Are we all just miserable?

Question

is being happy real? is it natural? i have happy moments, caused by endophins and such, but is it possible to have a happy time of your life?

Answer 1

take your life as it is and you will be happy.

Answer 2

I tend to believe it is a mind set or state... I'm 85% happy with life and who i am and what i want to be come what i have become!
yeah i don't make as much money as i would like but i'm not all about instant gratification either I look at the big picture...
being happy is natural look at kids with out a corrupted mind! do they look happy? do you think they care what so in so says..
as we grow older we add too many mental boarders and those can make one unhappy!
being happy is a choice!
i do think some humans have an endophine problem but overall it's a choice! about 2 years ago i was very unhappy just nothing went right! then i looked at the big picture and you know what the world does not turn for one human life is a group effort.. that can be hard to wrap your head around. but give it a try!
try not taking anything personal and see how the day goes! just brush it off... and beleive that you can be happy!
not every thing goes as plan sucks some times but overall it's the best thing that happend to me...
a web site that may help you soul search coping.org.

Answer 3

If you have shelter, warmth, food, water, education or job, family and friends and haven't lost a member of your family or experienced a tragedy - I don't think anybody has a real reason to be "miserable".
Yes, life has good and bad times. We can all feel a little under the weather or upset, but if you think about all of those starving in Africa, dieing in Iraq and the millions of children and animals being abused - then you realise how worse off you could be.
Believe me - Yesterday, I was so depressed and this morning too. Then I took the time to sit down and I thought "What am I doing? At least I have the opportunity to do this in the first place" I thought about all the millions of people out there suffering. My problem was no longer significant.
So - I think that its natural to experience BOTH happiness and sorrow.

Answer 4

Happiness will always have it's opposite - misery.

Happiness is more like temporary ego satisfactions. A relationship may make you happy but when it ends an unimagnable despair will follow, a good time or holiday will be followed by nostalgia and gloominess, success and money will only give temporary satisfaction until the ego craves more.

Happiness is dual and subject to the rule of opposites as it is controlled by ego.

Joy is different. It is unparalleled and has no opposite. Joy is will come when you can transcend ego and stop relying on "things" for your pleasure.

Instead of the constant and futile pursuit of things and ego attachement to them you will essentially be as free as a bird and joy will be with you.

Joy comes when you can accept each moment that comes in your life and are able to move into uncertainty without fear and live in the present instead of torn between a past / future orientated despair. Enjoy things, but do not become attached to them by Ego. You can still love but it will not be a clingy, needy love controlled by ego.

That is my view on it.

Answer 5

When you have genuine desire for something, and you have an ambition built round that desire so that it is kept and matured. Then if you set out to fulfil that ambition, to achieve something you have a dream of achieving, you meticulously plan, and carefully put your plans into action, then upon your success what you experience is true happiness. You have taken a risk of failing, you know patience and what does it take to make efforts, now you know you have succeeded and you know you deserve it, which is the most important point. This, in my view, is the only secure and reliable way to be happy.

True happiness does not evaporate moments of time, leaving you sad and depressed as you were ever before, true happiness lasts, it linger in your thoughts and memories for long time to come, making you happy even when you see no reason to be.

And a life that is lived like this, built like this, in my view, is never a miserable life.

Answer 6

Yes, being happy is real, and also very natural. A lot of people in this world are miserable, because we are largely taught to live in fear and negativity.

Our beliefs get passed down generation by generation, and come from people like our parents and teachers. These are just people who pass on what they have learned, to us. Increasingly, our beliefs come from things like glossy magazines (ie: thin = beautiful, not necessarily true either) or media news (ie: London is being terrorised by gun crime etc. Again, not necessarily true)

Ways to feel happy and cultivate it in your life include being open minded. Think good things about people and situations. Focus on people's good qualities, or the positive attributes to circumstances such as your job, health home life and so forth.

Remember that there is no such thing as a fact, only a suggestion based on opinion. So the next time somebody says that French people are rude, Londoners are unfriendly, the world is going to hell and so on, think that it is a suggestion based on their opinion, and need not be yours'.

Your experience of French people, Londoners, the mother-in-law, love, work, the wider world etc will be yours and uniquely yours. Where somebody has encountered negativity, you may encounter something a lot better.

Question beliefs, don't just accept them.

Another way is to count your blessings. I don't mean this in a strictly religious sense either. When you go to bed tonight, run through the events of the day and pick out the good things that have happened to you, the good things you like about your life, the good news you have received. This is counting your blessings, and once you have started you will probably find that there is more than you first thought.

This begins to cultivate a state of mind where you appreciate the good in your life, and focus your mind on it. You begin to concentrate on what makes you happy rather than what depresses you. And as they say, count your blessings and watch them multiply.....

