can be whomever you wish to be through education. I am interested in what the "disastrous situation" would be for you and your family. You have a year to plan. You wife can also use this time to get a skill and work along side of you. Plus you will always have the pension and all benefits that come with it. Count your blessings sir, you have plenty.
2007-06-15 02:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by sashali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me say thank you for your service to our country. I, too am a veteran of the Air Force and had hoped to make it my lifelong career. Instead, I was injured in my 4th year and was honorably medically discharged. I, too, felt like a failure and didn't know what I was going to do with my life. I was told I would be in a wheelchair by 30 yrs old. I am now 33 and still walking, although I am in constant pain. My advise to you is to look at all of your accomplishments over the years and don't focus on your one downfall. You have invested 18 yrs of your life to serving your country and I can't think of anything more admirable than that. You have many skills that you can use out in the working force. Think about what it is you really enjoy doing and the skills you have learned. You will have no problem finding a job. Please don't be so down on yourself. Again, focus on your accomplishments. You may need to talk to a counselor so that you can work through some of your depression and anxiety. A neutral person can really help you to look at things in a new light. I wish you lots of luck and know that you will do fine. Take care.
2007-06-15 02:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Do not measure self-worth based on your job or supervisors. You are more than "your job". See a counselor.
2. Retirement gives you the freedom to pursue other more rewarding/different opportunities...embrace it.
3. Look into training at community colleges/trade schools for your future after the military. Isn't there something you've always thought might be fun to do/learn? Start there.
4. Be thankful for the blessings you do have...count them!
2007-06-15 02:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by NOLady617 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