The thoughts we think do influence the way we feel. Have you ever had a day which starts off normally enough, butt hen spirals downwards after one or two negative events? Maybe the traffic was bad on the way to work, or somebody said something aggravating. A sense of 'here we go again, it's going to be one of those days' soon sends you on a downward slump. Nip feelings like this in the bud before they happen by thinking optimistically, and you turn your day around.

A lifetime of negative thinking also has physical effects on our bodies. Think thoughts of tiredness and misery for a few hours, and you do begin to feel tired and miserable. Continue this for one or two weeks, and you may come down with a cold or food poisoning etc. The negativity will be having a draining effect on your immune system and making you feel run down.

Keep this up for a whole lifetime, and it will probably self-perpetuate until you a diagnosed with a cancer of some kind. The growth people speak of is often created by a bad energy form in your body, and that always starts off in the mind. In today's society, we have a very strong thoughtform that old age equals physical decline and misery. So many people buy into this and it eats away at their bodies and minds.

Use mind over matter to your benefit. If you deliberately think thoughts of being fit, active, energetic, healthy, happy etc, then this will eventually become your thoughtform, and will produce a very healthy body and mind.

Happiness really is a state of mind. The people who are habitually miserable are usually people who don't bother to eliminate the negatives in their minds. They are 'mental lepers' who have fallen into unproductive habits. Cultivate a state of mind where you appreciate what is in your life, think big and optimistically, and fight off negatives, and you too will be happy and contented.

Answer 7

i think happy and sad are just emotions that come and go and are up and down like rollercoasters. no one ever happy all the time nor should be, being sad, angry, frustrated are just apart of life and help us learn more about ourselves.

when people say live happily ever after or he has a happy good life i believe they mistake happy for satisfying.

i think people can have satisfying lives rather hten happy.

its possible to have happy moments but not a large portion of your life happy. even the most weathiest, problem free people in the world are always happy.

Answer 8

OK Amanda, this will take a while, so put up your feet and listen hard..

It is said that what ever we think of in our daily lives is because we were programmed by circumstances, friends, company, parents, media. In reality it does not really matter to us. If you had no one to show off your new Ferrari to, would you still buy it? If no one was there to appreciate your new hair-do, would you still get one? Just think about it.

Just like we train dogs to respond to stimuli, like fetch the newspaper when I blow the whistle. So are we all programmed. We are programmed to start abusing when we find some one cheating us. We are programmed to feel miserable when some thing 'bad' happens to us. In reality, nothing 'bad' ever happens to us.

If we accept that what ever happened is for our own good and whatever will happen will be for our own good. God is our best friend and he will never let us down. If we stray our path of righteousness and purity, then he will punish us so we return to our correct path. But yes, you have to pay for all your deeds, right here in this lifetime. There is no escape from that.
So you must accept whatever 'bad' has happened to you as the 'pay back' for whatever bad you have done in your life. it is really easy to accept this. Look back and you will realize why this is happening with you.

Also if we are able to understand this and step above all our 'programming' so to speak, you will realize that there is no misery. We are made of pure happiness, and that is why all of us are always seeking happiness, because that is our pure form.

Now how to achieve it. You have to take refuge under a realized soul. He/she will show you the way. I can reccomed a few books that will make you understand what I am saying.
1. ' The monk who sold his ferrari' - Robin Sharma
2. ' The power of now' - Tolle

We should quit indulging in self gratification, and aim to reach a higher level in life. All your miseries are self created. Only that which gave you happiness is now making you miserable. Like you would never be miss a friend if you never knew him/her in the first place. Now he/she is gone so it makes you miserable. Once you realize this, break the mold, step out of your self-created misery. Seek true happiness. It is easy to find true happiness, very easy, but alas, most of us are looking for it in the wrong direction -'outside' and in worldly pleasures, whereas true happiness is inside our heart.

Just sit back and think of the 10 times in your lifetime you wer the happiest, truly happy. You will realize that it had nothing to do with the external things, but with just the way you 'saw' the external world, your perception of it.

Life is what we can imagine it to be. Imagine it to be something nice, and your life is made.

Practice Yoga, it brings peace, and a constant supply of endorphins .

Be happy.

Answer 9

Happiness is real and natural, as much as it is a state of mind.

You become happy because there are things you believe that you are happy about. It doesn't matter how significant or insignificant they may be. Happiness only comes from believing in it along with your other values. (Don't worry, it's just natural for us humans.)

WE CREATE HAPPINESS FOR OUR SELVES while we seek more meaningful things in life. For the meantime, enjoy those happy moments. You may not have them in the next ten years! Hahahahaha

Answer 10

Happiness is real because its one of the emotions we feel. Some people are more happy than others, even in stressful situations and I think this is genetic and depends on life experience. A peaceful mind creates happiness.

Answer 11

well im a HAPPY Person and i think there is a such thing as having a happpy time in youre life well im really happy right know b/c im going to go camping today but happiness is real and it will forever be real